Is it weird to be pen pals with a married man?

[chapawapa]

It is completely platonic he's from a different country and his wife knows

[btbc92]

No. Your there to make friends from all over the world. However you just got to be careful because a lot of people especially the men, they're not really there to really make friends. They are actually there to try to date and try to flirt with women. So be extremely careful. Because you don't want to get caught up with problems. Even if he says that she gave the okay, still be cautious. Because I don't really find it appropriate. If it was me I was just calling to say that I am not comfortable with this and that would have been the end of that. Because it can be so called okay in the beginning, and then something can go wrong the next. So it's best you don't open doors to that.

[MotherEarth2020]

I was one for. many many years. Like 20 some years. He was from India and me from the States.

Then one day he started getting super stupid. Saying all kinds of nasty mean shit.

I wrote one last letter to him and never replied to him again.

10 years later I still receive a letter in mail from him. I don't even open it. It just goes in the trash.

[Jamie05rhs]

How do you know that his wife knows? Because he told you that? He could be lying.

[chapawapa]

He could be. Seems nice. So far no boundaries crossed

[Jamie05rhs]

Okay. That's good. What happens if he does cross a boundary? What will you do?

[chapawapa]

Hmm truthfully. I get uncomfortable with advances and I have high standards of integrity. I don't think it will get there. Plus his profile does ward off people seeking anything romantically by stating "if you're looking for more than move on because it's not here" I think he's trustworthy.. So I'll see

[Jamie05rhs]

Okay; cool.

[Jamie05rhs]

Just don't give him your photo. If he asks, that's a red flag.

[chapawapa]

Uh oh I gave him my Instagram voluntarily... But lol it was to show my photos.. I like to take nature photos. Lol 😆 yea I get it. Thanks jamie

[Jamie05rhs]

You're welcome. ... Okay; just be wary of that. You should be concerned if he starts liking a lot of your photos (photos of you.)

[Jamie05rhs]

Thanks for the MHO. :)

[Jjpayne]

It sounds pretty fun and as long as boundaries are kept I don't see why not

[Jjpayne]

Thank you for the mho! 😊

[WolfyGirl2077]

Not really its like an online friend u play with i got many friends i play with online many from diffrent countries and many of em are married

[COMMODOREII]

Yeah why not? You still got other guys for the not so platonic. 😜😜

[chapawapa]

Smh lol

[TravisMiller13]

Not really you can be penpal a with pretty much anyone it all depends on what you talk about

[Paris13]

***What is the Point of Writing to a Taken man? xx

[chapawapa]

Just talking abihf daily life. And this and that talking about cultural differences. Etc

[Paris13]

Well, as long as no romance I see that it is ok then.

[Anonymous]

I've learned to jump ship as soon as I find out they're married.

[chriscdi]

as long as they are both cool with it its all vibin

[Cryptic-Game]

That does seem a little bit off and weird. No idea why a married man would do it or why the woman would do it knowing the man is married. Both are in the wrong.

[GreenGold1992]

I didn't think pen pals was still a thing

[chapawapa]

Yea it is... Woot woot

[GreenGold1992]

Well if it's strictly platonic, then I see nothing wrong with it.

[chapawapa]

Yea same. Wanted to do snail mail but currently he has another pen pal and it's taking 6 to 8 weeks to get mail due to covid. But I'm fine with typing because my hand writing sucks...

[Ripper_E]

No. Married men have friends too.

[andy530]

Not if you guys click not weird at all

[Smirnoff23]

No not strange... Well done

[Anonymous]

do you one day have plans of blowing this guy