Why do single people get so jealous of married couples who are happily married?

[blondfrog]

Trigger warning but I don't care about what people say vs how they actually respond. You can tell single people get jealous cause of their facial expressions when they see two happy couples holding hands or anything more than that. I understand PDA is an ick for people but then why do they get repulsed by seeing them hold hands or sending each other love gestures like love cards, and heart symbols using planes, birds, etc.

Cause they want what most people don't have which is true love and that's rare

Some other reason

[Noredcarpet]

You wanted honesty, here goes, some married couples want to brag and act superior to other people who now happen to be single about how happy they are. It is as if they think the whole universe is centered around them. They use social platforms to express something over and over again to one another in a way that it is so important to them that everyone else see this, but what if it not how envious everyone else is? What if other people single or not just don't care? I have been walking holding hands etc and never have I seen anyone else give a dam, but could be I am simply not that interested in the facial expressions of everyone else? If I want to express my love I do so, but I don't do it in a show time look at us, please, look at us! Attitude. My partner is somewhat different, we had to talk about this as he do not care how others may read it or not but there has been times I do think he does something to make his point clear to someone maybe that she's mine.

There are other happy couples I know of who gets tired of other happy couples too were one of them is constantly over doing the expressions of how happy they are, how proud they are. It is as if it used as a status instead of just relaxing and knowing we are all the same.

When I left an ex and hung out with the people we knew from before I began to notice that a few females got to act weird, as if threaten by me still talking to them, or talking to her partner, especially her partner, and it took me ages before I could figure this one out. I didn't think I was that pretty. I sure enough was not flirting with him. But what ever it was I was looked at as a threat. These women wanted a club only for couples socializing with other couples. And they especially wanted everyone who did not care, like i didn't, to know how happy they were. I would say the women did this but their guys were as clueless as I was. I would then try to socialize with at least more normal couples, could they were hsppier, I know one thing, they were more secured, safe for me to be with. And they were not the bragging insecure thing.

You see I think some couples have an ego problem that they project their own insecurity on to others, such as singles. How you know they are single, by the way? How you know they are unhappy? For me these feelings vary and I honestly think they do, every happy couple out there are not always happy, every single individual out there are not always happy or unhappy? To think that of us humans I think is wrong. Of course there could be a single out there who is unhappy and get reminded of what she, he lost, or is looking for, is that really so strange? Or could be they react in a negative way because they see one or two egos wanting to show off, the one/ones more insecure than the single individual?

[Bolt1104]

I don’t think all single people are jealous, but some definitely can react that way and it usually has more to do with their own emotions than the couple they’re looking at. When someone really wants love, connection, or companionship but doesn’t have it, seeing others happily experiencing it can hit a sensitive spot. It becomes a reminder of what they’re missing, or what they’ve lost in the past.

That discomfort can show up as irritation, eye-rolling, or acting “grossed out,” even if deep down they actually want the same thing. It’s easier for some people to judge or dismiss it than to acknowledge their own hurt or loneliness.

But there are also people who genuinely just don’t like PDA, not because they’re jealous, but because they prefer affection to be more private. Everyone responds based on their own experiences and insecurities.

So when someone gets visibly bothered by happy couples, it usually says more about how they feel inside than about the couple holding hands.

[ManOnFire]

I don't think most single people are jealous of married folks at all, but actually seems to be the opposite. Married people, especially with kids, like shitting on single people because they're not tied down with a family, as if they envy that. I can't tell you how many times I've had people with kids or who are married say things to me like, "You're single, you've got all the time in the world," "You're single and got no kids, you can do (such and such)" and they are almost never saying it in a good way.

When I used to work in retail, they would even try to make me work on whole weekends just because I had no kids or wife. Those jobs have the attitude that since you're single you should just work your life away.

Married people often try to be showy about their relationship, as if they're hoping they can make single people jealous, yet these same sad lovers are the ones who either end up cheating on each other, divorcing, or they hate going home after work every day cuz deep down they don't even like their own kids and spouses.

Ain't nobody over here jealous.

[DonaldDarko]

No idea. Personally I've looked down on the idea of these relationships since I was a kid. It feels like losing yourself. Now you're just part of a couple you're no longer perusing your own goals or living your own life. Now you're an amalgamation of yourself and whoever else. To top it off it's only a thing because of the need to reproduce which is brutal work. Often the whole thing ends in bitterness and separation anyway. We might as well face it, people are primarily in couples because of sexual lust, that's the prime motivator.

[blondfrog]

Sounds like you just never might the right person and now your projecting. I know its hard to find a soulmate but when you do its such a beautiful feeling. And it never feels like a burden between me and my wife. We enjoy doing everything with each other and we are crazy for each other. We love complimenting each other about each other's looks and personality qualities.

