If your partner shared the same bed with someone else, but NOTHING happened, would you still be mad?

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ShellyB · Accepted Answer

Well my partner is male so, it isn’t super common for guys to share a bed w a guy friend or with their parents or siblings or anything so, yes I would have some questions! However if it was w a guy friend or his parent or sister I would be OK with it. I would not feel great if he shared a bed with another girl!

It is not that rare for me to share a bed with another girl and nothing wrong happens, I’ve also shared a bed with my mom on a trip a couple years ago.

I guess the answer is that it depends!

DishLady · Accepted Answer

I call bullshit. Even if the floor was covered in lava or snakes it's not ok for my man to be in some other person's bed with them.

Purpleronnie · Accepted Answer

I wouldn’t be mad without reason but I’d certainly have more than a few questions. The least of which being “ please explain why there would ever be a need for you to share a bed with anyone besides me “

Presently , know it would never happen though as we have too much respect for ourselves and our relationship to let it.

OlderAndWiser · Accepted Answer

Why would my wife share a bed with another man without discussing it with me in advance? How do I KNOW that nothing sexual happened between them? How do I know it only happened once? How do I know it won't happen again?

Love Doctor Brad · Accepted Answer

As a relationship coach, my aim is to navigate the murky waters of trust and boundaries. It's totally human to feel uneasy in that situation, even if nothing happened. It's all about trust and communication. Channel your inner detective for the facts, not assumptions. If it truly was innocent, maybe some reassurance and boundary-setting would do wonders. Set those boundaries like a pro! Trust is like a fragile vase, beautiful when whole, but tricky to piece back together if cracked. 😉💔

Summeroflove · Answer

What was the reason behind it? There are a lot of gray areas that are questionable but comes down to intention. I can’t read peoples minds so I can only speculate as to what it could be.

But really is there a good reason to sleep in someone else’s bed? Next to someone else? Regardless of if anything happened.

Finchie40 · Answer

Yes I would be mad and upset , how could I possibly know they didn’t do anything and why would she be sleeping in bed with another guy in the first place? How would she feel if I slept in bed with another girl and said nothing happened?

HawkPerception · Answer

If my partner doesn't communicate with me that they're doing that and why, while also having a valid reason for doing so... yes, I'd be upset.

Pinay_ako · Answer

Yes 🙌. If the tables were turned, they’d be mad too

HollyK21 · Answer

Maybe not mad but it would definitely be over lol

Miristheiss · Answer

As in my girl stayed overnight at someplace with a man? I'd dumb her immediately.

This has so many red flags I don't even know where to begin. Why is my girl staying anywhere other than her own place? If she has a reason to stay overnight somewhere why are there men there?

Just staying overnight somewhere another man is, is reason to immediately end things.

But sleeping in the actual bed with them? Are you crazy? Nothing happened? Why the hell would I care? Why the hell would I believe it anyway? She could say anything. If she is willing to spend the night with some guy there and have the horrific, idiotic judgement that she'll just share a bed with some guy then she is 100% irredeemable and undatable.

This woman's boundaries around other men as to what is appropriate and acceptable for a relationship are so awful that there isn't a chance in hell I'd spend another second with her.

PeachyPie93 · Answer

Yes I would be mad cuz wtf? You can't sleep on the floor, couch, chair, not be sleeping at some girls house to begin with. Considering my male friend wouldn't share a bed with me, I would not trust my boyfriend to be sharing with some girl friend..

NordicInScandinavia · Answer

My partner has passed out on the couch with a friend of mine more than once while binging movies.

I trust my partner, wouldn't be with him if I didn't, so don't see an issue. I know I could lay beside a friend of mine, of both genders, and not do a thing and I trust my partner to have the same ability.

molonski2 · Answer

Even though I have done this myself I don't accept it as innocent , if you are spooning with an erection poking into your body , that's not exactly harmless fun , even if you dont action said erection. I think those arguing otherwise are kidding themselves.

Its not innocent , its tempting fate.

Oldschool1981 · Answer

No, not at all. I've been married nine years and so long as she doesn't get pregnant, I don't see any harm if she sees other guys. She has a steady boyfriend now, but by her own estimates,, she's fucked about 300 guys since our wedding. LOL, she even banged the stripper at her bachelorette party

PrincessC16 · Answer

I can't even imagine an appropriate situation where that should even happen. Some serious, serious explaining needs to occur. Otherwise no. And after he explains, it'll still be a no.

naartjie · Answer

He wouldn’t be my partner.
What a way to ruin a relationship all for nothing, if nothing genuinely did happen in that bed. Why was he even near a bed with another woman?
I wouldn’t hang around wanting reasons because there is no reason lol.

