Also, does it matter if they were invited or if they just did a surprise visit? Sorry but i wouldn't give up my bed for anyone. They’d have to get a nearby hotel. I personally dont invite anyone over unless a boyfriend anyway in which we’d be sharing a bed. Everyone else has the option to stay on the floor or couch but i wouldn't not offer that option since it seems uncomfortable. So id suggest they stay elsewhere. #FeelFreeToList#UninvitedGuest#WhereToSleep
I’d give up my bed for a visiting parent
I’d give up my bed for a visiting sibling
I’d give up my bed for a visiting SO
I’d give up my bed for a visiting grandparent
I’d give up my bed for a visiting cousin/aunt/uncle
I’d give up my bed for a visiting friend
I would not give up my bed for anyone
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For those of us who didn't give up our bed, deem us selfish if you want, its whatever. I dont invite people anyways so if they pop up, then i’d happily show them some hotels nearby. I dont even wanna sleep in someones bed just from thinking about what or who theyve been doing it. Back when i held sleepovers sure everyone could share a bed with me but that was about it. My grpa even chose to take the floor to let us keep our beds when he visited
Would you ever give up your bedroom for a guest if you were lacking extra bedding?
I would not give up my bed for anyone, anyway my room is a huge mess and my bed too (there's many things that shouldn't be in a bed XD) Too people sweat when they sleep i find it disgusting to think of someone sweating in my bed. I would offer them the couch but that's it not my bed. When my grand parents come they always sleep in the couch.
Nah I sleep there. They more welcomed to joining me. No homo for guys. I ain't moving from my personal bed, its to comfy. Plus its a big bed, plenty of room. Just make sure you're the furthermost away from me.
My living conditions are known. I'll make my -invited- guests as comfortable as it can get. But once you enter my home... you leave democracy behind. My bed is for me and my girl only.
I'd give up my bed for anyone but only IF I invited them and I knew there's not enough bedding. They can still sleep on the couch or something, but if there's absolutely nowhere to sleep, and I knowingly invited them, yes, they can sleep in my bed. As for uninvited people, I'd maybe make exceptions for parents, siblings... The close family. And only if they had nowhere to go. For others, I'd simply tell them there's nowhere to sleep. If they're OK with sleeping on the floor, they can be my guest.
Voted - or would have - A through F. It is called hospitality. It is called "trying to make someone comfortable in your home and in your presence." It is called courtesy and good manners.
It is summed up as, "It is not all about you." A few nights on your couch will not kill you and welcoming people into your home - even when unplanned - is not that hard. Consider the alternatives - what life would be like to have no one to invite into your home. To be alone in that bed you cherish so much.
Measured by that standard - I'll spend a few nights on the living room couch. It is, in the end, a reflection on what matters and, in a minor way to be sure, on my character.
Yea but im tired of sacrificing myself for others happiness so these days im gonna do what i feel is best for the both of us so that everyone can be happy
Yes, well, life nobly lived is about sacrifice. Life selfishly lived is about how defining how far you are willing to go and making sure people know your limits.
When I was growing up, dear old Mom told me, "You put yourself out for those you love and you go the extra mile. You show gratitude for what you are given."
She literally said those words and we - my brothers, sister and I - were expected to live by them. Suffice to say, that would be asking you for too much. What a better world it is for the likes of you.
Depends on the home I was living in largely and why they are there and also who they are if my parents were alive or together when they were or visiting me and we had a good relationship when they came over I would say yes give your elders the prime choice especially if it was grandparents but friends likely not also depends on the situation if I wasn't going to be using it or was day time and they flew in from Tokyo and needed some sleep cuz they were jet lagged and I was awake anyhow then for sure why would I care I'm not using it and also if it was a good friend then I would just as well share the bed granted it was large enough for each of us to have our own space but depends some people would say no others yes really depends
No, My bedroom is my domain and private. Guest's are guest's no mater who they are. A guest should respect your privacy. Your accommodating them by letting them stay over... there's always a couch or an air mattress will do. If not then they can't stay and they will understand. Besides if lack extra bedding and you give up your bed, where are you sleeping? 🤔 See my point...
Elderly people or people that have particular needs that need it yes.
Just people showing up or even invited guests. No. I do have an extra bed in my office that I’ll give up to guests and we have air mattresses we use for camping that I get out
We have friends that stay over some cuz we aren’t far from a few ski resorts but they know the deal. They get the floor and the couch and the guest bed if I’m not using the room for work.
Sorry this is just one area where I have to be selfish that's my place to sleep nobody else's unless of course somebody was having sex with me the night before but that doesn't count because I'm in the bed with them so LOL sorry I'm selfish
Before we had two guest bedrooms, we gave up our bed for my mother-in-law a few times. The only time since we bought our house that we gave up our bed was when my sister-in-law visited while pregnant and the proximity to the bathroom was more convenient, so we stayed in the guest bedroom.
If they need a place to sleep, I will give up my bed and make them some hot towels for a bath and cooked food for when they wake up. I can-and have slept on the floor, it’s no big deal. Guess it depends in the person but I grew up almost amish (not anymore) it’s the kind thing to do and it gives me personal satisfaction to see I made someone feel comfortable and welcome
They get the bed. I have always been offered the bed when I stay at a friends House. It's just polite. Maybe If I had a giant comfy Sofa I'd ask them wheter they want the Sofa or the bed. But telling them to sleep on the Floor or get a hotel? Can't Imagine being that rude.
I’d just say I only have one bed and its not big enough for two (im lying lol) so you may want to look into hotels before thinking about coming to visit
I trust easily. I have let my college best friend stayed over. I let her stayed in my bedroom. I hosted a gagger, first time meeting stayed over. She stayed in the living room open couch. Also hosted another gagger whom I met before.
Stayed in a hotel room with another gagger, meeting the first time out in Calif. had a fun time. Let another gagger stayed in my hotel room... I must be the nut job here lol
We do have 2 spare rooms at home so they can always sleep there.
I don't think anyone would like to sleep in my bed cause it's a really small one lol. I like it cause I've had it for a long time now but any other adult would have trouble with it. 😂😂😂
Possession is 9/10ths of the law, come take it if you can. Also, one of these shapes is not like the others. Why would there be a choice with a significant other, if we're not sharing a bed, they obviously aren't that significant of an other... Same with a friend, not weird to share a bed with them.
I've done it multiple times before I always offer my bed and say I'll just sleep on the couch, a good host doesn't let his guest sleep on the couch or the floor.
It probably helps that I can sleep virtually anywhere comfortably I've fallen asleep on everything from ledges outside to pallets with bags of seed on em to sleeping on he floor on couch cushions.
I dont look to be a good host because i dont invite people over (unless its someone im dating). So if friends or fam pop up, its usually unexpected and even if they tell me theyre coming, i ask will they get a hotel because people know i dont give up my bed
If it was just me? Yes. I do it all the time when we get out of town guests but if I'm married then no they can't sleep in my bed cus that's where I lay with my husband.
I always provided shelter for friends. I simply just pick a convenient compromise. Such as having a white night while they rest. It's most helpful when I have to guard a drug cartel king who is hiding in my bed, keeping guard while they sleep. I like night time anyway.
I probably wouldn't mind purchasing a futon for the guest too or one of those two people Japanese Futons because I want to make my bedroom Japanese theme and they sometimes have futons that has for two people. It probably depends if I have a girlfriend I probably shared with her not give up my futon completely but she probably be the only girl I wouldn't mind sharing some parts of my room, I usually prefer my own guys space.
I have given up my bed before multiple times for numerous family members. I like my bed and all but giving it up for someone else isn’t a huge deal to me.
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