Should you do couple/pre marital counseling before getting engaged?

[Anonymous]

My boyfriend and I have been dating for 2 years, and are wanting to get married in the future.

His mom wants us to do couple/pre marital counseling before we get engaged, and I’m kind of opposed to the idea. I think pre marital counseling would be good when we are engaged for sure, but I don’t think it’s necessary in the dating stage, because although we love each other and want to make it work, we haven’t both made that commitment. Like the engagement commitment. I don't know I feel like if we did we would be skipping steps or like jumping the gun.

what do you all think?

Updates

+1 y

We don’t have any problems. So far we have pretty good communication and never have had “arguments”, rather when we feel something we share and work it out… etc. We are an interracial couple, and so that’s the main reason of why she wants us to.

[Guy13]

Yes. And, a church counselor woukd be good too.

[boggboss]

Do u guys have issues to require it lol

[Asker]

No, no issues. We are an interracial couple, and that’s why his mom was recommending it.

[boggboss]

Why would that mean u require it lol I'm also in one my girls white and we have been together for 5 years preparing to get married just confused as to why that would be needed

[Asker]

Oh that’s awesome! Yeah, I’m not sure. She keeps saying we might have problems because of it, and so I think she’s worried lol.

[boggboss]

But thats for u guys to talk about before hand example my girl has seen me and my friends been treated differently on street due to race or race playing a factor so she has seen potentially how our kids skin colour might play a part in them growing up again we deal with it by talking

[Luckycharms12]

Don't see reason to unless you need it