Is the term "Happy wife, happy life" true?

[Kelly_aleksandra]

[Anonymous]

Happy wife, Happy life... lets break that down
Happy wife does not mean that she is happy only because her husband is being her slave, or doing everything she wants.
She is happy because:
1. She has enough sleep
2. She has enough empathy given to her (from counselor or friends or other family members)
3. She has her psychological/mental, emotional and physical health taken cared of by her making time for it... reading good self help books, exercising or taking long walks, exploring and stimulating her life with happiness from traveling, hobbies, sports and religion

Happy life: what does this mean? Ok so the wife is happy because she does 1, 2 and 3. She has a happy life and she is happy because she made herself happy.
Her kids sleep on time, because she scheduled them, so then she sleeps on time. Meaning, happy kids, happy wife, happy life.
Her husband and her have no marriage problems because she reads all the books on how to have a good marriage, and she empathizes with him, encourages him and supports him by taking care of everything including all the finances. She does EVERYTHING, so he doesn't have to worry about anything. She is happy she is in control of everything, and knows everything is going well. he is happy because he doesn't have to worry about anything since he trust his wife and can go and do his job/career and then hobbies without care.

All you other people who thinks weird shit... well that's the shit you feed yourself.

[masterSir]

So screw the man's happiness?

[lumos]

Depends how you interpret the term. It could be interpreted loosely as having a happy marriage means having a happy life, like the successful marriage is the reflection of, or the result of, your own happiness. It could also be interpreted as the opposite, meaning that if you keep your wife happy, you too will be happy. Either because bringing happiness to others is satisfactory, or because your wife won't make your life a living hell if she's unhappy lol.
Anyway, the first interpretation (being happy will reflect well on your marriage) I think is true. Usually when people are unhappy or depressed, it starts affecting their relationships at some point as well. In terms of the second interpretation (keeping your wife happy will make you happy in return) I think is true to an extent, most good people do find it enjoyable to keep others happy. But this could also become harmful, if you sacrifice too much for your wife and she isn't willing to do the same back. It's a two-way street, she should also do what she can to keep you happy. For the third interpretation (an unhappy wife will make your life a living hell) I think is kinda true, but not in all situations.
Bottom line is, being happy together with your wife is going to make your life happy overall. But your happiness shouldn't be dependent on another person, nor should you sacrifice your own happiness to keep them happy.

[masterSir]

Just because the wife is happy doesn't mean he is

[Studying_with_tea]

Very true
If the wife isn’t happy, that means the environment is negative, and I am not saying the husband is bad or whatever.

If the wife is unhappy, it means she won’t be able to give the affection to others, she will not have good control over her anger or most likely can’t communicate her feelings properly,

If that’s the case, then other family members, including the husband would become or are the same way.

If they are unwilling to get to know each other, it all equals to unhappy life

[masterSir]

So no responsibility on the wife to please her husband?

[azzntittiz]

If you make the right woman happy, she will make you happy.

[Kelly_aleksandra]

Whoever disliked this, is trash, how could you disagree

[CandacePerry]

Finding Mr right or Miss Right is very rare these days but I did met my current boyfriend on facebook.

[Hal2002]

I have friends coworkers and acquaintances try to feed me, the Happy Wife, Happy Life crap a lot. Especially when they are doing things they hate and are making themselves unhappy, so the wife is happy.

I was in a marriage for 12 years, where my wife was happy while I was far from happy with the state of our relationship and marriage.

We all have to sometimes do thing we don't want to or like, to please a partner. But when you are doing that everyday, to keep someone happy there is something wrong.

I deal with a woman on a regular bases, that is always going on about how great her marriage and lifestyle is. How her husband does all these things to make her happy, she is clueless as to how miserable her husband is and how he hates the lifestyle they live and the people in her social circle.

unfortunately to many women are like this wife, as long as they are happy. They do not see or care, about if their husband is also happy. Ask any married man what things make his lady happy, and most will be able to tell you a few things that make her happy. Ask most wives what makes her husband happy, and most will tell you things that make her happy that the husband does to please her.

[Kelly_aleksandra]

It needs to be a balance of equality in the relationship/marriage where both partners are happy

[specialone101]

In my culture (which I hardly agree) guys are just there to protect and provide girls
Like whats the point of a man if cannot make his wife happy at first place? I've seen it... lived it and gonna follow the rule based on the community that I live in and it is 100% true
First: bad or bitchy wives make your life hell
Second: a guy's redemption is when his wife is happy in my daily culture... so basically people who grow up in communities like this they just wanna make a simple family and live a simple small passionate life in happiness... thats why a happy wife = a happy life

[Summeroflove]

To one extent but if you’re bending over backwards in a one sided relationship that’s not happy… You can’t make someone happy who will never be happy. Don’t try.

