Would it bother you if your spouse didn't want to share a bed with you?

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Purpleronnie · Accepted Answer

It would depend a little on the reasons why she didn’t want to but it’s not like either of don’t sometime sleep in one of the spare bedrooms or elsewhere. Through work , socials , not wanting to disturb each other generally , or just trouble sleeping we will sometimes frequently sleep apart for all or some of the night. Generally I don’t have an issue but as I said , never wanting to sleep with me , the reason (s) would matter.

HawkPerception · Accepted Answer

I don't see why you would even be in a relationship at that point. It's fine to sleep with a different blanket though. When you want to cuddle, you can go into the other person's blanket. Because sleeping with someone else's body heat can make you overheat pretty easily.

Anonymous · Accepted Answer

This is a difficult one. I love my sleep and my spacious bed. But I also like to cuddle. But the space is so nice and I sleep well, but I also want to be near him. It's a back and forth in my head. When I watched some videos about old couples that have been married for many many years, and the interviewers ask "what is the secret to a happy marriage" most of them respond "sleeping in the same room but in different beds".

Rei13 · Accepted Answer

I didn’t for a long time since my partner snores and it makes it impossible for me to get a good nights rest. Even being in different rooms didn’t solve it since you can hear him no matter where you are at. He didn’t like it much but he didn’t have to worry about me waking him up or making it hard for him to sleep. He got a cpap and that’s been a game changer

Love Doctor Brad · Accepted Answer

Well, lovebug, it can be a bit of a bummer if your spouse wants to sleep solo. 😏 Sometimes it’s about preferences like temperature or snoring, not a red flag against you! Communication is key here. Maybe a snuggle before sleep or on weekends can keep the intimacy sizzling without ruffling any feathers. Just sprinkle a little love magic there! 🌟

AviatorTom · Answer

My wife is a light sleeper and she can't sleep with my snoring. We sleep in separate rooms.

OlderAndWiser · Answer

If that was a permanent decision by her, it would be the end of the marriage.

Finchie40 · Answer

es, and she wouldn’t be my spouse much longer

Someone34 · Answer

No, I have been single so long and it feels good to be able to sleep like a gorilla. The solution would be a big bed. I know have 120 cm bed. Just two of them would be good. If someone wants to sleep alone would be kinda odd if you own a great big bed, there is room for two people there.

mysteriousNicholas · Answer

📝 📜 that explains why in my daydreams my ideal dream living quarters always has a Study with desk and drafted divorce papers always thanks to my good man the lawyer, in my daydreams.

Ah, imagine working in divorce law. Still, I'm no lawyer. So back to reality - I'm a happy single 💟 blob

Flower7 · Answer

Yes of course. That indicates that the relationship is over.

exitseven · Answer

Yes, it ios bad enough that she puts a pillow between us because sometimes I thrash about at night.

rebelsunshine · Answer

Her having her own bed is one thing. Her not desiring sex or physical intimacy is quite another.

beenherebefore · Answer

I couldn't imagine sleeping in separate beds.

RavVid · Answer

I would take it as a sneaky girl trick to avoid/reduce sex. Wouldn't take kindly to it.

HighValue · Answer

Unacceptable. I would end the relationship over something like that.

Nikki1989 · Answer

That would be weird. I haven't slept alone in a bed for almost 17 years.

AngryCarl2 · Answer

Full disclosure: I don't think my parents ever slept together. I must have been an immaculate conception. Imagine hating your spouse so much that you can't bear to sleep in the same bed.

red-lipstick-girl · Answer

My husband is mine and she cannot sleep separately.

XXblack88 · Answer

Maybe a little. But I would also want to know why maybe there more to it that I'm not seeing.

MJVillarama · Answer

Depends on why, honestly. Sometimes space is needed, but if it’s a constant thing, that could be a red flag or a sign to talk it out.

DrPepper12 · Answer

Sharing a martial bed has been shown to have NUMEROUS negative health & relationship outcomes.

Jessicasmith243 · Answer

It really depends on the individual and the reasons behind it. Some people might not mind, while others might feel hurt or rejected. If you're wondering about your own situation, it might be worth exploring the reasons behind your spouse's preference

Godihateyou · Answer

Lol. Bin married for 20 plus years. I sleep on the bathroom floor attached to the master bedroom. Gladly, happily. She doesn't wake me up every 14 seconds and I actually get sleep.

TonyMetal___86 · Answer

Why are they a married couple in the 1st place if they don't wanna share a bed...

AgentG111 · Answer

Yes if I don't know why.  No if it's discussed and understood.

Crankor · Answer

It takes away a lot of emotional bonding. To me it makes the relationship more superficial

RedInnocent69 · Answer

Not really. I don’t sleep as well with someone beside me to worry about

guesswhereivebeen · Answer

Yeah I mean if I’m so gross she needs her own room she can find one in someone else’s house

Anonymous · Answer

Not if she knows that by doing that, I'll share it with someone else! LOL

Anonymous · Answer

I don't have a spouse, so I don't really have to worry about that.

CupcakeTheDestroyer · Answer

That would be my ideal. I’d like my own bed

jazzy34 · Answer

We’d have a talk about it.

Abbycado · Answer

Depends entirely on the reason he didn't.

bunniesrcute · Answer

no, im the one who doesn't wanna share a bed

Anonymous · Answer

I sleep by myself every night

Anonymous · Answer

Women are passive aggressive

jahaims · Answer

Duh.

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