Would you marry someone, who loves you more than you do to them? But you care so much for them?

[Mistynic]

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Thanks everyone for sharing opinions. I meant if you marry a guy that loves you more than you do. But you still love him and care for him. You can always grow to love him more, if only there chemistry at the beginning of the relationship. If their is no feelings whatsoever that I don't recommend going of with them. But if the roles where reverse if a women loves a guy more them maybe the guy won't stay with her because men is about the action and will act of impulse, the women act on emotions.

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+1 y

I am not saying all guys are like that, it's what I see from people I know.

[macdaddy36]

You need to love someone to marry them but if you find a man you love who loves you more in your mind you need to keep him because that will be the man to never let the love die he will be the one during rough situations to never give up and walk away. Its always better for you to feel like your partner loves you more because then you will always try harder to put his needs above your own and over time you two will grow deep admiration and respect for one another

[Mistynic]

Thanks for sharing your opinion that exactly what I mean.

[Mistynic]

Sometimes it is better to marry someone who loves you more than you do, but if the love is equal that good aswell too.

[Anonymous]

I did that. It's one of my biggest regrets. I can honestly say that I didn't actually love the guy until after the divorce when we became friends again. I came to expect everything he did for me, took it all for granted, and didn't appreciate, or respect him. He gave everything so freely and didn't care if I had earned it.

[Mistynic]

So you love him now?

[Mistynic]

In hindsight, maybe the marriage thing was not right for both of you together.

[Opinion Owner]

That's exactly what I'm trying to say, that I was wrong. You shouldn't do it if you don't feel the same way he does.

[Mistynic]

Yeah I understand. I would not marry someone who I have no feelings whatsoever. But if I know I could fall in love with him in the future, like grow to love him then I would. As long if the chemistry is there to begin with. Even though the situation did not work out for you both, it's good your both friends.

[MlleCake]

My friend did that. He loves his wife, but he was always IN LOVE with me, long before they got together.

Now he's ruined their marriage.

I will not marry someone I am not deeply and passionately in love with.

[Mistynic]

That is true. But women are more likely to grow to love someone, if there is somewhat chemistry to begin with. As we are all about the emotions. Men are most likely not to grow to love a women, unless he is already in love with her. As men usually go with their impulse/mind and attractions. Meaning they are all about the actions.

[Roadrunner_650]

It is easier for a relationship to stay intact is the guys the one putting in work if the female is the one interested then as soon as the guy actually find somebody that he likes she will be dumped the way the society is guys go after girls and they put in work to win their heart the other way around I don't really know much about it but I think is the girl is after the guy and the guy doesn't feel it it's a lose situation

[Mistynic]

That true

[HarrisDK]

Definitely yes cuz you know they love you more and at the end of the day theyll commit to you more, with endless love, respect and sincerity and appreciate and admire you.

[Mistynic]

That is true.

[Anonymous]

If you dont love him, dont marry him. Imagine bit being part of his life anymore? Find out if you love him deeper in your heart. It doesn't need to be the first stage of love. There are many stages. You know.. older couples love eachother. But its not like, that they have a crush. Better you leave him now than when you are married. So decide and try to make
your choice as best as possible. So that both have the least pain.

[Rhys_r15]

No I wouldn't. Any form of long term relationship has to be reciprocal. If you don't care for him as much as he cares for you, it'll just lead to divorce. I would suggest you think about your relationship with this guy because there is a clear inbalance in feelings towards one another and that isn't going to work out.

[syedhsnali]

Too much love is dangerous.

But if they truly love me then it's worth the risk.

[Mistynic]

Exactly. I always hear that when people are so in love it does not work out (Not saying every relationship is like this).

[syedhsnali]

Yup.
But you know, what's life without risk and adventure!
I might sound a bit optimistic.

Love is what people spend years to find. And if you think you've found it then go for it. That doesn't mean you'll be insecure and irresponsible from now on. No.

It means that you'll be faced with more challenges but you'll face each one together with your spouse!

[Mistynic]

Yes i agree. It's good to be optimistic.

[JonDoe1985]

First off, I don't know how you measure love. With that said, if that's a real thing to quantify, no. What's the point if in not equally interested? Maybe in an arranged marriage someone loves one now than the other, but aside from financial reasons, I see no point.

[LegateLanius]

It would be worth it for me. Imnever going to be in that situation anyway.

[Mistynic]

Don't doubt yourself or you could both equally love eachother.

[BadAssHunter]

No? That's like marrying the guy you friendzoned...

