Is marriage considered important to you? Why?

[egykimo]

Yes

No

[DaisyAimi]

Marriage is important to me but also something that I shouldn’t just do. I want to marry someone that i’m certain of not divorcing. If a divorce happens, it happens. But you can kind see yourself if the relationship is healthy or not. That’s why I would rather wait till I am 100% sure, even if we would be together for 8 years already.

[egykimo]

8 years of being a girlfriend and doing all your duties including sex would make rye idea of marriage almost useless

[DaisyAimi]

But marriage is on paper, no? When you are only in a relationship, that also means that you can still break up without any troublesome papers

[egykimo]

Yes that's why I'm wondering if there is any real importance of marriage when everything is available to get without it.

I talk about the idea of marriage in the western societies, bc it us quite different in the Eastern and Middle Eastern countries.

[FoxnEagle]

"When you are only in a relationship, that also means that you can still break up without any troublesome papers"
Yes and no, in Canada and the US laws are being put in place and courts are rendering verdicts that essentially say "if you live together or have ANY kind of dependency on each other, if you break up lawyers can be involved."

So if you lived in Canada and started staying at your boyfriends house every now and then (even if you have your own home), you now have certain rights and entitlements to his stuff and vice-versa. You can still breakup without troublesome papers, but the option for either one of you to take the other to court is very much available...

[Cathy7734]

I'm reading that marriage is important because it involves legal documents. If there is divorce then they have to deal with those legal documents. Is marriage worth it if one has to impose those legal documents on the other person? Shouldn't there be trust?

[FoxnEagle]

There is a certain amount of commitment and sacrifice that is tied in with those legal documents, or as some would say, "some skin in the game."

Think of it this way, two people make new years resolutions to get fit this year. One of them has a free gym they can visit anytime they want; the other one had to pay for a year's membership, and also forked over the cash for a trainer. Which of them do you believe will have more motivation to get their butt to the gym? The one that has nothing to lose except breaking a new year's resolution, or the one that invested money into the decision?

It is a similar case with relationships and marriage. Trust is essential, but it will be tested and tried. The legality of marriage is supposed to be an additional bulwark against such tests, as it forces a certain amount of sacrifice and loss should anyone break the contract. The vows a couple share are to be binding, not just lovey-dovey lip-service at a fancy shmancy ceremony.

I know I am the "backwards traditionalist" and not everyone is going to agree with me, but that is my two cents in response to the "Is marriage worth it if one has to impose those legal documents on the other person?" question as well as hopefully giving a pretty clear answer to the original question :P

[The_Maphio]

It's nothing really needed for the well being of the couple. Just a rather pointless ceremony that does nothing but cost a little fortune. That aside, I'm laic, not atheist. As a laic, I don't give too much importance to sacraments.

[JosephPit]

To me it is important. In the modern world and dating scene it seems as the final commitment to each other to me. I also think children add a level off commitment to a relationship, and it's probably harder to walk away from then

[menina]

To me is not important at all. I respect other people's choices and if they want to get married I wish them nothing but happiness. But it's not something I can see myself doing.

[Cathy7734]

I was curious as to why marriage is not something you see yourself doing? Is it because there is a lack of quality men?

[menina]

@Cathy7734 It's has never been a dream to me and I have goals that are not compatible with marriage.
Oh, no there are good men out there in other countries.

[DizzyDesii]

Not as important as before but definitely still important. I’m just tired of people playin games and waitin for the right person gets a bit old. You kinda just wanna walk a different path

[Curmudgeon]

It is, and for all of you planning on children, it should be. Unfortunately, the people worth marrying has plummeted. :(

[Anonymous]

No. Personally, if I love someone, I don't need paperwork to show that. Plus, I'd rather have a partnership where we equally commit and share resources because we want to, not because we legally have to

[doopayo]

No. I don’t ever want to marry. Single + freedom for life

[TheUniqueOne96]

No, I'm not religious and therefore view it as unnecessaey for myself or for commitment in general.

[Shihab91]

Important i want her and the world know that this is the woman i will spend the rest of my life with. And show her that I'm serious and ready to commit and take responsibility.

[Asianguy123]

It used to be but now there are too many population and women are making enough money to be independent so it’s not that important anymore. Humans are reasonable and practical being, they can feel that marriage is not as important anymore.

[MadMaddi]

you're deciding who you spend your whole life with 💀

[Furuok]

No ! Marriage is a weapon. It can be open carry or it can be consealed. Ether way someone is getting/going off.

[Aiko_E_Lara]

Not really. I don't want the government involving our lives.

[Hispanic-Cool-Guy]

Yes. Marriage is family and helps maintain the family unit together.

[Xoirwinkan]

It is the most stable relationship between man and woman, and very importantly, for children.

[jasco]

I just don't see any value for marriage

[serious]

The answer is NO.

[Iron_Man]

It’s very important