Is it weird for me to want to be a housewife?

[Anonymous]

All the women around me and women in my generation, couldn't even imagine this as an option. I'm constantly told to be the boss woman, lead myself, have a good career, you don't need a man, and so on. But since I was young all I ever wanted and dreamed of is being a housewife, it is literally the only goal that makes me feel happy and fulfilled.

I can't explain why I feel this way and when I do try the weird glares and stares I get are so evident and it sucks to feel so weird and wrong. Things that would make the women around me angry make me feel giddy and happy inside, for example, I saw a post of a woman saying she had the urge to clean up after her male friends since they frequently left their place messy.

Many people were upset by this and found it stupid that the woman would clean up after them. I, on the other hand, felt a huge spark and got so excited at the thought of cleaning up for them. Sounds absolutely crazy, I know... Even tiny tasks like ironing their clothing, packing their food for them, taking care of the household in general, just completely catering to their needs, I really reallllly crave to do these things non-stop. In the future, I'd like to have children for them as well. (them as in my future partner) These things don't make me upset or annoyed, they make me unbearably happy and I wish people wouldn't think I'm so weird or gross (I've been told this before) when I say these things.

I was once complimented on having wide hips and that they're great for giving birth, my friend who was present was disgusted, while I lit up. I feel completely out of place in my generation, and alone in these feelings, sometimes I beat myself up about feeling this way and I just wonder if there are other women like me?

[NamerOfStars]

Not really; it's just an unpopular idea these days. No, that's not quite it: it's a POLITICALLY unpopular idea these days. Many women, especially younger ones, were raised with the idea that being forced into being a housewife was horribly limiting, and that's not really incorrect; the problem is that many just accept the idea that this was somehow done to "oppress" women, rather than being a natural consequence of the way we evolved, and that some people might freely CHOOSE to live that way, and even be happier for doing it.

The determination that your political enemies are always wrong, and there's no justification for anything they try to do, is one of the scariest facets of modern society; if you ever have children, I STRONGLY suggest you encourage them, sons and daughters alike, to make genuine efforts to understand the views of those with whom they disagree. It not only helps smooth over conflicts, it makes life MUCH more interesting.

Anyway, there are probably many women like you; they're just quiet about it. There's less of a need to voice your views if you're not going against the zeitgeist, after all.

[Asker]

Thank you so much, I agree, and I also want to say I'm okay and fully supportive and what anyone would like to do, I don't think we have to do anything or have to live a certain way but I think we should at least respect each other's decisions especially if it makes us happy :) being understanding and compassionate is really something that has been lost completely unfortunately.

[Curmudgeon]

There is nothing wrong with your desires and it is sad that people tell you such femi-corporatist propaganda. And you might make an amazing mom.

But the hard truth is that you will probably have to find an older and more affluent man who is interested in this, because men in your own age range simply more often than not *can't afford* and are just plain more often than not *unready* to start families at their (your) age.

I knew and still know all too many women who started on the corporate ladder, often at jobs they really didn't and still do not like, because a man would be the kind of husband they wanted *just was not available* to them, or they never ran across him.

[NopeWhatTime]

If you want to be a housewife, go ahead! You should be able to choose your path

[Hispanic-Cool-Guy]

No. But you must take into the account the following before you do.

#1: What happens if this man suddenly becomes abusive, controlling and manipulative of you?

Do you have any resources apart from him or will you be totally dependent on him which carries a great risk.

#2: What happens if this man suddenly becomes seriously sick and can't work for months or gets laid off and can't find labor to his accustomed salary and lifestyle or worse dies unexpectedly? Will you be financially secured.

#3: Understand you as an adult being totally dependent on someone else to feed, clothe and put a roof over your head is giving them a lot of power over you and most men will abuse such power for their selfish best interest.

So be very careful what man you give such power over you lest you find yourself in a very vulnerable position if things go sour.

[Asker]

Hii, thank you for these great questions, I've definitely thought extensively about these before, and you're 100% right about everything, I'll definitely be careful and noo I won't be fully dependent on them, I'd actually feel uncomfortable or really bad making them carry all the burden, so I'll contribute to the household financially in my own ways and will make sure I have for myself as well ! thank you :)

[Jdmaamer1]

Believe it or not women by history usually wanted to be housewives and there's nothing wrong with that. (Yes I know later they wanted other stuff like the right to vote and serving in the military but that's not the point) It's feminism that tells you to not need a man, become an entrepreneur or boss babe. Good on you for not following that. Most guys like the type of girl who isn't full of herself anyway and would bear their children long term. You're legit wife material. Guys aren't that bad. But feminists have taken over society and have brainwashed women to believe nonsense about career, men, and standards. but how you think is how most traditional women think. Men are usually the providers anyway. So mad respect.

[jasco]

Their are and will always be women like yourself. Of course that depends on where you live. A lot of African countries women have this mindset as well, some parts of Asia. their will always be women like yourself, I hope you find a man accepting of you and i hope you live a wonderful life

[VikingWarLord]

Most women in foreign countries want that.
The WEST has told women to go be Dykes and Lesbians and get a jobby job and not have kids

[WhiteBoyChill]

Ya man. My friend’s Russian tutor openly stated women should be housewives

[driven159]

That's the way you are so be happy and do what you want

[rabbitzzz]

Embrace your dreams and whatever happens protect your honor as soldier.

[LegendaryIcon]

just means you're gonna be a gold digger, and you might want to tell them that up front

[Asker]

Well I'm definitely not I couldn't care less about money actually haha, but if you think that, that's fine I guess. But I absolutely intend to help with the income as most housewives do especially now, but thank you for your input :)

[LegendaryIcon]

I know a housewife, that didn't work, or give her husband any money

I GUARANTEE YOU, YOU WON'T GIVE MONEY

[Asker]

oooo I see, well that woman isn't a very good person I guess, good thing that woman isn't me 😂, anyway have a good day!

[LegendaryIcon]

i guarantee it

[Jintendo18]

There’s nothing wrong with wanting to do what you were created to do.

[Avicenna]

It’s just a preference. Nothing wrong with that.

[billmunch]

i'd love to be the housewife.

[AndrésC64]

Not weird at all. You do what makes you happy.

[WhiteBoyChill]

Nah that’s honestly fantastic!

[Iron_Man]

No it’s awesome

[888theGreat]

nope