No. Marriage is a poor investment, especially in the West.
PERHAPS in non-Westernized parts of the world, it MAY be "worth it"(?). But ONLY if you do not move to the West! Or God help your ballsack and assets.
Women here are divorcing dudes here left and right. Often not for cheating or abuse... Just because they get bored or whatever.
It does NOT matter much how "good" you are: "You cannot out-alpha the State."
Many Western women know they CAN take a lot of your stuff, your kids, and then leave you with half of the dog (if they feel like it). Even if some women may not WANT to screw you over (for the moment) in divorce, many KNOW that they can.
Also, (typically), The older a woman gets, the bigger the red flag if she has ever left a husband for flimsy reasons, or has never been in a long committed relationship or marriage before.
Look, don't get me wrong. I am very much a hopless-romantic sort of man.
In theory I would LOVE to marry the woman of my dreams in an intimate, small beach-side wedding at a resort in the Dominican Republic (or something like that).
I would LOVE to be with ONE woman forever, spoil her (as long as she spoils me back) and build an amazing life together... Maybe travel the world and live happily ever after... Yadda, yadda.
But people in Hell want ice water, too.
So many women these days are just fundamentally INCAPABLE of being good girlfriends, LET ALONE wives!
So now I just don't take women seriously in that way.
It's hard, because I am demisexual (I'm inclined to only want to sleep with women I love).
I get very attached, I fall in love HARD and take good care of her, but it always blows up in my face.
And before some woman (inevitably) tries to blame me, realize that this problem is an EPIDEMIC.
Men all over the place are reporting the exact same experiences. Why do you think marriage is in the shitter right now?
IF I meet a woman one day who's ACTIONS towards me and others are virtuous, and they line up with her words (unlikely), then providing we click I WILL take her seriously and strongly consider committing to her.
In the mean time I just don't take women seriously anymore. Especially here in the West.
If any Western guy is really dead-serious about getting married, they should go abroad away from here and STAY there.
Still, it's not a Silver Bullet.
A woman is a woman. Similar hardware everywhere, just sometimes different firmware that MAY make them more compatible, serious companions.
I voted yes but there's overlapping consequences of marriage that have to be considered before a conclusion is formed. Marriage involves a lot of tax related stuff, law related stuff, children, obligations, responsibilities, money, etc..
Marriage is a huge fucking commitment. My priority isn't marriage with the right woman, it's simply finding and keeping the right woman. I have no problem satisfying the needs of a woman, helping her accomplish goals, realize her dreams, that's normal base behavior from someone that is committed to a relationship.
Marriage is mainly a religious thing right? No bueno for me.
Yes. I want to dedicate my life building something more than I could accomplish myself.
What a lot of young men don't realize, is that much like a 'contract to hire offer', traditional boyfriend/girlfriend relationships expire because of a lack of commitment and investment. A company won't hold a position for you forever, and women won't waste their most societally valued years on someone who is ambivalent.
Married women and men,
have a significantly higher status in life because they are able to pool resources, have stability, and aren't wasting time complaining why no one wants them or that no one is good enough for them.
The same way, you can 'lease a car' instead of buying it outright, is similar to how you can date without getting married. Now I know some folks will fight me on it, but marrying your beloved and dating IS having legal rights to them. It's having inheritance, spousal gifts, tax benefits, insurance benefits, and for some a shared last name.
If you are a shitty driver, the chances of crashing and totalling your car are high and you probably shouldn't be on the road. If you're a decent driver but never take care of your car other than 'getting gas and oil', your car will stop working after 2-3 years (assuming it's already a used vehicle). Relationships are like that. If you are violent or abusive, you should not be in one. If you are a decent person but dont do required regular maintenance, it will break nonetheless.
It’s my dream to get married lol. Since I was a kid, I told everyone my goal was to be a wife and mother😂
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I sure hope to one day, I've seen all my family members get married, many friends as well and so far all of them have been highly successful marriages.
No, I'm not religious, so I don't think marriage is necessary for commitment.
If I find someone, great, if not great, I can't miss what I never had.
Do I want to get married someday? Yes, absolutely.
Will I ever get married? Nope. Not going to happen.
Yes, I do want to get married! I'd like to share the rest of my life with my s/o and grow old with them! lol
No. I don't wanna deal with legal issues when i need to break up
I do. But these women are mostly lunatics. I have never seen such poor long term decision making on such a mass scale in my life.
I've been married... and divorced... now in a serious relationship with my SO.
For me i wanna get married but like later... only if Its with the right guy
I'm undecided but I'm pretty sure I'm not gonna be able to find someone.
If it happens grate if not that's ok. I'm not looking
Old fashioned marriage yes. Modern marriage no thanks. So i guess i won't ever officially tie the knot.
never never never never never! I value my life, my freedom, my house, my money, my friends.
If it's the right one sure
I hope so if I find someone interesting
Yeah in a couple years
Already am.
I'm already married
Yes!
Still deciding if I want to do it again
I am already very happily married.
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