[djmzes]

These four words have to converted into four books, but people nowday do not have time to read it rather read magazine "bad wife. Bad life", because it is easy to lie but difficule to say the truth.

[Kelly_aleksandra]

Agree with the second one

[djmzes]

Good

[FriendlyDrugDealer]

To certain degree, if you have a happy surrounding then your life should be less stressful.

Now I do try to make my main lady happy as possible but I’m realistic, if she starts trying to talk down to me or something to make her feel better or because she didn’t get what she wants then I will happily escort her to the door

[Kelly_aleksandra]

Your username is jokes

[FriendlyDrugDealer]

Thanks 🙏 🙃

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[Kelly_aleksandra]

Fight me

[2opaz]

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[bacca400]

No. Everyone must be happy for a relationship to work. It takes 2 people to make it work, but only one to mess it up. Each person has basic needs for happiness, and that's why compatibility is so important in certain areas. A relationship that is one way only is doomed to fail.

[silverqueen]

It implies that the husband has to be the woman’s slave to be happy. So I don’t think it’s true.

[silverqueen]

Only when the guy is stupid enough to marry a girl that uses him that way.

[Kelly_aleksandra]

What if the relationship was equally balanced and both partners were happy

[silverqueen]

@kelly In that case, yes! That’s how it should be

[Kelly_aleksandra]

@silverqueen i agree

[silverqueen]

There’s a difference between disagreeing with someone and being unhappy. You can compromise and adapt to each other’s lifestyles and be happy. That’s how marriages succeed. If marrying someone was about constant nagging, no one would want to last in a marriage.

[Kelly_aleksandra]

PREACH @silverqueen i totally agree, thats part what a relationship is!

[silverqueen]

That’s ONE point of view, it’s not the “ultimate male point of view.” Also you did mention that “When you get two people with slightly different views on the importance of things you’re going to get one person nagging the other”. This isn’t the case if the person is mature and responsible, enough to adapt to the lifestyle of the other. Again, this is how marriages succeed.

Successful marriages = Happy life (they both need to be happy and I don’t think one of them has to necessarily nag the other).

[Kelly_aleksandra]

@CuriousGeorge07 and we are saying that "nagging" is something that you would have to deal with when being in a relationship. and too be fair some men nag quite a bit without even noticing

[silverqueen]

@kelly In my personal experience, men nag a lot more than women. Lol but of course everyone shares different experiences, that’s fine. It just has to be based on the person’s maturity level

[Kelly_aleksandra]

MEN NAG AND COMPLAIN SO DAMN MUCH!

[silverqueen]

@curiousgeorge I never mentioned that “having a different view to a potential person on something means you’d eliminate them as a possibility”. Didn’t mention nor implied that. Where did you get that from, May I ask?

Also, I don’t have to be married in order to know very basic and common sense stuff about marriage. In your original comment you stated that there will ALWAYS be nagging when someone disagrees with the other person. You even said “it’s a fact.” And I simply said, No not necessarily. You don’t have to nag about something you disagree with. You have to learn to adapt and compromise

[silverqueen]

@curiousgeorge, Well I mean there’s also the logical fallacy wherein men accuse women of being emotional and not rational. So I guess that is just the way some men (cough cough) end up arguing when things don’t go their way

[silverqueen]

Both should adapt to each other. Lol. I never said (again, you’re putting words in my mouth) that they should completely submit to the other’s views.

You’re 38, but you are in need of some reading comprehension classes...

[silverqueen]

@guywithissues Some men think they know everything hahaha. Thanks for pointing that out

[guywithissues900]

no worries I think he’s just arguing because he’s older and believes wow a 21 year old questioning *me*? You know, the pride you get when you’re older than someone and you think u know better xD he may not realize it but it’s clear as day

[guywithissues900]

but don’t worry just keep on with your life you seem pretty intelligent and mature so don’t waste ur brain cells with people like him. That’s what I learned to do the hard way

[Kelly_aleksandra]

All you men need to stfu, about "you know how women are" i asked a question, write your opinion and leave.

