Stay at home wives are the only kind I would ever make a wife. I want a housewife for a few reasons.
1. Kids. I do not believe in pawning your kids off so they spend minimal time with parents. My parents never put me in daycare and I am very thankful for it.
2. I don't need the money. If you want a financially stable man, a second income is not really very important. The famous joke. Money doesn't buy happiness, I was just as happy when I had 48 million dollars as when I had 50 million! A little extra income will not be worth the effort if you have a successful partner.
3. I am established in my career. Not only do I make money but I can take as much time off as I want. A woman with nobody except the family to worry about can go on a family outing randomly or if before kids go on vacation on a whim. Lets have fun!
4. We don't need two people who get stressed in the house. One is enough. A calm sweet woman can tame the most stressed out man. Try being sweet after a rough day at work though. Nope!
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Forget everybody else, especially if they are the ones empowered to belittle you.
If you are truly empowered you will make the decision that you find you best for you.
Not my business, not your neighbor's business, it is your business. end of story.
In English its called "housewife" but in arabic it is called "Queen of the house" being a mother or wife is a full time job that should not be underestimated. Many people respect it except idiotic hypocritical feminist who call for women empowerement and the choice to he what ever she wants yet put her down and defrade her for what she choses saying things like "your so much more than a house wife?" What does that insinuate? Women were created to be care takers loving wne nuturing and it is one of the many thinge that make us beautiful and unique as well as happy. Why is being in touch eith our neighbor making us any less? Why do we have to act like men and get rid of our feminine quality just to be equal to them. We can be who we are naturally and be equal to a man. If it is what makes you happy go for it screw people because one way or another they will always find something to judge and he unhappy about. Do you sweetheart.
There’s nothing wrong with wanting to be a housewife. I mean it. But here’s the thing.
Most men who want a housewife want one for several reasons, mostly:
1. Because they feel like they want to be the utmost authority in the home
2. Because they want to easily control the woman financially. This makes the woman unable to escape a potentially abusive relationship and if she doesn’t have her own money, what on earth will she do?
It is extremely easy for a man with a housewife to abuse this power especially if there’s a prenup/postnup involved.
“I mean sure, until death do us part, but if you dare leave me you’ll leave with nothing.”
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I don’t think there is anything wrong with it, everyone has their own ideal life to reach for and everyone finds fulfilment in different things. If being a housewife is where your happiness is then the only person who has to be ok with it is you and your husband.
However, I think everyone needs to have some kind of skill and experience (or come from money) to be completely self sufficient should the need ever arise. People change, situations change and many, many housewives have found themselves with nothing. Husbands die, marriages fail, if he has an accident and is permanently disabled the responsibility is then shifted etc.
Absolutely not. If people tell you that there's something wrong with it, or that it's somehow going backwards, then they've completely misunderstood feminism, and everything that it stands for. It's about giving women the right to choose what they want to do with their lives. If you want to be a house wife, than more power to you. I honestly don't think it sounds that bad either. I'm going to teach, so I'm going to have a job, but part of the reason I like the idea of teaching is that the schedule works so well for parents. You're home at the same times your kids are. It sort of allows me to also do home keeping things.
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There's nothing wrong with it, it's just that feminism has convinced women that it's a bad thing. Look at the negative answers - they're always about how the man wants to control the woman in that situation, control her financially, he might become abusive etc. All negative assumptions towards the men, all based on the idea that if a man wants a stay at home Wife it must be for some evil reason. This is precisely why feminism gets the reputation for encouraging hatred of men, or at least mistrust, and it's feminism that has taught those women to view it this way.
What you want to do with your life is entirely up to you , nobody really has the right to tell you it’s a waste. Being at home raising a family is in my opinion certainly more rewarding than trying to hold down a career whilst doing the same. All I would say is not to pin everything on this one future. Life has a way of throwing you all sorts of curveballs that challenge the choices you make. Having the relative luxury of being able to raise kids providing all they’re needs whilst being financially sound is a challenge for most couples but certainly not impossible. Good luck though :)
I kinda frown on all the "do what you want" comments. Being the best person you can should be your goal until you meet that right person. When that time comes things could change & those choices will be between you two. I personally wanted my wife home at all cost to raise our kids the way we believe to be best. Not some daycare worker who has different beliefs & a number other kids. I worked as many as 3 jobs so she could stay home. And she did a wonderful job.
When you start taking on responsibilities, you'll realize doing what you want is less & less your choice. Having children is very demanding & they'll need love & nurturing. But the joy they bring is unmatched. Of course, they can also bring heartache. There is so much in life that is unpredictable.
To answer your question about listening to feminist, our culture has gotten so muddied by twisting the norm. Don't be afraid of the simple & always choose what seems right & moral.You are not going to get mocked, despite all the feminism going on nowadays I have to say that a woman gotta do what she thinks is right for her and what suits her, as a person you have the right to live your life however you want, a house wife, a working woman, anything you like.
Why do you think you will get mocked? Think of it that way, you will be a person who chose to stay home and raise her kids well, instead of going out and work, you will be someone who chose to take care of their house and husband, you're devoted for your family.
It's pretty that you want to be a housewife, I'm against it if you were forced into being one, but since it's your choice, do your thing, woman!