ChicoFromThe305 · Answer

I can't think of a possible scenario on why that would be necessary so I dont see why she would put herself in that position in the first place

godfatherfan · Answer

My partner should not be in a bed with any straight man... period. There is nothing they could say that would make me think "oh yea, that is ok".

Justneedtokno · Answer

A tiny bit because not to say ain’t no way, but what you could be absolutely tired you could be, but that is definitely difficult to wrap my mind around. I feel like I would have to hear from both parties.

SolitarySolace · Answer

Yes, because they were still close to another man and the possibility of something happening I’m such an intimate situation still bothers me immensely. It would make me feel extremely unloved and would immediately move to break up

MemeSupreme · Answer

- did he tell me before doing it and ask if it's okay - who was she - what's the context

Ms_Facesitter · Answer

Only if I knew that nothing happens. I need to really know the other person. I have a friend who loves to cuddle with just about anyone in our circle, but she isn't the flirty type.

Dongie · Answer

How would you know nothing happened? Because they told you?

RingOfFire · Answer

Of course not? Why should it make you mad just because your partner slept in a bed with someone else? I mean who would care about that? 🙄

Nikki1989 · Answer

Why would I be mad?  I am not a psycho.

Account · Answer

Mad? Lol it would be over. No need to get angry, it would be a total indifference after that.

andreasderjuengere · Answer

The Missus really gets mad when the dogs jump onto the bed. Myself, I'm much more relaxed about it.

anmari2001 · Answer

With who, why  I mean more context I forgot I am a woman Ofc I am mad

Flower7 · Answer

Yes because that is still very intimate behavior.

red-lipstick-girl · Answer

I will never accept this, it is both immoral and deceitful.

Agape93 · Answer

Depends. If I don't approve them coming to my home and get in my bed, there will be a problem

Raxll11 · Answer

From now on, he can sleep with any woman he wants in his life because I will divorce him (I am not married, I just gave an example)

GrinchyTsy · Answer

I look at it as he wants to cheat he doesn't deserve me

LiamJHayden · Answer

No. However if I even suspected that something untoward occurred I would end the relationship because the trust would be gone.

Alex-Snow · Answer

The big question would be WHY did she share a bed in the first place

JesseP1nk · Answer

to play named that pope?

ChameleonGirl · Answer

Yes, I would be. Why did he end up in this situation in the first place?

Anonymous · Answer

Your own bed is a personal haven and should not have strangers in it without prior approval. Especially if the invitee is your partner.

v_i_v_i_35 · Answer

If he tells me in advance and explains the reason, then I don't have a problem with it.  As long as he doesn't do it behind my back for no good reason.

Jay-_- · Answer

Yes I would be mad, to the point where that's not my partner anymore 😂😂

Jamie05rhs · Answer

I would still be divorcing her ass either way regardless.

Circushowcowboy · Answer

I’d be mad if the reason they shared a bed was because they intended on something happening

Nightmoon23 · Answer

Nah I wouldn’t be mad trust is a powerful thing

YayaArias · Answer

Yes, because what led to this and what was planned for it to have gotten that far?

Priya99999 · Answer

It's all upto my partner's wish but I always had this wish to be desired

Professor-college · Answer

That would be weird... I'm not sure how to feel about it

Anonymous · Answer

Well I’m going to have 3 to 6 erections through out the night. I can’t help it if you ignore them.

AnonAndrew · Answer

Nope, not mad at all.

LadyBecks · Answer

Yes, I'd be more than mad

Ukrainianbuddafly · Answer

Better be with a guy friend 🤣

Pohjolan · Answer

How would we know that nothing happened?

lucass120 · Answer

Id be mad that nothing happened. lol

Drumlin2001 · Answer

That's not normal. I'd be pissed.

glennos89 · Answer

Yes totally unacceptable!!!

SleepingHazard · Answer

No, what do I get mad about if nothing happened?

Anonymous · Answer

Yes because I know he'd be lying.

Lokiion · Answer

Wouldn’t be my partner

smahala1991 · Answer

No because it doesn’t have to every night

jahaims · Answer

Zero reason for it to ever happen

Anonymous · Answer

Depends why they did that

Pterodon · Answer

Yes I would. I’d break up

MikeTheGreek1979 · Answer

Maybe if a cousin, sibling etc sure.

Cormac995 · Answer

yes.

beenherebefore · Answer

Obviously!

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