[DonaldDarko]

I've been in love with women I know how it feels. Ultimately it's about reproduction not romance. Oxytocin is the thief of the mind. It's natures way of getting you to do the brutal work and produce offspring. All the pleasure you feel, that's how much pain you'll feel if it all goes wrong. I never had any really nasty break ups. One girl was an asshole but not much worse than others. It wasn't that it was more being in the situation and reading between the lines, seeing how crude an hormone driven the whole thing is. Men go into bars and they rut like animals to impress the lady chimps sitting there half drunk. In a bar or anywhere else it's us in animal mode, the crudest representation of us. I reject it based on that alone.

[AI Opinion]

Ah, the green-eyed monster of jealousy! It's like the uninvited guest at a wedding, isn't it? 😜 Sometimes single folks might feel a little twinge of envy because they long for that same connection—they're not actually repulsed by lovebirds smooching in public. It’s more about their own desires and missing something special in their life... or maybe they're just impressed by the plane-love-card combo! Let's sprinkle some humor on it; love is a beautiful thing, and everyone gets their turn. Keep holding hands, and make 'em swoon! 🎉💑

[AviatorTom]

Jealousy is an emotion that's triggered when someone else has something that you would like.

When a single person sees a happily married couple, they might get jealous because that's the life that they want. They don't have that and it's not that easy to get.

[jennifer_bloom]

I would say it is not jealousy, it is discomfort, with viewing public displays of affection, and the embarrassment of viewing it.

[Screenwriter]

Maybe some people do this. I always think it's lovely when people hold hands and chat when walking together, or seem to be on the same wavelength, sharing joy. That's good for the world.

People who are jealous usually have other negativities going on in their lives and personalities and are generally miserable. This is sad. Ignore them. Kisses!

[amber8894]

I don’t think they are jealous. The thing is that lately there is a lot showing that married people are not happy, that each spouse can’t stand the other one … I would say that I am more surprised when I see happy married couple than jealous and also it gives me hope that yes married couple can be happy ( not what I saw in my family )

[Zack-Bann]

Who doesn’t want happiness?


Our generation is one where people think it’s altruistic to be alternative


That somehow accepting that love can bring happiness means you’re mainstream and uninteresting


The reality is: true love does bring happiness and some people find that depressing so they lash out at it

[Bitter_Sweet94]

It’s usually not jealousy of the couple.

It’s the reminder of what they don’t have yet stability, partnership, someone who chooses them back.

When people are secure in their own lives, they don’t get triggered by someone else’s happiness.

It only stings when it touches a quiet insecurity.

[Sevenpointfive]

i don't know anyone that's happily married. i know people that made the decision solely based on their needs and nothing else. love and happiness wasn't in the picture for every married person i can think of. marrying someone you like is very rare, so i can see them being jealous of that.

[AMS700CX4u2]

Mostly resentment. More than likely they were in a relationship that was not loving or happy. What they are saying is "Why couldn't my relationship have been like that",

[AMS700CX4u2]

I think that there are naturally happy people and there are folks who don't appear to be as exuberant about life. Although many feel it is about wealth, those who show their happiness will tell you it is more about being through with jumping through hoops to meet others expectations. When I hold the hand of my wife of 54 years, my focus is on reminding her of my constant choice to be with her. She is aware of the attempts of others to pull me away. She knows of our struggle to maintain, but through it all we have been constant ijn our devotion to each other. We are PROUD to be with each other. I can not speak for others. If you don't show your affection for your mate publicly, does that mean you are ashamed of each other? Don't know, Can't say. Never been on that side of the fence.

[katiesmuff]

I know a lot of singles both men or women who have no desire at this time to be married and not jealous at all.
Not sure where you hang out, but seems like you need to change scenes as your whole question is ridiculous.

[llorando]

Cause they want what most people don't have which is true love and that's rare.

[Joshydavid25]

Some couples can do too much.. Like I get that you can't keep your hands off of each other but... Chill.. Lmao..

[itsannalee]

Some people just think that you are cringe, not because they are jealous. I’m married by the way.

[blackeagle007]

I never get jealous, let them be happy, good for them.

[LiamJHayden]

Those who do so believe the façade and are clueless about the reality behind it.

[AMS700CX4u2]

Or, realize that reality is a facade as well, something that you are taught to believe in so that others can control you, but is just as artificial. Harsh lesson.

[Anonymous]

It has been entertaining but unsurprising to watch the reaction of the feminist community to Taylor Swift's relationship with Travis Kelce.

[beenherebefore]

They want what married people have.

[Anonymous]

Because they fake happy more than single people

[WhitneySnow]

I don’t think most of them do

[Vegasrunner]

I dont think thats a thing

[beefcakebradybatson]

Usually jealousy of the happily wed pair.

[Anonymous]

Because they want happy relationship.