My mother is a housewife, my friends' parents are mostly housewives so yeah, it's not a bad thing! It's a pretty thing! ❤When I was your age I didn't want to be a housewife, but a girlfriend of mine did. She got married at 18, had 5 babies and decided to stay home and be a housewife. She loved staying home and raising her kids. She has been married for over 35 years, and is truly one of the best mom's you will ever meet 😊😊
It's not wrong but a lot of men these days can't afford it and/or they don't want the responsibilities that their fathers and grandfathers had to their women and we wonder why the divorce rate is so high! Men these days want as much pleasure as they can muster with as little responsibility as possible. It isn't entirely their fault given the economy but for me a man looking for a strong independent career woman is a codeword for a man who wants to take from a woman, use her for free sex and have no deeper obligation to her in this life. Real men are traditional in my opinion. It's depressing. I would have loved to be a housewife and think I am particulary suited to being the feminine counterpart to a man but the social conditioning has been a success and now they expect women to virtually the same as them in all things.
There's nothing wrong with wanting to be a housewife. I don't think the issue is women being housewives, but women being expected to be housewives. The great thing is that now women have a choice. If your choice is to be a stay at home mom, that's totally fine. The point is that you shouldn't let others make your life decisions for you.
There is absolutely nothing wrong with wanting to be a housewife and being a housewife. ❤️ It can be a great choice depending on the people and their circumstances.
Be sure that you are at least capable/qualified of a decent job when you ever need it, though. You don't wanna drop education early or have no skill and later end up in such financial troubles that you might have to do things that you never wanted to do. Just saying. I feel like if I don't say this I'll be harming your future.You can still be a housewife and be empowered. Running a household by yourself is a job only for the strong and willing. You're not considered any less or more if you're a housewife or a working mother. People have their opinions and that is okay. However, don't let their opinions dictate what you do in your life. That is where I stand on being a housewife. I hope my prospective was helpful.
This'll be a long answer, sorry... :$ But it's a good one so yea
Okay I watched a bunch of documentaries on this. And took a Sociology of Human Sexuality class so know a bit about the issue
In general, women, in United States, that have children don't have as many opportunities as their working spouse.
In general, if a woman starts to work while mothering a child, there will be a wage gap as opposed to men, specifically because the child would limit time the woman can work and make things a little complicated. It is partially because of sexism and stuff, like women earning $0.70 of every $1.00 men earn. But it's mostly the issue having to do with the time management while juggling a baby.
If you have Netflix I encourage you to watch the "Gender Wage Gap" episode on the Netflix show, "Explained."I also like the idea of being a housewife.
My boyfriend works his hands to the bone. The idea of being home all day to make sure he comes home to a clean house, hot food and affection makes me happy.
Forget what anybody else thinks, it’s not their life.Ok it would definitly not be anything for me, but i would say the most important thing is wether or not your husband is fine with it. at least i never meet a boy that would be fine with having a wife that stays home all day and doesn't have any own income at all.
You don't have to follow what society tells you.
It's your life. You just have to make choices that are legal. There is nothing illegal about wanting to be a housewife. Feminists can scream as loud as they want. You should not change your wants and beliefs because of them or anyone else. I would love a housewife because I believe traditional gender roles with some flexibility is the best way for us to survive. It's biological. And it has been proven ever since the first humans on earth.I don’t get why so many are ONLY looking for women who want to be housewives. Just because they work doesn’t mean she’ll leave her family behind and it doesn’t affect her children necessarily. My girlfriend and I both are in law school and we’re both striving to be lawyers. There’s nothing wrong with that. She supports my dreams and I support hers. I’m not going to tell her to get in the damn kitchen and be on her knees all day cleaning my house while I make the money and spend it however I want. That’s not a team at all, that seems like a dictatorship.
I don't get why feminists do that, it's like:
Feminist: Women should be empowered and do and be whatever they want with their lives.
Generic Woman: OK, in that case I want to be a housewife.
Feminist: NO, DON'T DO THAT!!! YOU'LL BE A PART OF THE PATRIARCHY YOU DUMB BITCH!!!
Generic Woman: I thought I could do and be whatever I want.
Feminist: You can, as long as I agree with what you want to be.The home is a womans kingdom, where she is in control, happy and fulfilled.
I am not being sexist. Today it's all too often necessary for women to work.
But don't let confused ideologists take you away from what feels (and is) natural.
You will find yourself feeling like you've wasted your life if you don't follow your heart not other people.When i was very little my mom worked at a Macy's for about a year. But felt she couldnt because she wantes to be home and be with me. Some moms can handle juggling kids and work but some can't. And there's nothing wrong with being a stay at home mom :)
I think if thats what you want to do, its a great decision. There are a lot of women who still prefer being stay at home and thats dsfinitely okay.
I feel the womem empowerment thing should focus more on being excited about the choice you have to work rather than making women feel like they're throwing their life away if they choose a more "traditional" type of role in the home.U seen to have your head screwed on: u tought it through! I an mist men would stay at home if there better half could earn enough to keep thing right! Most people think the one that earns most should work and the other stay at home if possible! Where it goes wrong is when money is to tight to mention: then it all falls apart! When money goes: love follows, with the strain! Well done for thinking ahead! Xoxo
No, it isn't wrong at all. It's your life and if it works for your future relationship, that's great. Aren't they trying to empower women to make whatever choice they want for their life anyway? If you want to be a housewife, then that's your choice and you shouldn't be belittled for it by anyone.
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