Are you married or do you want to get married someday? What are your reasons?
I would love to get married one day, my reasons are because when I find the one I love I want to settle down, live with him and keep him and our family happy and healthy.
Married for 23 years. @Horse-girl great reasons and great thinking. Best wishes to you. My only advice at this point: do NOT get disappointed along the journey to finding that one to marry. It isn't easy, or fast, and you will have mistakes and heartbreak along the way but the end result is worth it.
Ahw thanks for that, I hope there won't be too many heartbreaks. š
Want to add onā¦learn from our mistakes. It is worth it.
Yes! What @midnightmoon05 said is right. And, like, the mistakes make us better!
Very true, I've learnt many lessons from my mistakes already.
I sure am willing to marry. But just need to find the right one, as you said.
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Who is more gorgeous? Hard to decide, eh?
I'm married 22 years.
It is very hard to decide! š
I am already married, for nearly 7 years now.
I'm not married. I think I would like to get married because well I think it's a nice way to solidify a relationship.
Personally I don't see it happening any time soon because a lot of guys run from even the basic levels of a committed relationship.
I'm not a traditional woman. And that is a turn off for most men. I wasn't raised to believe that women look after the house and although I've lived alone for 12 years it's done in a way to works for me.
Marriage is about compromise and working as a team to each others strengths.
A lot of people just don't have what it takes.
I feel off my career path recently to follow my dreams but in doing so I've not been very successful and been messed around.
That's not girlfriend or wife material.
I lost all of this because my life started to crumble...
I need stability again in my life and I hope that now I've met someone. I have a puppy and actively looking for work I can get back on the path to return getting where I need to be in life.
I do want to get married for a lifelong partner and the promise to be together for life. I thought I found my life partner then a yr and half in he says he does not believe in marriage. I will definitely make sure the next man believes in marriage early on.
u I donāt, no. Iāve always viewed marriage as nothing more than an expensive document that tells the government that you have a SO, and with divorce comes losing half your shit. So I see no benefits to it. Easier to stay with your partner long term and do everything that a married couple can do, live together, have kids if you want them, and one day if you break up, you donāt have to go through messy paperwork or pay a hefty fee just to leave each other.
Nope.
I've never been married and I don't want to.
The idea of being in a long term relationship doesn't sound bad, but I don't think it's necessary to marry them as well, if you can just live together and have kids anyway.
Personally, I'd want to find the right person, but I've never been with any before, so I don't care too much about it either, as long as I'm happy.
I want to, despite the fact I don't want to have children, biologically. It's not like we can't adopt, and she has a lot of younger relatives that like to visit her mom, and I wouldn't mind if they visit her and me when we get married. I love my uncles that aren't blood related. If I knew any more distant family, I'd probably love them if they're only family by marriage.
I would like to get married one day. I just need to sort my life out first before trying to start something new. Marriages can have ups and downs but with the right person it is an unparalleled experience.
Yep im married. Its not for all. there's a lot of stress, conflicting emotions and ups and downs. Its like you're forced by law to figure out how to live with one another and with kids your life is always changing. So you grow in the process.
I do want to get married. it has a lot of benefits, even health wise lol. I mostly just want a committed relationship, the championship and help/responsibility that it brings.
Wdym health wise lol?
@michael00007 I recall reading that married couples tend to live longer, experience less stress, lower blood pressure, less STDs, and tend to drink less alcohol. I can look it up more specifically if you want and send you links but that's what I remember.
Ohhh. Sure PM me.
@michael00007 why?
Maybe we could have a convo?
Iām married. Itās weird because I never really cared for marriage before tbh. It was never something I looked forward to. But I couldnāt be happier.
I've been married for a little over 3 years now
I have been married since just before 9/11. I was a little over 38.5 and my wife had just turned 44. (I am her 3rd husband, but I've only been married once.)
Nah to expensive. divorce rates being so high too it's not really worth it anymore. I'm of the opinion that people shouldn't be able to get divorced. It would make people more loyal to their partners and more selective. The only reason divorce exists is because of king Henry the 8th who wanted to divorce his 7 wives. Random history fact lol
Divorce should only have negatives for the one that wants a divorce.
I wanted to get married in past but not anymore especially after seeing my best friend in an abusive marriage i don't believe in love and marriage anymore it just fades away with time
Well, I am unable to do it because you don't follow me, beautiful
Because, you only allow messages from the people you follow it seems
i would like to have a relationship that lasted for the rest of my life , but if my partner doesn't care about getting married then i don't either
I did not plan it; it was just in my path.
After letting it behind me, I have no intentions to repeat. My relationships are ''serious'', though.
I think this tweet speaks volumes:
Omg- THIS!
We will be celebrating our fourth wedding anniversary in Nov.
I have been married to John now for 29 years, very happy thank you,
If I get married then only to a traditional woman. I don't want anything of that toxic modern society in my life.
I am married, it is fun and I love being with my husband all the time.
I certainly want to get married when I find the right guy. It has been a dream and I want a typical Hindu wedding with a red lehenga and all the Indian wedding ceremonies.
