Why do people equate being single with being unhappy?

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DishLady · Accepted Answer

Idk… every family reunion since my divorce has always been filled with condescending comments about my getting out there again, finding someone, etc etc etc…. Folks equate marriage and a settled life with happiness, but I personally value my freedom.

I can’t deny that companionship with the right person is nice, but the constant pushing to do it from third parties is irritating.

beebella · Accepted Answer

Because some people think being single means you're lonely, which is not true for a lot of single people.

OlderAndWiser · Answer

Many people remember being single and being lonely, and then getting in a relationship and not being lonely. They assume that it works that way for everyone.

Account · Answer

Because they mostly receive their internal validation from external factors and they believe that everyone operates in the same way.

jennifer_bloom · Answer

Most of the popular people I see are popular because they accept moral trash as friends while other people will block a friend who is corrupt.

sage2021 · Answer

I am almost 70 years old and I have been married twice, 4 years to each. The rest of my life I have learned to enjoy my own company. But I didn't learn how to do that until I was in my late 30's.
Before that, I didn't like being single at all. I was lonely so much sometimes it actually hurt inside.
I just felt so full of love to give and no one to give it to. Like my love was being wasted.
It wasn't seeing other couples looking all happy because that didn't bother me. I just thought about them that I was happy too at one time being married to my first husband, but that ended and I was totally blindsided by it.
There are no guarantees when it comes to love. We all should remember that.

dustybiker2 · Answer

They are comparing themselves to what they feel society wants, thus if not in an ideal relationship matching certain age brackets to material ownership they feel they are lacking something. Inadequate. It makes them feel less than. Unhappy.

bolverk · Answer

They confuse lonely with alone, I've been single the majority of my life and a lot of my friends and family have confused them over the duration of my life, constantly trying to set me up with someone so I 'won't be lonely', they cannot grasp that I like to live alone.

Dongie · Answer

I was like that in 93. Ate up with the lonely. I had a lot of friends too. My boss at the time, Ginger, real sweet and pretty blonde 5 years younger than I, told me if you can't be happy alone you won't be happy with someone. Wise beyond her years. She was 25 born on Christmas day.

TommyMountainFigure · Answer

It's a very curious question that Coach. I say that because some people I know are never happy, whether they are single or attached, yet other friend are the total opposite! Happy regardless of their situation!

LaureenVO · Answer

They either haven't learnt to love themself and spent time with themself, so they seek it somewhere else or they struggle with being alone. Some people think they are nothing without someone else by their side.

RavVid · Answer

More the reverse for me. I think you are happy in yourself or unhappy in yourself and another person doesn't change that more than for a short time. But the sex is better if you are not single.

kwsmith2 · Answer

Because mating and reproducing are fundamental to evolutionary fitness. The people who didn't care about those things didn't have kids, and so aren't any of our ancestors. As people tend to be like their ancestors, we tend to be like people who are very interested in mating and having kids.

236color · Answer

Humans are social animals, we don't do well alone. Sex is also a basic need, if that need goes unmet, it's likely a person feels deprived, which is not happy making.

Amandanator · Answer

Well normally there is nothing wrong with being single…until you see all the happy couples around you and realize you are missing out on that part of life.

worldscolide · Answer

Buddy I thought I was happy before I met my wife, but if I had the choice to go back to what that was, I'd rather die. I was not unhappy, but my level of happy back then compared to now is like the difference between a match compared to the sun.. My happiness now being the sun, my happiness back then being the match.

ArrowheadSW · Answer

I've never understood that either. Some people are just very marriage oriented and they don't understand that not everyone is that way.

thegreenyogi · Answer

It's a huge misconception. People often forget that sometimes people choose to be single because it suits them best at any one point in their life.

ButtNakedMan · Answer

So you controlled my moments of being single with happiness? Particularly, I find those moments not a singularity, but of bachelor time to explore a scale between senseless sex and finding what I really want.

Bricealan · Answer

Beats me coach. I am alone a lot but never lonely

DarkWinterNights · Answer

Because they feel like they can’t relate to you as much if you aren’t in the same place in life as them.

PatKirby · Answer

Projection. I'm unhappy and lonely being single, therefore  you  must be unhappy and lonely being single.

OfMiceandMen · Answer

Not sure, I've always been happy whether I am in a relationship or not.

electromagnetic · Answer

People who believe that haven’t enjoyed being single and enjoyed doing things alone.

LaurenM1997 · Answer

Cause of loneliness people rubbing it in your face they’ve got a partner and you’ve not I think you’ve got the just

Nikki1989 · Answer

Usually they say they are not unhappy till you really get to know them.

on_my_knees · Answer

They've never enjoyed a good solo session, like the time when I secured myself in custom-made wooden stocks, my wrists and ankles bound securely, leaving me at the mercy of my own imagination.

Goahead76 · Answer

I think happiness is independent of things like that, I've always been a fairly happy person regardless.

LiamJHayden · Answer

A lot of people don't know how to operate without a partner. Because they can't, they think that those who do must be unhappy.

NathanDavis · Answer

I never ever got that misconception from anybody... lol

Sharkstealth · Answer

Well women like to gloat that if your single your not getting pussy.

SotiCoto · Answer

Because they're people, not persons.
They are defined by their plurality. They build their entire sense of self-worth on the size of the tribe of which they claim membership. The very notion of individuality scares them.

nawtee_me · Answer

Maybe because the girl in the pic looks unhappy

Hispanic-Cool-Guy · Answer

I guess because it's human nature to desire to be with someone.

Crazzyyworld · Answer

Being single could be fun if you are burned out.

Minky17 · Answer

Bc they're lonely and think spending time with another human will fill their empty void of existence

msc545 · Answer

Probably because being single is very lonely and loneliness makes people unhappy...

DaBiggestBird · Answer

Self projection

Jason2469 · Answer

Have you ever been alone? It's dreadful

elaphe · Answer

Lots of married people are unhappy.

ChinaGrove · Answer

It's bliss on tap.

noohair · Answer

Blissfully divorced.

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