How important do you think it is to marry someone with the same religion?

[Political_dude]

Very Important

Important up to small extent

Not Important At All

[ADadAtHome]

This one always gets me. If you are ACTUALLY religious it should be Very Very important. Religion is the center of religious peoples lives. It dictates how they act, think and view the world. I can't imagine committing to spending the rest of my life with someone who doesn't think the same as me on what are the vitally important parts of my life.

Now if you are talking about how important is it for someone's whose grandmother made them go to bible school at a luthern church to marry someone whose grandmother made them go to a methodist church then that's not at all talking about someone with the same religion.

I can't imagine spending my whole life with someone who thinks the God I worship with everything I am and who I give my whole life in service to... is fake. So if you genuinely are religious, I think it is absolutely vitally important to marry someone of the same religion or at least agnostic (meaning unsure, not to be confused with atheist meaning belief there is no god).

And yes as people mentioned, if you introduce kids into the equation, I don't know how the hell you raise kids with someone who doesn't share the same moral ground as you. I mean I was a Methodist pastor, am married to a lifelong 'active in her faith' Methodist woman who I see eye to eye with on virtually every religious/moral aspect and we still have our occasional disagreements with how to rear our child. I can't imagine the tension if we disagreed on the important things in our lives.

[AlexLM]

It's paramount. Marriage is vastly different from being friends (obviously) or even being in a relationship. The reason I say that, is that it's very possible and sometimes easy, depending on the person, to get along and be friends with someone who has a different religion or belief system.
Marriage, however, is wildly more intimate and interactive. It's very important that the two of you are compatible in as many area as possible.
In marriage, you represent each other; you become each other. If any, and I mean ANY conflicting view points in your beliefs exist, they will emerge, and only become more evident as time goes on.
Essentially it's a recipe for disaster.

[btbc92]

It depends on morals, views, values, principals, beliefs, faith etc about love, sex, marriage, etc. Is this person extremely radicalized in religion? Does this person have conflicting views and values that oppose mine? Is me teaching children in the things of God a problem? Including is he going to 'fight' with me about it? I grew up and was born into that environment. It's overall wise to date and marry somebody who is in the same faith as you. But some people are not interested in dating you even if you hold the same faith and beliefs. This is where the problem lay at besides somebody who does things outside of what they claim they believe in. So you have to watch who you get involved with and don't fall for that at any cost.

[Anonymous]

I honestly do not care about that at all since I'm not raising my kids religious. A child is also a human being who has the right to think by himself when the time comes, his parents shouldn't force a religion or any ideology on him, that's not their duty. Parents should teach their kids to make their own decisions based on good moral principles that they should also teach them. I will teach mine moral principles and a way of thinking and that would be their choice, their decision when they're old enough to make real decision they will not regret later.

[hasrett]

If I didn't plan on having kids, if would be of no importance whatsoever, as long as he wouldn't try to convert me (I'm not religious). I would respect his religion. And I would expect him to respect me non being religious in return.
But since I do want kids some day, it would be a problem, because how to decide a religion for a baby. It would be too complicated. I could not spend my life practicing something I don't believe in just for the sake of my husband, and I wouldn't expect him to give up his religion for me. I just don't see it working.

[DaTruth01]

would you marry someone who thought your parents were a bunch of hobos and shit on them daily for not having a lot of brand clothes or because they dont have college degrees? how about someone who thinks you're a dumb fuck for liking green, cause to them blue rules and the rest are shit...

if you dont marry someone with the same religion you will constantly have to tolerate being critcised and even sometimes insulted, plus if you ever have kids they will be torn between being on their moms side or fathers side, not to mention that religion impacts traditions, a western christian woman/man will probably think the things done in the east by muslims are horrfying, while muslims who marry a western person will think they are a bunch of crazy fucks with no dignity or honor.

no it doesn't work.

[btbc92]

This is far from the truth. This is about personal values and morals. There are Christians who have sex outside of marriage, smoke pot, etc and thinks nothing is wrong. There are carnal Christians and spiritual Christians. A carnal person attracts and wants a carnal person. A spiritual person attracts and wants a spiritual person. But if you have similar values, anybody can get along and have a wonderful marriage. So it's about what you want and needs in a partner. And whether or not teaching the child something different than what you agree with is going to hinder you from raising your child. Overall, you don't date and be with somebody who doesn't respect you and desire to cherish you with those beliefs.

