So if I choose to be a househusband, will my wife respect me less?

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like if I am OK if she works and takes care of family, and I just look after home and kids?

Anonymous · Accepted Answer

Fie, fie! unknit that threatening unkind brow,
And dart not scornful glances from those eyes,
To wound thy lord, thy king, thy governor:
It blots thy beauty as frosts do bite the meads,
Confounds thy fame as whirlwinds shake fair buds,
And in no sense is meet or amiable.
A woman moved is like a fountain troubled,
Muddy, ill-seeming, thick, bereft of beauty;
And while it is so, none so dry or thirsty
Will deign to sip or touch one drop of it.
Thy husband is thy lord, thy life, thy keeper,
Thy head, thy sovereign; one that cares for thee,
And for thy maintenance commits his body
To painful labour both by sea and land,
To watch the night in storms, the day in cold,
Whilst thou liest warm at home, secure and safe;
And craves no other tribute at thy hands
But love, fair looks and true obedience;
Too little payment for so great a debt.
Such duty as the subject owes the prince
Even such a woman oweth to her husband;
And when she is froward, peevish, sullen, sour,
And not obedient to his honest will,
What is she but a foul contending rebel
And graceless traitor to her loving lord?
I am ashamed that women are so simple
To offer war where they should kneel for peace;
Or seek for rule, supremacy and sway,
When they are bound to serve, love and obey.
Why are our bodies soft and weak and smooth,
Unapt to toil and trouble in the world,
But that our soft conditions and our hearts
Should well agree with our external parts?
Come, come, you froward and unable worms!
My mind hath been as big as one of yours,
My heart as great, my reason haply more,
To bandy word for word and frown for frown;
But now I see our lances are but straws,
Our strength as weak, our weakness past compare,
That seeming to be most which we indeed least are.
Then vail your stomachs, for it is no boot,
And place your hands below your husband's foot:
In token of which duty, if he please,
My hand is ready; may it do him ease.

HOAAH · Accepted Answer

it depends on every individual but here is what I witnessed:
girl meets guy, tells guy that she wants her career to soar and guy be the stay at home dad.
guy says ok.
girl gets a masters in finance.
guy stays home, kids are grown.
girl has experience, degree, income.
guy has no experience, no degree, no income.
girl bosses guy around as if he is a "servant" and always complains about him.
he is an introvert who doesn't go out much, has no friends.
girl's job keeps moving every couple of months, they have to up and leave to a new location.
Girl talks about how terrible guy is all the time, and is always degrading guy because she sees him as a lower human being since he is just a stay at home dad.
She makes rules, bosses him around, puts him down like all his ideas are the dumbest stupidest ideas ever, uses passive aggressive moves on him, uses emotional manipulation on him. If he ever cheats or leaves her then she will take the kids and he will never see them again. He is SCUM to her.
Guy finally kills himself.
girl moves on, and says she never loved him anyway. They were living together already and that's why they stayed together. She says now she is happy, she can sell his truck and buys a sporty car. She starts dating new guys, one here one there. He dies, she is out drinking and partying the night away with girlfriends. She is also angry that he just "jumped ship" on her and that everything is his fault and he just had "depression" and that's why he killed himself. She has nothing to do with it. He is demonized... and pitied. The end.

Carley99 · Accepted Answer

As long as she is ohk with it that she be fine with you as long as the house is kept tidy and food is on the table waiting for her nothing is wrong

TylerAaron921 · Accepted Answer

It really depends on your wife. It shouldn't. Since you wouldn't be earning your own income and helping towards the bills it may mean you have less independence and that she has more power in regards to finances. Personally I think it's great if at least one parent stays home to care for the kids and take care of the house. The care and guidance of a parent can't be substituted by a nanny or day care, and it means you are actively raising your children. I think as long as you and your wife currently share a mutual trust and respect then you'll be fine. Plus, it wouldn't have to be forever. When I was a kid my mom stayed home to look after us until we were in school. After that she would work while we were at school. In my opinion you should go for it.

pano2012 · Accepted Answer

Times are changing and times are changing fast. If I have to guess I'd say 20 years from now househusbands will be just as normal as housewives. There's nothing wrong with it per se as long as you're not staying at home to leech off your wife watching TV all day but really contribute significantly to the family unit.

Personally, I wouldn't want it, though. I prefer being the head of the household and I'd honestly feel a bit emasculated. Maybe it's because my parents are happy with old-fashioned gender roles and I grew up with them.

XRabbitHeartX · Answer

Not sure how it's in your country but in mine, with the poor economic climate, it's almost impossible to survive on 1 person's salary unless this person is a rocket scientist or have years of experience in a very high demand career. It's simply not feasible to me. I have respect for people who are homemakers (my own mom is one) but to survive financially I don't see it working. Has nothing to do with respect.

