How would you prevent a dead bedroom? Are they more common than we think?

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When I was babysitting for this family, the parents slept in separate beds in separate rooms even though they had two kids. I was like, I don't know if that was normal... Hopefully, the spark is still there when I'm in my 50s or 60s if I get married. How do older people maintain the spark?

EyesOfGod · Accepted Answer

By 40-50's both sides usually lose their young and visually stimulating qualities so i can see how some lose their sex drive. Also if the couples don't experiment im pretty sure it would get boring after a decade or two. Then there's the kids some people just can't get that way with their kids in the same building.

EaterPeter · Accepted Answer

Screens should not be allowed in bedrooms. Bedrooms should have crisp clean hotel room like feeling. Both partner should enter bedroom at same time. Use your partner as body pillow.

Anonymous · Answer

The two beds in same bedroom can be common, if one person has trouble sleeping it can keep the other person up all night.

I know a couple that has two twin beds that they push together when they want to 'cuddle' but scoot apart when its regular life.

As for losing sexual interest, can't say I've experienced that... but try being a morning person and your SO is not.

Or if someone thinks sex should be 3 hours each time, it can be hard to find time for that on a regular basis.

Anonymous · Answer

Unfortunately they're more common than we think, and it happens even to younger men too. I was living with my girlfriend for a year of agony without any kind of release. I think a lot of women just assume that their sex drives are equal to their man's and have difficulty believing otherwise.

Ladies: We love you, but sex is a NECESSITY for us and the motivation for our commitment. Please listen.

Narcissa · Answer

Omg 😱 well let’s start off with saying I am 45 my husband is 42 and we have anything but a dead bedroom. Been together over 10 years. I’ve had 6 children. (We are raising 4 of them together ) this is my 4 th marriage and his 2nd w that being said let me tell you. — tne sexual spark is so imprtant
Dead bedroom can be prevented !! Keep up with your looks and maintain health and all will work out great.

slatyb · Answer

Sleeping in separate rooms doesn’t mean they aren’t having sex. Maybe one of them snores so that the other can’t sleep in the same room. I read something about a Scottish couple that slept separately. She said “‘‘’tis but a wee walk.”

Anonymous · Answer

Last I heard, about 15% of marriages could be classed as sexless. Kids, sleeplessness, snoring, medical issues, they don't get on, the list goes on.

Anonymous · Answer

My parents slept in separate bedrooms but we used to catch my dad sneaking into her room at night

In_Trance · Answer

I'm undecided on this. I understand where you're coming from; I don't disagree with the opposing view. I think it's whatever works for the couple. As long as they agree on what they're doing and why they're doing it, I see no issue

Slim57 · Answer

Communication, its the same with other problems in a relationship, there's no communication, people just want to throw it out and get something new instead of putting in the effort to fix it

ItsMeItsMe1989 · Answer

What is a dead bedroom?

COMMODOREII · Answer

Not sure. Tbh

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