My prospect bride's family was asking about how much I earn. Is this normal practice in arranged marriage setup?

[ZZed5]

My prospect bride's family was asking about how much I earn. Is this normal practice in arranged marriage setup?

If not then how to respond to such scenarios

[Aakash_Hangargi]

Of you don't have a farming land or real estate and properties it's a fair question they are giving your daughter and if she is nt earning they want to know if you can take care of her for long time yup it's normal.

As aguy tell a little less than what you earn don't give them exact figure they will also ask for payslip give them but scratch out all the figures 🤑.

If you own a buisness then anything you say will be taken some people dont give their daughters to local business men.

And nobody will do farming but they still want you to own farm lands hahaha

[jshm2]

Of course it's normal.

They're not expecting you to say you're homeless and living out a trash can Oscar style.

But you think of it like an interview of sorts. They want to know your lifestyle and what their daughter and they can expect of you.

[jennifer_bloom]

An arranged marriage is always based on money unless both are poor or one is so rich that they don’t care about their lover’s money.

[LazerBean]

Well yeah if you aren't marrying for love then you should know if you're going to be getting anything at all.

[ZZed5]

Good point to be considered in arranged marriage, as you are not marrying for love, you should get everything other than love.

[LazerBean]

Exactly.

[Aakash_Hangargi]

Hmm you do marry in search of love it's just arranged for you.

I do understand that you are not in love and it wasn't your exact choice still being an Indian and if you are one of those guys who had very less chance to interact in a romantic way with a girl due to any reason .

How long will it take for you to fall in love with your own wife a girl and guy will definitely get the attraction..

And rest all the youthness will take care of and if you are lucky enough you would go in search of gold and you might get a diamond lol

[Iron_Man]

This is like a job interview they want to know how much you make a year to take care of their daughter. I think they’re worthless arranged marriages let the couples meet on there own and fall in love with each other

[ZZed5]

Even job interviews have around 5-7 rounds of interview..

[DermalPunch]

Of course it's normal. The point of arranged arrange is to find a two socially acceptable partners with high compatibility un the hopes that chemistry will grow from the relative hassle free situation when bith families are on board. Since it isn't an affair of passion maximum comfort is key.

[HelloImGoodThanks]

I would say that is something I am not comfortable talking about.

[ZZed5]

My parents are saying that girls parents want to know that so that they can have an idea if She's going to be happy with me or not. I think it's total BS & they are just bargaining looks & wealth.

[HelloImGoodThanks]

Marriage should be about love not about how much money someone makes

[ZZed5]

Yeah, but I've observed that parents of all the girls I've been set up with wants to know about my earnings.

[HelloImGoodThanks]

That's crazy I feel for you

[Guy13]

Yes it is especially in an India 🇮🇳 wedding. Dowry consideration as well

[ZZed5]

My family is not interested in dowry.

[Guy13]

I see…

[Anonymous]

It's normal that they ask you this because they want to confirm if their daughter will get enough food, shelter, lifestyle from you after marrying you. So they ask you this

[ZZed5]

what do you mean by "enough" food & shelter?

[Opinion Owner]

They just don't want to give their daughter to a guy who is financially poor who can't be able to provide her required food or good shelter. So they ask it out of formality. But money shouldn't matter much to her if she loves you truly. Your care and love is what all she must care about. Financial stability, food, shelter is what you provide to her without she asking you. Her parents asking you is common and they ask you the question out of affection on her. So it shouldn't matter so much to you or her. Just make sure you can look after her financially and also witho love, care and dedication

[Opinion Owner]

* Just make sure you can look after her financially and also with love, care and dedication

[Anonymous]

women are prostitutes they do not love men IN GENERAL

its all over the internet

THEY JUST WANT YOUR MONEY

[Anonymous]

I still won't tell them I'm batman.

[In_Trance]

yes it is