Don't you get jealous of couples who have it all together right after they marry?

[Nazgol]

House, car, good jobs, baby on the way.. yet some love each other but struggle to the way up. It's tough

[jennifer_bloom]

I believe everybody has problems, some just hide it better or ignore it better than others, like a lot of people were jealous of my high grades and academic skills not acknowledging how hard I worked to achieve those skills, or get into the school that I did.

[EmbraceThePain]

No, I do not get jealous. To me, I’m very glad and happy for them because so much in our lives can and has gone wrong, it’s nice to see people living in such a meaningful and happy way. If you think about life and existence, it’s quite a miracle of the times we are living in today. The roof over our heads do not cave in and fall on us, medicine works, cars work, and we aren’t dying of a bunch of diseases like our ancestors were because medicine wasn’t good and/or living conditions were worse. It’s a blessing that we live in today’s world because it’s never been better to be a human being than it is now with the medicine, food, technology, and other amenities that make life so much easier. If history is viewed, it is clear that more things go wrong than right, so seeing some success, stability, and happiness in the world makes me hopeful for a better future for all.

[varan69]

Nope. Why would you do that. You choose your own way and your partner meaning u decide what u future might be. And u work hard to achieve what u want. Maybe that couple that has everything work hard oooorr they have everything but not happiness. Lol sorry i gice more that what the questions is

[Nazgol]

Yes true. A lot of them tend to be self absorbed people actually who lack deep meaningful relationships

[varan69]

Yes so u build your own future which is the best part of a relationship cuz you go through all this kinda stuff

[AmandaYVR]

If they've got a bunch of money I might feel envious. But all the other stuff... it's just an illusion. You can assume it's half chaos behind those closed doors.

[Sugar100]

I do get jealous as all my siblings are married have house good job and babies and I’m alone. Why they have that life and I deserve be alone? I don’t want my entire life just work and be alone. No one will marry me have baby no guy will let me be inside his life 😔. I’m not a party girl so y I deserve be alone? Y I can’t be in comited relationship like all siblings?

[DianaWest]

relax. you're only 24, not 40.

[DizzyDesii]

Slightly. Like i said im in a college town where the majority of my classmates married between ages 18 and 24. Some of them are on baby #3 now. Its crazy. Im happy for em but i just hate im not apart of that train. Im 26 and haven't even had baby #1

[Nazgol]

Yeah.. same. I'm 31

[DizzyDesii]

I’m considering invitro cause im tired of waiting around. And i’d adopt mid 30s

[Nazgol]

Really 😐 oh do you have a partner?

[DizzyDesii]

No but i have connections lol

[DianaWest]

@DizzyDesii do your classmates work at Mcdonald's? what kind of job do your friends work where they have the time to get married, own a house, and have 3 babies before 24?

[DizzyDesii]

@DianaWest at the time, they worked fast food or did farming or grocery store. We live in the country side so thats all there was at the time. But they also played sports and got scholarships to go to college for free. So they balanced, work, college and a baby. And appear to still be happily married at the moment. Some are on baby #3

[HOAAH]

Don't get jealous! Use it for motivation. I would pray about it. My life wasn't exactly like that. More like apartment renting, house renting and then buy a house and then the expensive car and now 3 kids.

[Honesttguy]

It only looks alright on the outside, whats really going on we dont know. People project good image to others but everyone have their problema to deal with.

[kc_4308]

Nope , I guess my American dream will never happen as I’ve gotten comfortable being single. Not sure about marriage , but independent in a second career

[Toldol2]

We Never know whats behind what they show off to the world

[Nazgol]

True say ! Couldn't agree more

[dustybiker]

It feels good to see others happy. You never know what life is shoveling at them too. They might be genuinely happy, they might be struggling, but good at hiding it. I silently wish them the best.

[exitseven]

We were to busy trying to scrape by to worry about what other people were doing.

[Apple1996]

Nobody ever has it all together. It may look that way to outsiders but behind closed doors everyone's marriage struggles from time to time.

[BigKevHanma]

You a hating ass nigga

[pickedcrisps]

But beneath the surface... hmm... so my answer would be no I'm not jealous. Because like I just wrote, on further inspection, is it really all as happy and breezy as it seems...🤔🤔🤔😅

[DianaWest]

most people should have good jobs, a car and a house BEFORE they get married. who gets married before they have a good job?