[DaTruth01]

@btbc92 if you have different religons the other person will never respect it, religions contradict not even saying whos right or wrong, christianity beleives in jesus christ as the son of god (and god himself really) and the holy trinity and that jesus died and rose from dead and sacrficed himself for us, and that he never got married and lived a pure life.
islam believes in mohhamaed who was their prophet, a , military leader, he got married 9 times and forbid muslims from doing stuff that christians do, muslims also believe that jesus christ never died on the cross and that was some who looked like him cause god won't allow his son to be killed, also they dont believe he is god or holy, he is just an ordinary man, a prophet.

bhuddism, hinduism, taosim... etc have their own beliefs system and no matter how similiar they sound all of these religions clash at some point and if you want to believe in one you will have to disbelieve the other.

[DaTruth01]

@btbc92 how can you live with a person who can never believe what you believe or even think tis remotely okay because it contradicts with what he/she believes? it can never be done.
and dont forget kids, what kind of religons will they have in the future? whose right and whose wrong? why should one of the parents watch their children grow as members of another religion that they dont believe in.

it can work if both are athiest , but if they are not it can't happen.

[btbc92]

My late mother was a Christian, my father is not. I don't know what is your personal issue is if others want to marry them. It is their right. If you personally don't, that is your business. This doesn't apply to everybody. And not everybody that is Christian or believe in God is religious.

Again, it must be an agreement between the couple. You don't force your children into something they personally don't want any part of. But it is still the parent's duty to teach them. Apparently, it sounds like you haven't seen stable marriages with people of different faiths. Not everybody can do it, but it doesn't mean it can't be done.

"how can you live with a person who can never believe what you believe or even think tis remotely okay because it contradicts with what he/she believes? it can never be done." IT CAN be done. Everything is a choice. I never said that it was ideal. I overall said that you don't want somebody who holds different values. As I said before, you have Christians

[btbc92]

who doesn't follow the Bible, but call themselves Christians. You have the same thing with practicing and nonpracticing. The problem with people is their lack of patience and love for the person they claim they like or love. This is why you start out as friends first, THEN see if you can date. People don't need the heartache over something you chose to hide because you want somebody to accept you.

[DaTruth01]

@btbc92 you're farhter wasn't christian? highly unlikely or he wouldn't have married in a church infront of a priest, and if they got married according to your dad and your mom never converted then iam sorry theyre still not married cause in every religion both have to believe in it , no matter how you look at it it doesn't work dont lie to yourself and bring examples that dont even make sense.

[btbc92]

He's slept with over 40+ women, drank and did all sorts of crazy. I don't have to lie to myself, when I know and lived trough it. Again, do I agree with some of it? NO. But if people want to marry, let them marry and it's our job to stay OUT of it. Again, you don't have to do it. Doesn't mean you curse others marriages because you don't think it works. Plus, who said they got married in a church? Goes to show you, you know nothing. They got married at city hall and the reception on a beach!

First of all, once you have sex you are legally married in God's eyes. So what are you talking about? That's why premarital sex is a sin for a reason. Religion have 0 to do with reality.

[DaTruth01]

@btbc92 u contradict yourself its not even fun arguing with you, u literally screw yourself without the help of anyone else.

[btbc92]

Oh, and HOW did I contradict myself? Because I said that it is possible for people with opposing beliefs can but shouldn't for the sake of it? Why have 'fun' arguing? You think I'm going to waste my time with somebody like you if you refuse to learn something? I just said that it's not wise, but it is choice. Marriage takes two to make it work. It doesn't matter so much on just what you BELIEVE. If your not willing to put in work you have business being married, religious or not. Period. Nobody has time getting hurt, used and killed over something that could be avoided.

[btbc92]

no business*

[madhatters4]

it is entirely dependent on how sort of strictly the people follow the religions and whether or not there are big divisions in the two religions that would prevent the two from finding common ground in a relationship

so it's really dependent on the religions and the people's adherence to those religions

[MissChocomilk]

Very important if you think not to fight over your religion's issue, no mocking and live peaceful life with both families won't try to hate or kill each others. Also important and no headache over kids' religions later.

I think magical happens at times when married with other religions. But I think thats what love is. Love never knows boundaries. Its pure.

[JimRSmith]

Matters to me, yeah.