[Mistynic]

I know. But it can happen sometimes. If your hurt by a guy from a previous relationship and the current guy loves you more and the right guy for you. You can always grow to love him even more, but you care about him. I know someone who is loved her ex more than anything, but it did not work out now she's with someone who she can laugh with and have in common with and they are engaged and had a baby. It does work. Personaly I won't go with a guy I friend zoned. But want a guy who loves me more.

[BadAssHunter]

Yeah, it can but that doesn't mean it's right? How would you feel if your SO didn't love you as much back? That's terrible. I wouldn't marry a guy who I don't share mutual feelings.

[BadAssHunter]

Just because I guy hurt me in the past doesn't mean I'll go and settle for less. I never take what I can get. I take what I want and need.

[Mistynic]

I would love him, but it can happened in some relationship that the guy can love you more.

I would not settle for less, as last year this guy said he loves me when I told him I wanted to be friends to begin with. But I did not have no feelings or chemistry whatsoever and he seemed controlling, so I told him we are not right for eachother. So I do have some limits. I would go for a guy I dont have feelings for.

[BadAssHunter]

I don't get that at all bit to each their own.

[BadAssHunter]

Tbh its starting to sound like insecurity to me.

[Mistynic]

I mean i wouldn't go for a guy I have zero feelings for

[Tiffers2154]

No. Thats what my ex husband did to me. Enough said.

[Dreamweaver671]

@StellaGreenEyes Hinsight is 20/20. But you reasoning and justifation shows more about love and commitment than I have seen on here. I don't know if I should shead a tear or celebrate youbas a person.

[StellaGreenEyes]

I’d rather have him then the hindsight...

[sparklefairy]

No I'd be Fucking honest with them instead of a lying fucking bitch

[Mistynic]

Well you can always grow to love them even more. But if people was in love with their ex and had a bad experience. Some want someone who loves them more.

I am not saying if you don't like them to marry them. I would not date a guy I don't feel compatible with or no chemistry.

[sparklefairy]

Oh OK yeah it's also hard to measure exactly how much someone loves someone... There isn't really a method

[Mistynic]

Yeah that true their isn't a measure. But you can tell if they do.

[sparklefairy]

Sometimes yes sometimes no

[Mistynic]

Yes true

[Mistynic]

Depends if the person shows it a lot

[TacosRAwesome]

I'd probably consider it. Especially if we got along really well.

[Juxtapose]

No marriage EVER for me but yeah. I'll stay with her. Sounds like a sweet gig.

[Mistynic]

Would you? For example if a another women you have a crush on and you are married. Would you still be with her or go for the crush?

[Juxtapose]

I'd stay with my wife. Love is unfaltering even when it seems inconvenient at the moment. That's why it's important to choose wisely when you commit.

I really have no respect for people that jump away from commitment. If I pledge to be with someone for life then I am going to stay with them through thick and thin, so long as they do the same. Bad times come and go, crushes on others come and go.

Loyality is highly underrated.

[Mistynic]

Good way of saying it

[Pocahontas2000]

Yes I would rather marry a man like that

[Mistynic]

Yeah I heard it's better to have a guy that loves you more than you do

[Dreamweaver671]

@Mistynic why do you say that

[Mistynic]

@Dreamweaver671 I know this course worker who was married and her husband treated her with no respect and he cheated and now married the person he cheated on her with.

Also I know a relative who she loved her ex, but it did not work out. But now she's with a guy she can laugh with and got lots in common with. Now he's her fiancé and they have a baby.

Lastly I was told to found someone who loves me more. This guy i met I knew he liked me more, but I did not want to commit as he was too much. But if I am somewhat attracted to the guy and care for him why not.

[Mistynic]

Regarding to the first paragraph the lady who was cheated on, married another guy. Who's she was not sure about. As he seem to nice and caring. Now there married. He loves her more than she does. First she was wary, probably did not want to get her heartbroken and she seems to love him more now.

[StellaGreenEyes]

No, but I should have.

[Dreamweaver671]

Why?

[Mistynic]

@Dreamweaver671 sometimes it's better to be with a guy that loves you more.

[StellaGreenEyes]

Because I threw away love. I was young and thought love should be more like a movie or a book. But what I had with him was real, I was just to blind to see it at the time. I’ve never found anything that real since him.

And it’s not that the man should love the woman more, it’s finding someone who loves you, who you love too and holding onto it with everything you have.

[umichgoblue22]

I would if I were a girl

[Hiilo]

Probably

[GreenGold1992]

Of course I would.

[guyuser2]

Yes
Obviously.

[ATurkishGirl]

Yea i would :)