[silverqueen]

@kelly 😂😂😂 You’re funny, but you have a good point. Their ego doesn’t let them see reality. Except @guywithissues who seem to have a head over his shoulders! Will wonders never cease?

[Kelly_aleksandra]

@CuriousGeorge07 if you think that your kids can better debates then get the fuckk off this site, just because you dont like what has been said you wanna run away. thats the fuckin point of having a whole debate, the whole point of this website. This is evidence people from the older generation are judgmental and think so little of the younger generation just because we see and live life differently. let me see you chat shit again!

[Kelly_aleksandra]

@CuriousGeorge07 im getting annoyed with your disrespect i dont have time to spellcheck every word. You need to be put in your place

[Kelly_aleksandra]

@CuriousGeorge07 An you're still replying, after you said you were gonna go acting like your gonna have your last say and thats final. you're triggering me, reasons for my swearing, but you on the other hand didn't have to swear to be disrespectful

[Kelly_aleksandra]

@CuriousGeorge07 You disrespect every woman, because you stated that we all nag, but you can't speak for everyone. and you're right you dont know me and i dont want your respect. i just want your opinion and you too leave

[Kelly_aleksandra]

@guywithissues900 I agree, sorry I am only now reading your comments, I was so triggered by that idiot

[silverqueen]

From now on I am so lucky to not be @curiousgeorge’s wife. I feel bad for her, truly.

[Kelly_aleksandra]

I know right 😂👏👏👏

[C_G_Legume]

Well, if my wife isn't happy then what the hell am I god for?

[Kelly_aleksandra]

Thank you for your opinion :)

[C_G_Legume]

Lol. *Goood for*. Just for the record.

[prajjwalbisht]

It is true. But according to me the meaning is a bit deeper...
Here's a thought... After marriage the wife is the one who leaves behind the house and goes and lives with the guy and his family (atleast in India)...
Also in most cases the wife is a home maker... Which makes four walls a place to live happily...
No matter how hard men try a women can only handle a family properly...
So if she is happy then obviously the family and life is happy...

[es20490446e]

I live a quite happy life, and actually it's quite simple.

Happiness is doing what you really want to do. And paradoxically that solves many problems.

It makes you be more coherent, and do more purposely. So you end doing better than anyone else.

[Anonymous]

There is a grain of truth in it but the way it is phrased is problematic and unfortunately it plays into today's epidemic of Female Entitlement Syndrome (FES).

The real truth is that neither spouse in a marriage will be happy if both do not do their part to make the other happy.

[SmoMan71]

Not necessarily. If she is a bitch keeping her happy could make the husband miserable.

[Kelly_aleksandra]

in some cases, i agree

[daydreammarie]

No, not all the time. Your wife could be happy but you might not be and at other times it could be that her happiness brings you happiness but in all the term isn't really realistic.

[slatyb]

In my experience yes. My first wife was an angry person, and I could never do anything to suit her. My current wife is thrilled to be with me and I am amazed that I have the love of such a wonderful woman.

[jflames]

No, happy wife means unhappy husband. Happy husband means happy wife.

Its why dominate women in relationships are miserable, they need and want the man to be a man.

[Wizard-of-bras]

👍🏼👍🏼👍🏼

[TripleAce]

That would also mean the unhappy wife spreads her unhappiness all over to others ruining everything just cause she isn't happy

Yup. Sounds Right sounds like a women

[Andre__]

I'm not married, but I've seen many marriages gone bad (also luckily plenty that are still good) where the wife was not happy and made the man's life living hell. So there seems to be truth in the saying, although it a very sad one IMHO.

[Northern_star]

I can't stop laughing cause I wanted to write one word
Equality 😁

should rather be mutual happiness, right?

[Kelly_aleksandra]

Equality should still be the main thing because it needs to be balance men can't be expected to do everything to make a relationship work, it takes two to tango

[Northern_star]

I fully agree

[TheBootyChest]

Yes. Because she can make my life miserable if she is not happy.

[Kelly_aleksandra]

LOOL you da wae :)

[Kelly_aleksandra]

know*

[TheBootyChest]

Anything else I can help with?

[Kelly_aleksandra]

follow me and when i think of another question i'll holla

[WhereAmI]

I hear it all the time at work from married guys so there's some truth to it.

[WhereAmI]

Mostly I hear guys ask "Would you rather be right or be happy?".

[WhereAmI]

Girls rarely admit to wrongdoing.

[WhereAmI]

Even when it's obvious, they'll shift the blame elsewhere.