ElissaDido · Answer

I find this emasculating in a way... sorry.

btbc92 · Answer

No... Why should she respect you less? I respect men who wants to help around the house and be more engaged in their children's lives. A woman who disrespects you is undeserving of your love and loyalty. It is something that should be discussed properly. However there comes a time where both parties has to work eventually, or the taking turns of the roles. Not to use it as an excuse to not work. He has to at least have a Work at home job.

PlutoLastJuly · Answer

She should, a man's place is at work supporting his family. A woman's place is in the home, readying for her husbands return. It's the natural order of things. If women hadn't gotten the vote we wouldn't have so many rights for other people and the white American male would be paid enough to support his family on one wage.

Princesslee16 · Answer

I really don't like this idea because I feel that both partners should go to work so they can be able to pay for their expenses and support each other. I understand that you want to look after the kids and your home but you still can work while doing these things. Being a househusband will only bring more burdens to her. Help her out financially too.

vonasaurus · Answer

she shouldn't.

every woman is different. but my man and i agreed that, if we ever had kids (we aren't having them), he would stay home with them and i would work.

he enjoys cooking; i'm good at it, but generally can't be arsed if it take longer to make than to eat. he'd also be a better parent than i would, and we both know this, although we'd both be incredibly shite parents and that's why we aren't having kids lol.

AriadneSky · Answer

you looking after home& kids IS taking care of the family. she is supplying the money. you are ding the work.

helloitsmethere · Answer

My dad occasionally takes breaks from his job to stay at home (self-employed) because I'm ill right now and he always wants to be available just in case of an emergency. My mom is obviously still with him and still respects him lol.
In my opinion, I wouldn't respect you any less, but it depends on the woman because I'm seeing mixed reviews from the ladies on this subject..

vishna · Answer

Honestly, if I made enough money, I would be ok with my husband staying at home and assuming most responsibility for the children, cooking, and cleaning. However, he should have a small part time job to at least bring some income in. ex) he could make things out of wood or metal in the garage and sell them or work on the computer a few days out of the week.

Izumiblu · Answer

I wouldn't be ok with this, not judging, just saying its not for me. You'll need to find the right gal, im sure she's out there and as long as the two of you are happy then all is well in househuband land.

Warmapplecrumble · Answer

I think its a feminine role to be a housewife. I have no problem with a guy doing it.

My partner in fact hates the idea if I work more or earn more than him. He finds it makes himself weaker and less masculine. He's become very strong mentally, a mature man - the more he works, he says it himself.

I've always preferred to be a housewife. Than work for another man. I only do freelance, where I am the boss and my job is never a priority over my home or partner. They come first.

RicanEyes · Answer

I would love him either way lets say he was working for years then decided he wanted to stay at home I will be okay with it. I don't think that makes him less of a man

snowangle · Answer

Two of my best friends are married, and the wife works while the husband takes care of the home. They're probably the strongest couple I know.

Tony1974 · Answer

So sad but true my friend. We won't have equality until you get credit for being a SAHD that the ladies do for being a SAHM. Welcome to the #1 double-standard of sexism today. You will not be respected or appreciated for doing the "most important job in the world." As with most issues around equality, women talk a good talk but can't walk the walk. Check out the article link. It's very "enlightening"

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Mofunfour20 · Answer

If you love what you do you'll never work a day in your life and she'll understand but, make some money while you're at home because women hate excuses.

Elarra · Answer

It depends on what type of woman she is. Most women that I know would not be okay with that. But if your wife is, then I say do it. I personally would not be okay with that, though.

FakeName123 · Answer

Yes. Also she will get envious because you spend more time with the kids. Don't do it. It's gonna backfire most likely.

anaspie · Answer

This happens a fair amount these days.. there is nothing wrong with it as long as that work for the couple.

fauchelevent · Answer

I wouldn't respect my partner less. That's something that ideally, we would like to do, if I ever earn enough money to support the family like that.

writing_essays · Answer

I don't mind having a house husband if our kids are too young for day care like 6 years old or younger but only if he agrees to care for the children 24 hours a day cause I don't think I can handle the sleep deprivation of watching over a kid with irregular sleeping patterns

rjroy3 · Answer

Probably will. But I can't speak for her. I just know it's common for women to eventually realize down the road they actually care about things like whether or not you make more than her, whether or not you're dominant enough and yes whether or not you're a stay at home dad. Unless it is your dream I personally do not recommend you be a house husband. Because it's far more likely you'll both be happier if you're not.

