Why do people always assume that just because someone is single, they must be unhappy or jealous of people in relationships?

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Why do people always assume that just because someone is single,  they must be unhappy or jealous of people in relationships?

Anonymous · Accepted Answer

Well I think it varies sure you have people that will assume that a single person is unhappy or jealous of people in relationships but then on the flip side you have people that think single people are happy and glad to not be tied down.

I imagine it would depend on what kind of vibe the single person puts out if it is one of positive energy or carefree attitude most unless they know more about them would assume they are happy to be single. If the single person puts out more of a downer vibe or their mood changes when relationships are brought up or couples are nearby or seeing PDA one would probably assume they are unhappy and/or jealous.

I can imagine maybe one's parents, relatives or friends who know them a bit better might assume they are unhappy or just want them to meet someone nice because they care for or worry about that person in their own way even if that single person is happy with their current life.

I can only speak from personal experience some days are happy and other days not so much when you're single it depends on what you're doing or end up thinking about. I personal believe even introverts (I am one myself) want connection as they say man and woman need purpose in their lives and having someone by your side helps in this crazy word. As to the jealous of people in other relationships there might have be moments briefly in the past say if an ex moved on quickly but that didn't last long and I can't say from personal experience I have just felt jealous towards random couples or people I somewhat know. Sure when I occasionally log into FB and see former classmates or people I know married or with kids I feel sad but also happy for them it seems to be a more bittersweet sting of emotions.

So I think every person has a different experience with this depending on what their social circle is and how they carry themselves/talk about the issue around others. Hope this gave some helpful insight!

Finchie40 · Accepted Answer

Because people assume everything that they aren’t experiencing themselves , most people are judgmental and hypocritical about other people without looking at themselves in the mirror first , It’s easy to point fingers at someone else , but not easy for them to point fingers at themselves. Just the way most people are , it stems down to having a selfish mindset , always thinking they are better than everyone else around them , Me Me Me , Now that I am single , I hear nonsense all the time from other people saying how come you don’t have a girlfriend , how come you don’t want this or that etc. All I say is because I already experienced it all , and it got me no where , when I meet the right girl , I will know but as of now I am focusing on myself , because I know what I am looking for , if I don’t meet her? Oh well, I guess it wasn't meant to be , the older I got , the more I realized how wise I become , I am no longer into games and drama with selfish girls’ , I will only give the same way I want to receive , I will only get into a relationship with a girl that chooses me the same way I choose her , that makes me her priority the same way I make her mine. Without that we have nothing , especially these days with how selfish people have become. So when someone does selfish things to me , I will do selfish things to them , I no longer tolerate a girl that treats me like a convenience because she will become mine as well

TheRealPepperPotts · Accepted Answer

I think this is a generalization. Most people aren't thinking about other people and their status, married or unmarried. I think it's more of a stereotype than anything. If you look at any film with a single person as the main character, it tends to center around their loneliness or regret when it comes to that topic, which is a one-dimensional angle. I'd agree with @ Nikki1989; the media has a fixation with the lonely desperate single person stereotype.

I am single and have been for four years. A life circumstance occurred that put me in the situation. But now that I've healed from that, I find that being single is a lot easier in many ways. Although I know that I will want companionship and a sexual relationship eventually, I'm not super motivated to pursue one because of the headache and the pain of when it doesn't work out, and because of the effort that relationships demand. It's something I am working through.

When friends announce engagement, I am simply happy for them. :D

Altheavas · Accepted Answer

I don’t know, I look at relationships of people smooching on one another and thinking… which one is the biggest headache of the two, lol. Then I’m like alright move along!
I worry-less being single, carefree, not looking for no freak bunny to disturb my peace.

I don’t envy or jealous of nobody, I kind feel like I outgrow that phase!

Account · Answer

Yeah some tend to think that way but why does it matter what they think? Lol they can think whatever they want. It is their right to do so.  It doesn't make it true.

Zack-Bann · Answer

It’s biologically impossible to be happy and contempt being single
We are made to have mates

Some of us are just better at suppressing the urge to be with someone and living in denial about it in order to experience a semblance of happiness.