I've already got different nationality and different native language in the equation, without mixing in different religion, too.

[Anonymous]

It amazes me that religious people to this day can still claim to be morally superior. Especially for instances Christians are still trying to oppress other religious, yet claiming that they themselves are the oppressed and victimized ones in the world.

Remember the Salem witch burning, how about the crusades, how about recently when cake shop owners refused to bake wedding cakes for gay and lesbian couples. Claiming it was against their beliefs and that God or jesus would be on their side, f%$king people don't even know what their own "faith" is about.

The bible itself is so full of contradictions, yet their are people, creationists who say it is the literal word of god. Yet "God" didn't write the bible, historians have dug up evidence that random unknown people were the ones who wrote the various passage in the Bible.

Just my opinion.

[karahiri]

It depends on how important religion is to you. Frankly, marrying someone of the same religion would just make things less dramatic for me with my family.

[Arthurwilliams]

I believe in god but i dont believe in any religion and am totally against all religion (born christian), my belief is based on different aspects of different religious teachings. i just accept that part that i think is right without blindly believing what priests and moulavis throw at ur face.

Question is, what is the probability of me finding someone with sinilar thinking, possibly 0%... lol

[Synttacks]

Probably not 100% on track with you and I'm not gay but others like you (us) exist.

[DaTruth01]

i do know a girl like you actually... but she is kinda easy

[Arthurwilliams]

@synttacksWhat do u mean, im not gay or anything? was talking about my religious beliefs

[Arthurwilliams]

@Datruth01 thats hard to believe, but id like to meet her

What do u mean wen u say, she's easy?

[DaTruth01]

She was born christian and says she believes in god but in "Religions" as she puts it, she doesn't care what is your religion as long as she likes you.
but on the other hand she really doesn't care at all if her actions give her a reputation or if guys lie about having the same beliefs just to sleep with her , also she seems to easily jump from man to man, iam not saying she has sex with a lot of men but she sure acts like she does.

[Arthurwilliams]

Haha, starting to like her already.

[Arthurwilliams]

Seems like an open minded person, that doesn't make her free or nything, i like open minded people like dat, instead or idiots caved in inside their own minds

[DaTruth01]

far from that, naive more than open minded

[Arthurwilliams]

Different from the flock at least

[Ghost_Woof]

The reason why it is important is because a relationship is hard enough as it is. So having major world views in opposite directions it'd just going to create a divide between you.

[SagCutie]

Some people have a religion but don't follow the beliefs just the title... in that case yes it can work. But probably if they really did all the things religion say do or don't No it wouldn't work someone would have to convert

[Christine_]

It depends on the person. You can be a casual Christian alike my mother (I don't have a belief btw) if you can be extremists. Regardless of your belief. So no, the belief doesn't matter to me, how you handle it matters.

[Anon85]

Well I want kids and I don't want to say goodbye to my wife. Both of those pursuits will only be successful if we share the same faith and values

[Lovemycountryboy]

It is extremely important. Because say if those couple had kids they would fought over religion... and etc

[FriendlyDrugDealer]

I’m a Buddhist so it’s high unlikely I would date or marry someone with similar beliefs but I would gladly welcome it.

It’s not a big deal but they definitely have to respect my beliefs

[pickyourcliche]

Less important than your values. I'm Buddhist, I'd have no problem dating a christian, for example, if they had the same values so we didn't clash on LGBT rights and that sort of thing.

[J4Zzi3]

It's all depends on how religious you and your couple.
if both of you are not really religious it won't be a problems at all
On the other hand it's gonna be hard when one/both of you are religious person.

[txdiie_]

very important
how would i raise my children if him and i have different religious beliefs

[tartaarsaus]

The chance that I'll find a Jewish women that I would like to marry outside Israel or the USA is pretty small so I've to be realistic about it. Important but to a small extent

[SarahsSummer]

Probably depends on ones culture/country but here in the US, it’s not really a driving factor.

[RationalMale]

It's very important, if you are actually part of the religion you say you are. If you're a fool or you don't believe your religion, you'll marry inter religiously just fine.

[SubZeroViking]

I doubt that I'll ever find a woman with the same religious beliefs as me. So it doesn't matter to me xD

[Lava_]

What are your religious beliefs?

[SubZeroViking]

I'm a believer of the Norse mythology. I have yet to find someone besides me and my best friend who has that belief! 😅