BertMacklinFBI · Answer

give it another 100 years for the changes society is pushing for now to make a permanent effect

TheDevilInside · Answer

You just have to pick the right wo man who won't respect you less

Zendrya · Answer

If your family can afford that I see nothing wrong with it

Anonymous · Answer

of course, nobody is a househusband unless it's because of health reasons and can't work. People look down on house wife and call them lazy, gold digegr, etc... So you ll have the same.

dudeman · Answer

statistically speaking if you do this she is more likely to divorce you then stay with you.

Othman0111 · Answer

Even if she yes, she will not be happy for that dession for long time.

cinderelli · Answer

you have to look as hot as the guy in picture first.. lol..

NyomiMcClinton · Answer

Im not okay with a guy that does this. It will make me think he is lazy and doesn't want to work. That means that the burden will solely be on me to be the breadwinner in the relationship.

JoahZ10nT · Answer

i don't know about her. but i would want my boy friend to be working and i would be the one cooking and cleaning and looking for the kids. once the kids are enough to talk and do them as there self i would go back to work. but then again that is me

Puppylove94 · Answer

Honestly that's a bit feminine in my opinion. I prefer the traditional roles.

AynonOMouse · Answer

That would be my ideal relationship too if I could find the right girl for it.
She could be the primary family support while I take care of the home and kids. Take them to school and back, clean the house, do their laundry, massage my girl when she gets home from work each day, make dinner most of the days. That would be nice.

singlebee · Answer

I wouldn't do that... I would rather open a business where we both work :-)

Anonymous · Answer

I don't know about her but I would respect you less yeah.

Benk111 · Answer

with income inequality at the rate it is the idea of one family member staying at home is unrealistic unless your in the top 10%. Even if you had a wife that can afford to pay for everything if the economy crashed and she lost her job she would need financial support and if you have a long gap in your employment history it's hard to get decent paying jobs. 51% of Americans earn 30 thousand dollars a year or less.

JoyGirl · Answer

I honestly don't like the idea, but it would never make me respect the guy less. Everyone deserves respect...

Anonymous · Answer

Depends. Working at home is extremely hard and it's unpaid job. I'd never respect less my husband just because he is a househusband.
But there are so many husbands who don't respect their housewives so I don't know maybe some women whould respect you less

WhaChaChaKing · Answer

I wouldn't respect you less but I'd appreciate more money coming in.

Jockfulcrop · Answer

Um she probably would. I don't even think you should bring it up to her.

Anonymous · Answer

I wouldn't respect a man less for being a family man who takes cares of his families daily needs. I'd admire him and hold him in great esteem

Dream2winxx · Answer

She won't if you have skills at home and lovingly look after the kids

oddwaffle · Answer

As in being unemployed and ask your wife to work?

Can't you at least be more dependable and work at home instead? Sure they are low paying jobs but they bring in extra cash to the family that will certainly need it.

Jamisynsm19 · Answer

It depends on the woman I personally want a man that would be able to do both

Jxpxtxr · Answer

I wouldn't marry a guy with so little ambition in life to begin with. To each their own.

madhatters4 · Answer

it will depend entirely on your wife. some women will be fine with it some may see disrespect a man who opts to be a homemaker over a bread winner

Blitzkrieger · Answer

Do a job from home too like website designer. Its a good way to make some money from home.

Luci92 · Answer

No, some women are into that. Just not me.

SmokemJay · Answer

In REALITY a lot of women will be disturbed by your choice. I can give examples of men who are house husbands and they're EMASCULATED AS FUCK...

His wife made him sit down and pee when his daughter was younger so he wouldn't confuse her...

TheRebelReturns · Answer

All I know is that @Luci92 would emasculate the ever loving fuck out of you, sissy boy.

xxrockmexx · Answer

As long as we aren't struggling and if my husband can home school the kids, then sure.

ThisDudeHere · Answer

Chances are, most women would indeed respect you less.

ASEXY · Answer

We don't personally know who your wife is. It depends on what she thinks about it. My cousin is a househusband and his wife didn't lose respect for him.

ScottSummers · Answer

yeah she would actually, she would see you as someone who has no ambitions or goals and that is a big turn off for them

Akari · Answer

I wouldn't respect the person less

Bobby25 · Answer

No, if your wife lives you then she will respect you no matter what

matheus_mb · Answer

Well, this is between you and her. She's the only one who can say it.

lualesca · Answer

If she is a good woman, she will respect you regardless.

Kiran04 · Answer

Depends on the wife. Every woman is different. I'd say most don't want a househusband though, because that shoots down the idea of them being a house wife.

AdamThomas · Answer

Most of the time they respect the guy less even if it was their idea in the first place.

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