Is marriage important to you?

[just_a_potato]

What does marriage mean to you? Do you plan to get married in the future, and if you are already married why? Are you happy?

[Anonymous]

I do not wish to get married and I actively avoid women who do.
I think marriage is artificial, unhealthy and misguided.

Nobody who insists on getting married sounds right to me.
It's all crazy, insecure people who feel like they need to rely on some piece of paper to make their relationship last, which I think is unhealthy and antithetical to what a relationship should be.

I want my partner to "have an easy way out", I want them to be able to pack their shit if they feel "things are getting tough".
Because I want to be with a person who loves me for me, who wants to be with me because they have a genuine desire to do so.

I don't want to put artificial obstacles to that process, if they feel like it's not worth continuing then we should separate our ways immediately.
Why would I want to be with someone who needs excuses to stay with me?
To me a relationship should be about quality not about this bizarre obsession with making it last indefinitely, or something.

[Jjpayne]

Marriage is all about commitment

It's about pledging your life to each other. Loving each other so much that you are willing to make a commitment to each other.

Thats why marriage is so important. It's a pledge and it's claiming ownership over each other. That's my husband, that's my wife. You belong to each other

[mindNsoul]

Marriage as a concept is very important to me. But whether I see myself married or not that's not easy to answer. I would only envisage myself married if I'm in love with the right man who is also in love with me. Then only I would see marriage and or kids.

Other than that I'm okay to not marry or have children for the sake of getting married and having children.

[Daniela1982]

Yeah, I can see it at the reception now. Him: "Honey, you want a piece of wedding cake?" Me: "Sure! Give it to me!" Him: "Alright, you asked for it."

[COMMODOREII]

Life would be fun with you. Lol

[Daniela1982]

@COMMODOREII Yeah, you would get dinner on your head and desert in your face.

[jennifer_bloom]

I want to get married for the companionship and the mutual love and care - and if God wills it maybe children too but I’m okey with adopting or not having kids too.

[DaddyDevn]

Honestly to me marriage isn’t important anymore simply because many do it for the wrong reasons. Many don’t last, and people treat it like it’s nothing. To me, marriage should be a once and a life time thing that you experience with your soulmate. Nowadays, it’s normal to come across someone who has been divorced several times. It’s not taken as serious as it should be.

[just_a_potato]

I feel the exact same way, i believe people should only get married if they're sure they want to be with the person legit for the rest of their lives, not 'for now until we have a couple of kids and we actually can't stand each other anymore'.

[Jamie05rhs]

Marriage means everything to me. Well, romance, from a broader lens. Marriage is just the structured format of a romance. And I like structure, especially where my heart is involved. I want safety and security. I like the permanence of marriage. I am someone who values loyalty and faithfulness. I like the concept of teaming up with someone for life and staying with them through thick and thin. I think there's something really noble about that. Besides, I'm the type of person who tends to get attached, so I would find it very easy and natural to stay committed to one woman and stay in love with her forever. That's just the way I roll. And I'm very sentimental and affectionate, so I don't imagine our love ever dying out at all.

[Anonymous]

One of the most precious experience to hold on forever, but NOT ANYMORE because people ruined it!
They just marry to have sex, KiDs, Wealth if their partner is rich, to not feel lonely so they literally marry anyone which is NOT TRUE LOVE.
They marry for business reasons as well. Or they simply marry because they can abuse their innocent partner and cheat on them behind their back.
I won't marry if I don't feel love and connection with that person.

[Anonymous]

I think I'm afraid of it.
I'm afraid to end up with someone and have a horrible marriage that ends up in a bitter divorce or just two people screaming and complaining to each other.

The ring honestly scares me, I might have commitment issues.

So, It's not a huge goal in life for me, to get married.

[Anonymous]

It's important to me. I'm married and really enjoy it. I just love having someone i love to come home to, to talk to, to hang out, to cuddle and travel with. No more awkward, stressful dating or ghosting or annoying breakups. It has to be the right person. It doesn't have to be perfect all the time but there has more good times than bad and we understand each other. As I've gotten older, I just love having stability. I love creating a family environment.

[Aiko_E_Lara]

Nope. Why should the government be involved in our relationship? Yeah sure we'd pay lower taxes but I don't wanna lose everything after a break up. "But you don't trust her. You're assuming that break up will happen" Well yeah it's easy to say if you don't lose 1/3 of your income, the house, the children, the dog, the anything just because of a break up. It's more like the girl don't trust his husband or boyfriend if she demands marriage.

[TheLawAroundHere]

"Its just a piece of paper". How many times did you say that? Me? Id guess... a million times. But then, i met this angel who is currently neside me, dead asleep, snoring like a log truck.

Then that piece of paper becomes quite a big deal. 50% of marriages end in divorce. But not us. We are in the good 50%.

Just u watch and see.

[Jamie05rhs]

My man!

[rjroy3]

If I were to get married, my marriage would be very important to me. Marriage aa a concept isn't something that important to me tho. Maybe when I decide to have children and I'm already with someone I love

[kitty71]

Maybe years ago I dreamed of being married have a nice job or kids. But any of that had never happened to me so no marriage is not important for me anymore. It is way too complicated, too much drama, too much hassled and it is overrated

[bobalife]

Always! There’s a lot to say, but one of my important pieces: Marriage is wanting to be with my last love forever ❤️

[genericname85]

honestly i find being married super important. but i think the wedding industry just makes a freaking capitalism fest out of that beautiful thing, which makes me dislike it quite a bit.

[TheUniqueOne96]

No.

I've never had a relationship, but I'm not religious, so I think marriage is pointless and unnecessary for commitment, at least for me.

[Egirl28]

Yes I would like to get married but only if its the right guy. I only want to get married once.

[Guido]

That is what most people say. Otherwise wedding vows would be, "I Do until somebody better comes along or I get tired of you." I planned for only 1 but that ended after 12 years and coming home to her saying I want a divorce. You cannot guarantee the person you marry won't change so at some point you have to take a leap of faith and hope it was the right choice. If you put in the work, there is a good chance it will last but it always needs to be worked on and you need to evolve with each other. Hope you find the right guy!

[Jamie05rhs]

@Guido What happened to yours, if you don't mind me asking? Can you tell us the pitfalls to avoid?

[Guido]

She just decided one day she wanted something different. I call it a training marriage. Much happier now. I traded up.

[SpiderManFan2002]

Yeah, because it’s part of my religion and I’d like to have a family when I’m older☺️🤷🏾‍♀️

[DavidFox]

That’s a Huge goal in my future. I only have one wife so I’m taking care of myself now and doing homework to one day take care of all of her needs.

[KatherineJ]

It wasn’t important to me until I met the love of my life. Then it became very important to me to be his wife. Yes, I’m a very happy Mrs.

[Lanabear119]

No. That’s the last thing on my mind. I don’t want to ever get married.

[ct1243]

I don’t know if I want marriage ( I’m undecided about a long term relationship too)

[Anonymous]

It is a life term commitment before God to stay together and do His Will. I want to be married by 24, but will see what God has planned for the next 2 years. I'm preparing spiritually and economically now.