Do you want to get married one day?

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I am undecided. I like to believe I’m a really good and caring man. But I don’t think women deserve me. I’m not going to say anything that might upset readers. But I observe women, their actions.

My dating experience is brief and I had bad experiences growing up.

I feel alone in this world. One reason I am ahead of my peers. But yeah. Never kissed a girl either.

Movies make love seem real. Society sets up people for failure. You have to step out of it to breathe.

HellGeist · Accepted Answer

No. Marriage is a poor investment, especially in the West.

PERHAPS in non-Westernized parts of the world, it MAY be "worth it"(?). But ONLY if you do not move to the West! Or God help your ballsack and assets.

Women here are divorcing dudes here left and right. Often not for cheating or abuse... Just because they get bored or whatever.
It does NOT matter much how "good" you are: "You cannot out-alpha the State."

Many Western women know they CAN take a lot of your stuff, your kids, and then leave you with half of the dog (if they feel like it). Even if some women may not WANT to screw you over (for the moment) in divorce, many KNOW that they can.

Also, (typically), The older a woman gets, the bigger the red flag if she has ever left a husband for flimsy reasons, or has never been in a long committed relationship or marriage before.

Look, don't get me wrong. I am very much a hopless-romantic sort of man.

In theory I would LOVE to marry the woman of my dreams in an intimate, small beach-side wedding at a resort in the Dominican Republic (or something like that).

I would LOVE to be with ONE woman forever, spoil her (as long as she spoils me back) and build an amazing life together... Maybe travel the world and live happily ever after... Yadda, yadda.

But people in Hell want ice water, too.

So many women these days are just fundamentally INCAPABLE of being good girlfriends, LET ALONE wives!

So now I just don't take women seriously in that way.

It's hard, because I am demisexual (I'm inclined to only want to sleep with women I love).

I get very attached, I fall in love HARD and take good care of her, but it always blows up in my face.

And before some woman (inevitably) tries to blame me, realize that this problem is an EPIDEMIC.

Men all over the place are reporting the exact same experiences. Why do you think marriage is in the shitter right now?

IF I meet a woman one day who's ACTIONS towards me and others are virtuous, and they line up with her words (unlikely), then providing we click I WILL take her seriously and strongly consider committing to her.

In the mean time I just don't take women seriously anymore. Especially here in the West.

If any Western guy is really dead-serious about getting married, they should go abroad away from here and STAY there.

Still, it's not a Silver Bullet.

A woman is a woman. Similar hardware everywhere, just sometimes different firmware that MAY make them more compatible, serious companions.

drdank518 · Accepted Answer

I voted yes but there's overlapping consequences of marriage that have to be considered before a conclusion is formed. Marriage involves a lot of tax related stuff, law related stuff, children, obligations, responsibilities, money, etc..

Marriage is a huge fucking commitment. My priority isn't marriage with the right woman, it's simply finding and keeping the right woman. I have no problem satisfying the needs of a woman, helping her accomplish goals, realize her dreams, that's normal base behavior from someone that is committed to a relationship.

Marriage is mainly a religious thing right? No bueno for me.

Xoxocutekitty · Accepted Answer

Yes. I want to dedicate my life building something more than I could accomplish myself.

What a lot of young men don't realize, is that much like a 'contract to hire offer', traditional boyfriend/girlfriend relationships expire because of a lack of commitment and investment. A company won't hold a position for you forever, and women won't waste their most societally valued years on someone who is ambivalent.

Married women and men,
have a significantly higher status in life because they are able to pool resources, have stability, and aren't wasting time complaining why no one wants them or that no one is good enough for them.

The same way, you can 'lease a car' instead of buying it outright, is similar to how you can date without getting married. Now I know some folks will fight me on it, but marrying your beloved and dating IS having legal rights to them. It's having inheritance, spousal gifts, tax benefits, insurance benefits, and for some a shared last name.

If you are a shitty driver, the chances of crashing and totalling your car are high and you probably shouldn't be on the road. If you're a decent driver but never take care of your car other than 'getting gas and oil', your car will stop working after 2-3 years (assuming it's already a used vehicle). Relationships are like that. If you are violent or abusive, you should not be in one. If you are a decent person but dont do required regular maintenance, it will break nonetheless.

WhatTheHeckkkk · Accepted Answer

It’s my dream to get married lol. Since I was a kid, I told everyone my goal was to be a wife and mother😂

Aerissa_Jade · Answer

I sure hope to one day, I've seen all my family members get married, many friends as well and so far all of them have been highly successful marriages.

TheUniqueOne96 · Answer

No, I'm not religious, so I don't think marriage is necessary for commitment. If I find someone, great, if not great, I can't miss what I never had.

LoneWolf21 · Answer

Do I want to get married someday? Yes, absolutely. Will I ever get married? Nope. Not going to happen.

Midori999 · Answer

Yes, I do want to get married! I'd like to share the rest of my life with my s/o and grow old with them! lol

sasha670 · Answer

For me i wanna get married but like later... only if Its with the right guy

Wester1967 · Answer

I do. But these women are mostly lunatics. I have never seen such poor long term decision making on such a mass scale in my life.

AviatorTom · Answer

I've been married... and divorced... now in a serious relationship with my SO.

Hangry06 · Answer

No. I don't wanna deal with legal issues when i need to break up

XXblack88 · Answer

If it happens grate if not that's ok. I'm not looking

AdithyaR · Answer

I'm undecided but I'm pretty sure I'm not gonna be able to find someone.

bamesjond0069 · Answer

Old fashioned marriage yes. Modern marriage no thanks. So i guess i won't ever officially tie the knot.

TheFlak38 · Answer

never never never never never! I value my life, my freedom, my house, my money, my friends.

Anonymous · Answer

I am already very happily married.

Uptowngirl88 · Answer

If it's the right one sure

Cowboy6666 · Answer

I hope so if I find someone interesting

Joshua0213 · Answer

Yeah in a couple years

jahaims · Answer

Already am.

Cherry234 · Answer

Yes. I'd like to.

Apple1996 · Answer

I'm already married

zaharuh · Answer

Yes!

Anonymous · Answer

Still deciding if I want to do it again

Agape93 · Answer

No way in hell

Cubus · Answer

Yes, of course.

In_Trance · Answer

No i don't

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