Find the right guy? Can you define him. Your dreams Sounds a great wedding.
Handsome and loving.
I'd like to but I've given up on that dream cause i know it won't happen.
Don't give up on it, I'm sure you will one day. Xx
Nah I'd rather not hold onto false hope and preferably focus on other things.
Thank you tho
i consider getting married is one of the best things can happen in my life
@diego_md Why?
@diego_md My apologies, I didn't ask the question correctly. Why is it outside of children that you believe a wife will provide you with?
I'm not married and I want to get married someday. I got too caught up with building my career I forgot I have to focus on relationships. One of my reasons will be creating a family and having children.
I wanna get married someday for the same reasons you do.
Itās a full package of my incomplete life to make it complete.
I guess it'd be nice but, I guess that, after the 10 years of my life that I wasted with Madame Ex, let's just say, I have trust issues!
Getting married in the 21st century is the biggest mistake a man can make in his life.
We will only marry when the government stops giving negatives in the marriage contract. Marriage is dead in the west and any man that marries should make a prenup or forget it completely. Feminism destroyed marriage.
Yes, I do want to get married! And it's because I want to share a lifetime romantic relationship with my soulmate. 🙂
@Jamie05rhs Lol, stop it. In a world of billions of people you really believe it's only one person for you?
@Vegasrunner I didn't say that. I should refer you to my answers on the Soulmate questions.
I believe that each person has multiple POTENTIAL soulmates; but most of them they will never meet due to distance, culture, language, and other factors including pure chance.
(And obviously once you've picked one, they are the One. There are no do-overs. There is no such thing as a second soulmate.)
@Jamie05rhs Let me guess you're single? Have you ever thought that dating like a female is what has held you back?
@Veganrunner What do you mean? Can you elaborate?
Lol I mean Vegas, not Vegan. @Vegasrunner
@Jamie05rhs Men and women are different, and I believe that fact is difficult for both genders to accept. A woman can have success finding relationships, sitting back and waiting on their "soulmate" because they are the demand. Men typically pursue women, meaning that a woman can sit back, weigh all her options and then decide on the best one. A man has to be pro-active, meaning he needs to go out and acquire enough options to even give him a slim opportunity of meeting "his soulmate. Let's use basic math. Let's say both you specifically, and any woman in the world, decided that they wanted to meet their soulmate over the next year, w/ the only catch, being that neither of you were allowed to approach the opposite sex, Do you believe you would have equal, more, or less opportunities to meet your "soulmate" than that woman?
@Vegasrunner Oh yeah; good point. I will give you that one.
I have been talking to girls, though. I'm at least making an effort.
@Jamie05rhs Yep, that is step one. The next step is you need to learn how to get multiple girls attracted to you. Once you do this then if you choose to settle down that's different, from what I've seen to many guys especially young guys are so desperate that they put everything into the first girl that gives them attention.
@Vegasrunner I don't need to learn that. It happens automatically. It's the bane of my existence. I always have multiple girls talking to me at the same time. It's annoying. I don't do it on purpose; it just happens by chance. And then I never know which one to pick, because I don't know which one is going to ghost me once I start focusing on her and actually "pursuing" her.
@Jamie05rhs Unfortunately I not sure if I believe that. If that were true you wouldn't be as concerned about "picking one" or you wouldn't be concerned w/ being "ghosted". Guys who truly are successful w/ woman don't concerned themselves w things like that because
1. They realize they can have all of them they don't need to pick one
2. Girls don't ghost them because they have too much respect for them.
I've never been ghosted by a woman in life. A woman I used to bang explained why too me one day. She mentioned that she tried to ghost me however she believed if she did that she wouldn't hear from me again because she knew I had other options. Part of ghosting is a way to degrade the individual into pursuing, and she knew that she wouldn't get that satisfaction from me. If women are ghosting you it tells me that for some reason they don't respect you.
@Vegasrunner No, I cannot "have all of them.". Neither do I want to. I am a Christian.
@Jamie05rhs I realize you can't, my point is that men that understand women can. Rn what you need is experience. You already mentioned that one of your biggest fears was getting ghosted. TBH, you're never going to meet anyone much less a soul mate until you get out there and really learn how the dating world operates. It's tougher for you religious guys, I realize that but just take it step by step.
@Vegasrunner I don't think you understand. I am a religious man. I do not WANT to be the way you are. With all due respect and no offense intended. I only want ONE woman.
@Jamie05rhs Judging by the conversation, it appears as you're one struggling to understand. I don't think you could "be like me" when it comes to women as about 10% of men get about 80% of women. I'm simply asking if your female philosophy is what has kept you single? Also you brought up your fear of being ghosted, which contradicts your statement about "always having multiple girls talking to me" Which is a metric for success w/ women most successful men don't use. How long have you been searching for this "soulmate"?
@Vegasrunner Ok, you definitely do not understand. I very clearly and emphatically tell you that I do not wish to live the way you live. And then you say that I CANNOT live the way you live. That is a complete lack of comprehension on your part.