[MrNameless]

I don't get jealous. It motivates me to be better if anything. And you don't know what happens behind closed doors. No couple is perfect

[tatianamay]

lmfao no, why would I? I'm just 16, and I have like a decade to get married. I wanna experience loads of stuff before taking up responsibilities

[ToastyOats]

One of the reason they have their shit together is because they do not get jealous. They get to work on what they need to do and make friends with people they can learn from. Get that shit out of your heart!

[t-8900]

They worked to get there. I'm just happy they will have a happy family. Hopefully stay together forever and the children grow up happy and healthy lol

[Sevenpointfive]

i've seen it fall apart quickly. i don't envy that. i would not throw it all on the line for someone and that's why i'm single

[MissStrawberry912]

Nope, I admire their love & dedication :) They make me wanna believe in true love.

[MrCommodore]

No, I actually find it inspiring to know it can happen.

[Princess_Sasha]

Nope, the struggle and perseverance to get to your goals it what will be the strong foundation your marriage is built on.

[es20490446e]

To be honest, having that isn't that hard. You only need to be a reliable enough employee.

Now if you want to have something beyond a basic household, that's a different story.

[Andres77]

Life isn't easy.
If we've made mistakes then we need the courage to fix them... otherwise we'll suffer for the rest of our lives.

[Chris2769]

I understand where you come from. It looks great from outside, but every couple has there struggles. The couples who struggles the way up are a strong couple. Staying together through times time!

[Hangry06]

That's suspicious. Sooner or later one of them will get greedy and lose themself

[noohair]

I try to pay attention to my own life. Jealousy is an negative emotion and a waste of time.
Usually, all you see is the good stuff. Everyone has a portion of disfunction that you never see.

[This_Is_My_Opinion8]

Honestly I do. But I am working my way to it. I am currently doing an extra graduation to chance for a better job. Then we can have a baby and get a house.

[Not_Average]

Not really. Feel happy for them. I guess I’m not behind my peers, so it’s easier for me to say that.

[lonelyguyintheworld]

It's a fairly tale no one has it all together it's just a public image but behind closed doors ever relationship has some differences

[marykay76]

both partners being financially stable is actually very important to a successful marriage. Statistics have proven that more educated couples that are financially stable tend to divorce much less.

[NumberOneStunna]

It’s foolish to get jealous of a relationship/marriage when most marriages fail. You don’t know what’s going on behind closed doors

[Nazgol]

How do you know most fail?

[NumberOneStunna]

Most fail because people get married for the wrong reason

[Nazgol]

Not a fact. It's just your assumption

[Hispanic-Cool-Guy]

Not one bit. I'm actually happy for them. I love seeing successful families.

[WowwGirl]

Same

[Shihab91]

That doesn't mean they don't have problems. But no i wish them a good luck i love watching successful marriage these days

[misterCage4]

You don't really know their story until you talk to them. Even if they have cars and good jobs

[Wiredone]

No I don't. If they got everything together I'm happy for them

[Tabasco25]

Don't get jealous of couple after they get married just jealous of couples in general

[Nazgol]

Doesn't make sense lol

[Tabasco25]

XD I mean I want a relationship too

[fred_durst]

hm no? i am had many things to do rather than minding other people business

[roy_ricky09]

There is no such thing exists. A relationship should have everything. Else it will be boring

[PikNik77]

It makes me happy to see successful families. 💚

[doopayo]

Yes, it’s real unfair

[WowwGirl]

They probably worked really hard first

[pickedcrisps]

They clearly did making a baby 😜

[Nazgol]

@pickedcrisps 🤨 what's that supposed to mean?

[TheSpaceGnome]

Nope. Also thats called envy, not jealousy.

[Nazgol]

Same thing lol

[TheSpaceGnome]

Nope.

Envy is wanting something you don't have, jealousy is gaurding something you have and feeling threatened that someone might take it. Jealousy is healthy, envy is not.

[TheSpaceGnome]

Envy is wanting something you don't have that another posesses* i mean

[TheSpaceGnome]

basically a thief has envy, with the home owner they are trying to steal from being a jealous person.

[Fireguy17]

Not at all.
Probably more happy for them.

[ThatNoUVAtYourEyes]

No. If anything, a model to follow.

[Omar5881]

No couple have it all together

[jimmy2]

No keep your eyes on you 2

[Anonymous]

I think you mean envious--not jealous.

[Scottmoore3]

Sone time I wish to be more of them

[MrReliable12]

Nope 😊

[Anonymous]

No i dont