[Kelly_aleksandra]

thats funny cos i always admit to wrong doing but so does my partner cos when we bring a problem up for example "you dont give me enough attention" if i brought that to him he would say "okay i know i can improve on that" visa versa. but then when i complain i apologise for complaining lol, cos i feel ungrateful

[WhereAmI]

I think things change for women once the kids are born. Before then everything is much different from what I hear.

[Kelly_aleksandra]

Another reason why im not having kids...

[WhereAmI]

You may feel differently about it after being married for 5-10 years and in your 30s. One guy at my work told me he had kids bc they were bored. lol

[Kelly_aleksandra]

LOOOOOL bored? i wonder how his kids may react if they ask him "daddy why did you and mum decide to have kids?" we will be balling and regretting asking in then.

i doubt i'll be bored in the future anyway. if you notice most relationships in my generation dont always lead to marriage anymore cos of what society is like to today, cos having kids are less likely. if i wanted to have kids, it would be out of the fact i want my own little me, my own creation

[Goodwifie]

It changes because she no longer sees herself for who she was before children. It's up to the partner/husband to remind her that she is still a beautiful woman.

[FeZnNa]

No, stay single. Lol relationships are suppose to be about comrpomise. A man should never allow himself to be walked on or taken advantage of just to please his wife. Fuck no, thats is miserable as hell. Both should be happy.

[Moonchild714]

Oh of course it's true. If the wife is not happy no one is happy... Same goes for the girlfriend too, women make sure if they are not happy neither is anyone else especially SO!!!

[Wizard-of-bras]

Misery loves company.

[Duke07]

Yes lol but at same time your man should be happy too cause your with him for a reason right. So if he isn't happy he may leave you then in turn you won't be happy. So its a healthy balance between two people who care for each other. :)

[MadeInAmerica]

Yes it's true. If the husband is unhappy it doesn't affect the family nearly as much as the wife so you gotta keep her happy.

[NickMoveDifferent]

Some marriages it can be true if the husbands well being and motivation are fueled by his wife's happiness. The husband would have to be very in tune with his wife's mood and behavior to assuroe himself that he is truly making her happy. Or the guys personality would be a submissive one where he just lives to serve his wife. Either way a person can't reach their full potential in life without positives to motivate them.

[dreus095]

Is my girlfriend (not married yet) is happy, I'm happy, my heart fills with joy when I see her smile, I wish I could make her feel happy for the rest of myself 😊

[JohnJohns]

Yes. It is. Except not in the way commonly thought of nor the way the statement implies. She can be happy in the relationship, but if there are other parts of her life that are very unhappy, it can spread over into the relationship, resulting in the "unhappy life"

[Girolamo]

I think the ideal marriage is the concept of two people becoming one. Therefore if one half of the union is unhappy, that's a serious problem. Obviously the other side seems true too. I think a miserable husband will also be a big problem for the couple and the family.

[guywithissues900]

I agree I don't know why a guy would downvote an opinion like this

[smolfish]

Maybe. I don't have a wife. I'm willing to bet that angry wife, shitty life rings a little more true.

[northerngal]

Absolutely. But if you do not have the flip side "Happy hubby happy life" either your marriage is doomed.

[Caaarl]

This saying is basically saying that a miserable wife will make your life miserable.

So I believe it's true in that sense. But I'm not going to bend over and submit to a woman to make her happy.

[Afrochick]

Bend over and take it !

Lol.

[cosmicc]

I believe its true lol when a woman is unhappy so is everyone else. Men live to make their woman happy which makes their lives easier.

[cosmicc]

Men like*

[JimmyAlderson]

No, your own happiness is based entirely up to you. You cannot seek happiness from any external source (any person or possessions) your happiness must come from within.

[MriPibbXtra]

Yes it is. When your wife is happy your happy but you also have to look after your husband and make sure he’s happy also.

[real8truth]

I believe it to be true in the sense of if you marry a happy person, your life will be happy. A better saying I have seen is "Marriage - because your shitty day doesn't have to stop when your work day ends".

[jimyee]

It's not untrue. Obviously if your partner isn't happy you won't be happy so if they're happy, you have a much greater chance of being happy as well.

[AyushMate]

So far it's true 😂😂😂
Wife's happiness is really important for a happy life because she's your better half 😅

[Anonymous]

sure but happy husband happy household amiright lol seriously tho both the husband and the wife need to be happy and connected and keep each other happy for their lives together to be good.