But I digress...
I have been searching for my soulmate since age 9.
@Jamie05rhs I think the evidence would show that you not only initiated that point and are the only one entertaining it. Please provide any sentence that implies I am trying to make you like me?
@Vegasrunner These are your words:
"Guys who truly are successful w/ woman don't concerned themselves w things like that because
1. They realize they can have all of them they don't need to pick one."
@Jamie05rhs Correct. So as you can see nothing in there even mentions you much less implies making you into me. TY. For validating my point, and admitting your error.
Haha! Nice twist there, buddy!
@Jamie05rhs It wasn't that difficult. There is nothing in there that supports your claim. Can you explain why you believe what I sent means I want you to be like me?
@Vegasrunner Because in your point #2 of the same post, you described yourself. And then in your following comment, you talked about wanting me to get experience and learn things (things that aligned with your approach and your worldview.)
@Jamie05rhs Now we're getting to the root of you're confusion. Please highlight we're I "described me"?
@Vegasrunner
"I've never been ghosted by a woman in life. A woman I used to bang explained why too me one day. She mentioned that she tried to ghost me however she believed if she did that she wouldn't hear from me again because she knew I had other options."
@Jamie05rhs That is an anecdote of a woman describing me. Where dies it say in there anywhere about you being like me? Sounds like you're searching for a way to justify a belief instead of just admitting you were wrong and moving on. That is what I mean by female metric. Clearly no where in our conversation have I mentioned anything about wanting you to be like me, you can't find anything that proves otherwise so now your jumping to illogical conclusions based on your own fears.
@Vegasrunner I don't think this conversation is productive at this point. I wish you a good day, sir.
@Jamie05rhs It's been extremely productive for me it's unfortunate you haven't learned anything. However this could be the reason you've failed in your original objective.
@Vegasrunner I was trying to end things in a polite way. I hope that you can reciprocate.
@Jamie05rhs End it how you want. Best way for you to do that is to just accept your failure and stop replying.
I would like to get married but to whom can be my best friend firstly, than my boyfriend or husband.
I do not want to be married unless they will allow me to marry a green peice of paper that's a federal reserve note.
I m married to 2 n i m living more than a happy life
You married 2 guys? I didn't know that was legal
@Sparkie460 no it isn't but hey if u can get away lol
Do they know about each other
@Sparkie460 they r brothers
I had my boys with one of them n when he was going to propose me the younger brother also wanted me n i loved them both so they both proposed me n we decided to stay together
So you married 2 brothers
@Sparkie460 yup thts right
Well alrighty then. Sounds like a win win for all of you
@Sparkie460 oh yes absolutely
Now the 2nd one is after me tht he also wants twins with me as the first one
Sounds like he is jealous of his brother for getting you pregnant
@Sparkie460 he said tht even before we got married lol so yea he is jealous about this bit
How long have you been married to each of them
@Sparkie460 we married at same time honey n its will be 2 years in next feb
Well congratulations. Hopefully you'll have many more years together
@Sparkie460 aww thanks honey šš
You're welcome.
@Sparkie460 šš
Only if the laws change or there is a prenuptial agreement first.
It depends on if it won't be a waste of time or disappoint in the end, which it most likely will, so don't really know
That's beautiful and I am sure your dream will come. You've got plenty of time at your age. I'd love to find love, I was a Commando and never met anyone and I'm a little shy.
Iām very happily married to the love of my life.
Back in a day iwanted to get married now days my opinion on marriage has changed I do not want to get married
Bo not married no this generation doesn't follow Godnor take marriage serious
I want to get married someday. I am just waiting for the right person
I'm not, i want to one day but I'm having the worst time looking.
A smart man will never get married.
A dumb man will get married.
Im single, Im available, I would like to have a family with some planning. I believe in a healthy happy family.
Just DM me for a date.
Half of me is willing to get married
The other half is feeding wedding bands into a furnace
No i'm not married.
Not sure anymore. Let's just see I'm not opposed to the idea of it. But I don't ever expect to find a woman worthy of that commitment anymore.
I want a lifelong partnership but not sure about marriage.
I happily married to a wonderful Chinese woman and we have a 10 year old son together 🙂ā¤ļø👍
i would be ok ending up with someone but marriage seems inconvenient
I want to marry Noura, from Syria. We like were made for each-other. Together We stand; divided We fall. Iāve reason very similar to Yours. Two parents are better at raising children than just one, and I support adoption.
I wasn't sure before but I do wanna find a girl to marry but problems keep popping up in my life and keeping me from getting anywhere.
I am married.
No, I don't like marriage since it can turn into a sexless marriage fast or getting divorced because she either got bored or found an upgrade.
No I am not and sure would love to be someday as well, not in a hurry obviously
@Horse-girl hey buddy how are you > ?
Hey I doing well, how about you?
Smart men don't get married
-Bone Tomahawk
I have been married for 26 years.
Yes, very happily married.
I'm happily married. <3
Nope and nope. Don't see the point in it
I don't want to get married ever in my life!
No. I never wish to get married.
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