Are marriages no better than loyalty contracts?

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Remember people —  loyalty has law in it.

HighlyVolatile · Accepted Answer

I'm going into the deep end of my own subjectivity which might hold little meaning or value to others -- understandably -- but I see beauty in structure and constraints and rituals even if those structures are flawed and sometimes rather arbitrary.

If I relate it to visual arts (one of my hobbies), my best sketches were always those I created by imposing the heaviest design constraints on myself. For example, with this speed Oekaki sketch of my former dog, I imposed the heavy artificial constraint of using only the bare minimum of colors and the smallest hard brushes and scribbling to let people's eyes blend the colors and tones while achieving a textural quality with the overlapping scribbles:

On top of those arbitrary design constraints that I imposed for the sake of that sketch, I was observing a whole bunch of other established and formalized artistic constraints like perspective, form, anatomy, values, color theory, lighting, etc.

For me at least whether we're talking marriage or visual arts or music, the only way I've found anything resembling something beautiful that I've expressed is by imposing such constraints on myself. I could throw out the rulebook, free myself of all such constraints, and splatter paint on a canvas but I'm no Jackson Pollock type able to find beauty absent such constraints (and Pollock still observed some basic ones like composition and rhythm; there was still a method to his seeming madness).

And so I value cultural constraints and structure and rituals. I enjoy breaking or bending some rules here and there, but I'm not the type able to create anything I find beautiful completely absent from them.

Marriage is like that to me. It's a cultural constraint I value and far more than a contract; it's the means through which I find beauty and expressiveness in the way I express my notions of love, family, and harmony with people. The ritual also helps to bind two families together. In the pursuit of meaning and beauty and harmony, I've found marriage a vital component at least in my case complete with its seemingly-arbitrary rituals and formalities.

Kaneki05 · Accepted Answer

If your devoted to church etc marriage it becomes more than that.
If your not devoted to god and also do marriage in the first ever intended purpose then it's simply a contract often made so some guy could get whatever woman he wanted as her property.
If your not devoted to god and also do marriage today just because it's a thing society does then it's nothing more than a loyalty contract that isn't needed if one truly trusted there partner but they will get anyway for seemingly no purpose since there not devoted to god.
Remember marriage wasn't a religious thing really until the Roman Catholic Church made it so. It was more of just a way to make sure a family would be created and that the man could bring forth heirs. And as one could imagine women were not treat the best either way.
And even someone like King Henry way after that fact still only did it for the real purpose of getting a son. Because that's mostly what it has always been about.

Fun fact about 4000 years ago give or take it was more of open marriages if one dare say basically they would have a group of alpha males as to call it that would share women they found most desired.
Marriage is weird.

Aerissa_Jade · Accepted Answer

Marriages existed long before the government got involved, the government got involved so they could deny marry to people for whatever arbitrary reason they wanted.

Being unfaithful has no real penalty, so I can't say they are loyalty contracts.

At the same time breaking any contract does have penalties associated with it.

Agape93 · Accepted Answer

To me, it's just a legal document giving others agency to control your life and finances in exchange for maybe tax benefits and a piece of shiny metal on your finger.

Dchrls78104 · Answer

Getting into a marriage without loyalty is like buying a vehicle for which there are no spare parts available.

TommyMountainFigure · Answer

A marriage is what you and your partner make of it.

slatyb · Answer

Modern marriage is a legality, mostly about property rights to the joint income.

silkjames · Answer

When people divorce whoever makes the most money pays for that break up😂 and why get married when u can be bff 🤣 jk

jshm2 · Answer

Don't be silly. There is no law in loyalty, and a marriage is a contract in wealth, health and alliance as well as other things.

Guy13 · Answer

Prenuptial comes with marriage contract. How does a loyalty contract function?

Tstrbrainer · Answer

I'm not very familiar with loyalty contracts. What are they?

notwoke · Answer

its the best way to use your pussy to put a male in a no win situation

call_me_scar · Answer

But when your married you get lower taxes

Jamie05rhs · Answer

What's a loyalty contract?

TX651 · Answer

Just puts a legal action on the relationship.

SignedAutographs · Answer

Yeah

Jude_Wills · Answer

Can talk about this

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