[Dchrls78104]

It is true that a man's life is enriched by a worthy wife and destroyed by one with a sour personality.
It is also true that happiness between husband and wife is a two way street.

[handyman129]

Yes without a doubt. Women make the whole thing work

[Kelly_aleksandra]

Both partners in the relationship make the whole thing work, there has to be an equal balance in the relationship for both people to be happy

[handyman129]

Actually it depends on what each wants. I know of some people who are decision makers and some are not. Some only are happy when the other is, etc

[Kelly_aleksandra]

everyone's lives and relationships are different so thats your opinion is based on. im gonna leave it at that

[handyman129]

:). Yes true. I absolutely agree with you. It has to work for every one. Great discuasion. Thank you

[trumpetplayerforlife]

Let's just say me and my husband worm together and if they want to know if he can work late or work on weekend they ask me and not him lol I'm Def the boss he may wear the pants but I tell him which ones and when

[hahahmm]

Yeah but: Not kissing azz. She needs to try to make me happy too.

[BoratSagidyiev]

So... what is a this happy wife thing you a speak of? My old wife Oksana was a very anger all of time and a borings!

[Kelly_aleksandra]

What did you do wrong

[BoratSagidyiev]

I did a not do anythings a wrong Ms. Kelly... she was a just always a anger and a borings.

[Barrabus_the_Free]

No.

"No wife, happy life" and "No wife, no kids, no problems" are certainly true though.

[Natalie11299]

Yes I believe so. It should be that way for both partners.

[AGiantSquid]

I don't know if it's true for everyone, but when my wife is happy, then I'm usually happy as hell. :D

[pascalopol]

Some of us are really happy only for seeing our beloved ones happy

[Blueeyes81]

It just means that if she's happy she won't be nagging him and if she's not nagging him then he'll be happy.

So in a way yes. Nobody likes to be nagged.

[Tickle_Me_Help]

Well if your wifes not happy i suppose its hard to be happy yourself but not always!! 😁👍🏻

[veronicalynn]

Not in my house lmao it's if daddy isn't happy then no body is.. 😂😂😂

[jonesjessica812]

You're fine ass with these terms I've never heard of

[Kelly_aleksandra]

🙄🙄🙄

[Afrocentricman]

Yes. Though both partners need to be happy, but if your wife is happy you'll never have any worries.

[zulfiqarali]

Yes happy wife can turn ur life in to heaven and unhappy wife make men's life hell...

[RegularTK421]

It's true. Especially if you live with her, you will know she is unhappy even if she says "I'm fine."

[Wizard-of-bras]

I’m not getting married so I don't know. But it’s sad that men think that saying is true because it gives another person too much power over your life

[Goodwifie]

My husband makes me feel loved and appreciated, I am so happy it makes me feel good so in return I make my husband feel good. 😉

[TinaSP]

Ohh trust me. A miserable wife go to hell and hire the devil himself to make the husband feel worse.

[mrs-turner97]

Naw I just have karma she’s a friend of mine it seems like every time 97% when he pisses me off or hurts my feelings are we fight something happens to him either he gets hurt some how I don't know cut himself with a knife while sharpening it or his truck messes up or he loses something or like one time we fought I went away crying he went to town with a load of lumber and the lumber came off 3 times of the interstate so he bought me Mexican and made up so Karma would
Stop being a bitch to him 😂😂

[TinaSP]

Wow... we are hiring Karma too now? Lol GO US!!

[1nittol3arn]

I don't know. I've never been married. My brother is and apparently he likes it... I think he's lying though. 😂

[JhoniBoy]

Your brothers a coin...

[1nittol3arn]

@JhoniBoy what's that supposed to mean?

[JhoniBoy]

Coon*

[1nittol3arn]

@JhoniBoy well... he's white. Can't be a coon

[XX977]

Yesss ! If your wife's happy , EVERYTHING becomes like in heaven

[guywithissues900]

Haha but I think she needs to also make an effort to make her man happy, no?

[XX977]

Men are easy to deal with , good sweet words from her can flip you upside down :p

[Harkybhoy]

Absolutely. If a wife is happy, then the husband is happy. Love is about making each other happy I think lol

[Goodwifie]

You think?
Nah you're spot on mate. 👍

[JKling88]

No, but I think if you look a bit deeper into it, there is a bit more truth. Simply saying, choose your battles, swallow your pride, admit when you are both wrong, and be quick to apologize.