But any single person being honest with themself would be jealous of those who are taken

RavVid · Answer

Well it is not true of course and a partner can be a great annoyance simply because they are different with different objectives and desires. They might want to watch something else on TV.

But it is also true an intimate relationship can be someone that cares as much about you as you do. Friendships might give some of that but there are limits.

People just view others in their own frame of reference is all.

Anonymous · Answer

Not gonna lie, I am not a fan of PDA, but while dating someone myself, I felt a lot less grossed out by it. Not because we were intimate ourselves in public, but because it made me understand that desire of affection better.
I'm not unhappy being single, as I surely have dodged quite some bullets, but I've definitely been confronted by some faults in myself, that have made me more uncomfortable about who I am - which I really need to work on.

SuchSightsToShowYou · Answer

MOST people want to be in a relationship, or at least want sex.

If you're truly happy being single, great. But I guess if you say you're happy being single, people will be a bit skeptical. They'll think you're saying that just to make yourself feel better.

But what other people think shouldn't bother you.

slayxme · Answer

negative stereotype. society normalizes the requirement of being in a relationship = auto happiness and necessary to obtain in life when it is a choice.

IslaTheWitch · Answer

because people assume something they would think in this situation... at least it's the truth for the majority of people :D

shades777 · Answer

Sounds like someone is projecting. Being single is awesome, being in a good relationship is awesome.

Demonizing either is rather unproductive and unnecessary. re-state//background_color_rgba (0, 0, 0, 0), font_color_rgb (77, 77, 77), justifyLeft

Alwayreckles93 · Answer

They are nosy. Let me guess 1. no nossy mother in law. 2. No picking up where the dude mommy left off. 3You don't have to be the dudes substitute mommy. Sounds like a good life to me.

NewWaves · Answer

Always? I doubt that. There's a pretty strong stance on social media from people who happily advocate for being single and childless, either for men or women.

lightbulb27 · Answer

it's generally true, but not always. some have so moved on and burried it they don't care anymore.

DtMe89 · Answer

Because getting an s. o. is easier than we make it out to be. Usually people who are single, are CHOOSING to be single. The question is, why? Why are you choosing to be single, then complaining that you are

Nikki1989 · Answer

The media often portrays single people as lonely, desperate, or pathetic.

CarolinaGirl5 · Answer

Because you are lol. Ur the same poster who tried to ruin your friends relationship because you're single and jealous

Anonymous · Answer

Who assumes that? I don't know anybody who assumes that. The the fact that you would even be thinking about the question makes me think that you must be unhappy or jealous of people in relationships.

KrakenAttackin · Answer

Because they are. Look at how many single women actively try to destroy their girlfriends relationships.

WhitneySnow · Answer

I don’t assume that. Some of my friends are single and they’re very happy.

NathanOlipop · Answer

Because statistically from survey data they are unhappy, especially women because it means they're in FOMO

DrPepper12 · Answer

That's the dumbest ASSumption I've ever heard. These are the same people who don't know the difference between lonely and alone...

ProbablyClueless · Answer

Unfortunately, many times single people ARE jealous of the entangled.

MoonFace2 · Answer

Maybe some of those people are jealous of single people’s freedom?

Crankor · Answer

Anyone who knows how people are, would understand why there's very little to no point in being in a real relationship these days.

TheStaleMarshmellow · Answer

They usually complain about it on social media. While keeping it to themselves IRL

dudegreat91 · Answer

These people rely on their relationships to be happy

Hispanic-Cool-Guy · Answer

I guess they are projecting how they typically feel when single to others.

BurbankRob · Answer

They probably feel that way based on their own experience. When they were single, they were unhappy until they met someone.

jamesgoldman · Answer

Because they would be in the same situation

jahaims · Answer

Because that's how they are when they are single

In_Trance · Answer

Because in the majority of cases this is the truth

Delia2005 · Answer

Cause they are miserable and misery loves company.

luvstoned4him · Answer

I want to know too

WatchedPot · Answer

It's easier to assume the worst.

Penelope79 · Answer

Cause they think we’re lonely.

ClassicDropout · Answer

Smallmindedness

Anonymous · Answer

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