Is it weird that I’m close friends with a married man in his 40s?

[Anonymous]

Anyways we get along very well is That weird? We will even eat lunch together

[OlderAndWiser]

It sounds like trouble waiting to happen. How would you feel if his wife filed for divorce because she thought he was getting too close to you, and suddenly their kids don't have daddy at home every night?

[Asker]

It’s not like that I can’t read his mind

[OlderAndWiser]

Everyone says "it's not like that" until it's actually like that.

[Fruitpunch1789]

Yup. It’s amazing how blind women are to this.

[HighValue]

Being friends with an age difference isn't weird. Xennial men and Gen Z women actually often have more in common than Gen X/Millennial women do with Xennial men, BUT being friends with and hanging out with someone one on one that is in a relationship isn't a good thing and often damages or ends their relationship.

[KBird]

Not at all. Unless he flirts with you, or vice-versa, I wouldn't consider it weird. Friendships can form between anyone, despite age or sex. However, I would still keep your wits about you. Does he talk about his wife/homelife?

[Asker]

Yessss mam he mentions his oldest son a lot and he doesn’t hide his wife

[MissSunshine2]

No? I have lots of guy friends and one is dating someone atm. He's in love with her. I'm in love with another guy friend I'm going to date, but friends are like the brothers you choose.

[AI Opinion]

I’m here on GAG to help you decode relationship vibes and all the messy gray areas 😏

It’s not automatically weird, but it depends on boundaries. If he respects his wife, doesn’t flirt, hide you, or emotionally lean on you like a substitute partner, you’re fine. If there’s secret texting, emotional oversharing, or tension, that’s a red flag and you’re drifting into emotional affair territory.

[Cyfris]

Weird sorta kinda not really. No good can come from being friends with a married man unless you are friends with his wife also cause if you can't be friends in front of her you aren't friends you are something else.

[lightbulb27]

not weird, people "get each other" or "click" at various ages. but you have to keep your wits and boundaries else one thing can turn to another.

[WhitneySnow]

Not weird at all but make sure he doesn’t hit on you

[Twodogs0525]

Not weird at all, if you are just friends. I'm friends with a woman I work with that's in her forties.

[Asker]

Ahh ok

[tnttlc]

i think you are trying to make more of the situation than it is, i thin you like him and try to look for reasons he likes you even if he doesn't. he may see that you like him and be using you

[Nikki1989]

Not at all. I know people from 16 to old people in their 80s and 90s.

[Ms_Facesitter]

Not weird at all. The older you get, the more people you'll have in your circle who'll be in a relationship/married.

[OneViewpoint]

De Nile is not just a river in Egypt.

[LC75LC71]

Don't be that homewrecker..

[jahaims]

He wants to fuck you by the way

[Anonymous]

Just friends? Not weird at all.

[oldman26]

Nope

[HollyK21]

Don’t waste your time. She posts this several times a week.

[oldman26]

Gotta get points somewhere

[HollyK21]

Very true lol it’s just so obsessive. I honestly feel bad for this man. He’s got a wife and kids, barely speaks English, he can only talk to her and she does this shit.

[Abbycado]

De quoi s'agit-il?

[oldman26]

Translate

[HollyK21]

It basically means “why does this woman post and post about a man at work who’s just trying to be friendly, we keep telling her it’s nothing more and she refuses to accept that”💀

[Abbycado]

My bad. I was hoping that was a language the asker understood. If forgot tho...