My mother expects me to settle for less and sacrifice for a husband?

[Anonymous]

My mother has been married twice to two assholes and all her friends have the same story. Now she has found a proposal where they all expect me to bow down to the man’s wishes and do what he wants to he gets impressed and marries me and this guy seems like a complete fucking asshole who will treat his wife like utter shit.

Why do these stupid women try to make girls insecure? They keep telling me that when I get to 30 I’ll find it harder to get married because all boys older than me will be married already and that I just have to settle and bend to whatever anyone is offering now? Why are these women so fucking retarded?

[ohshee]

Maybe you need to explain to your mom, that she raised an independent daughter that has a mind of her own has feelings of her own and would like to make her choices herself and if it's a mistake it will be on her and not her mother or anybody else.
And when she pick somebody for you you can always point to your butt. And say mom , I already have an asshole. I dont need another one. And when or if I do think I need one I can find one myself

[exitseven]

Do not settle. Work to make yourself the best version of yourself, find yourself a good guy who loves you, learn from the mistakes of others.

[exitseven]

Thanks for the MHO

[Alwayreckles93]

Your momma needs a reality check. Don't listen to her. Work on reaching your goals believe me when you aren't looking for a guy it's when you at least expect it he will show up and you find the perfect match for you. It takes time on finding the right man for you. I was on a two year courtship and I ended in divorce. Right now enjoy life travel have fun reach on your goals make a savings account. Your mom thinks just because she had it miserable and she didn't know how to choose a guy she wants you to have a miserable life. NO you deserve to have it better.

[elizamichale1]

oh my goshhh... no honey u should absolutely avoid anyone telling u that sort of shit stuff... and tbh when to marry or not to marry is only your decision n no one else should or can make it for you... just tell them to shut their bullshit off n keep it to them n never ever be with a man who can't respect u or treat u good
if i had option of choose between someone struggling n living hardly and someone living good but treating women like that i would definitely choose the first one

[PrettyPriya]

You should never "settle" for anyone. You deserve to be with a person that makes you happy. Don't listen to all that noise about settling.

[bamesjond0069]

Because its true. All the best men don't date 30+ year old women. The best guys also don't marry obedient easy to deal with women. So either suck it up now and do pretty good even though its lower than your expectations or wait and then really get into something super fucked up or just stay single. Good luck.

[Asker]

Is this the best man according to you?

[bamesjond0069]

Best is non alcoholic non druggy earns decent money is attractive good at sex remembers anniversary and will get along with your family... that kind of stuff but if you think a druggy who works at mcdonalds is the best kind of man then ignore what i said.

[Jhonrembo]

It really does not matter if you have been offered to marry him. Nor should one be afraid to get married late. It is always better than not getting married well and suffering. In my opinion when it comes to marriage, one should listen to the heart and common sense. Parents can advise but you have to make the choice yourself.

[Zygum]

Do not accept this proposal, you are adult and grown-up, who is capable to find your match, it is your life not your mother 's, this world is vast, you try and definitely you will get your ideal partner

[Singlebimom]

Wait for the right guy... you have to love and live with him not them... and say to her... i have learned from your mistakes

[Anonymous]

Tell her that she has a bad track record for finding husbands. And that you will find one on your own.

[legalboxers]

follow your heart. Fuck arranged marriages

[pizzalovershouse]

Just find some one who treats you great

[Anonymous]

Dont marry that guy who thinks women aren't equals

[roy_ricky09]

Typical Desi