What role makes a woman feel safe and secure, "Housewife" or "Working wife" & why?

[TonyMetal___86]

[Brainsbeforebeauty]

Probably a working wife...

When people talk about gender roles and how things "used" to be when the man worked and the woman stayed home.. They don't mention enough how many women got left with no money, no job, no education.. How safe would that be for a woman... NOW there's child support, etc. but that wasn't 'always" the case..

I think women today, feel more safe knowing they have their "own" safety net...

[TonyMetal___86]

Chose helpful for your answer miss brains muffins but you do know that i have my point of view 😁

What if they kicked her out, what if her job wasn't enough to pay for everything what if she worked hard but ended up losing everything?

When a housewife feels that her husband's money is her money too cause they are one and eventually he is working hard for the sake of his family, why would she feel unsecure and affraid?

Especially you know that in a traditional holy marriage there ain't no cheating or divorce, so why would a woman feel unsafe?

[Brainsbeforebeauty]

That's how it's "supposed" to be or said to be but sadly that's not the "reality" for many people

[TonyMetal___86]

Well it was supposed to be that spongy forehead humans are only found in fairytales until i saw you and shouted that the myth is busted 🤣🤣

Miss brains muffins can also be pulled by her spongy forehead 💆🏼‍♀️ 😬

[Brainsbeforebeauty]

Yeah you just go ahead and try...
"You feel lucky, punk"? 😁🤣

[TonyMetal___86]

I ain't and was never a punk, i'm a cave man who's going to drag that naughty spongy forehead to my cave so she makes me 50 muffins a day 👹🧁

[Brainsbeforebeauty]

Sorry, oven out of order🤣 or I think there's a good shortage of muffin baking supplies🤣

[TonyMetal___86]

That oven, i must fix it for you so the sponge's excuses vanishes 😁

[Brainsbeforebeauty]

Gonna get me a new hand too?

[Apple1996]

If I had to work I'd only be doing it because I didn't feel safe enough and would make sure I had a way to leave the relationship if needed. Being a stay at home mom makes me have to trust my husband enough to provide for me/his kids. That trust is strong enough in my relationship that I feel safe staying home and not working.

[TonyMetal___86]

As long as their is real love and you both believe in a real marriage than no need to freak out, you will remain both with eachother forever 😌

[itsalyssaagain]

I feel safer working and providing for myself because naturally I'm a hardworking alpha woman. However, I love the idea of submitting to a man and providing him with a 'home' in the real sense. But that takes a special kind of a man - a REAL man - for me to come out of my alpha state and feel safe enough to submit.

[TonyMetal___86]

A wise answer from a wise rapunzel princess, if your answer came before giving the mho's, for sure i would of picked it up for an mho 😌
A woman cannot feel safe and secure if there ain't no man to make her really feel like that...

[itsalyssaagain]

Thank you :)

[TonyMetal___86]

You're welcome 😌

[JosyJosy]

Working, you make money, I make money, more money!

[TonyMetal___86]

But you know miss Josy that not everything is about the money 😄
Anyways i respect your opinion...

https://m.youtube.com/watch?v=67KnmMCJSBk

[JosyJosy]

Yep. But you talked safety and the more money, the bigger our safety cushion.

[TonyMetal___86]

Yep but if he's capable to pay the bills and provide food on the table and have a simple happy life, would the wife still feel unsecure?

Is it possible that she's affraid that one day he might dump her or tell her that his money ain't her's too?

[JosyJosy]

O for sure! I was thinking of the safest.

[TonyMetal___86]

Do you know miss josy in a holy real marriage there will be never someone who cheats or divorce which means your highest safety is the presence of you're husband only 😌

In a real marriage, a man won't let his housewife feels that his money aren't her's too because they are one and in the end the man is eventually working hard for the sake of his family!

Ofc usually the wife asks her husband to give her money if she needed something necessary but it's okay if she needed the money and took without asking because the husband knows that his wife does the best for her family too, just like he does!

[JosyJosy]

O I'm aware, it's not that what I meant. I'm just thinking for example a house fire or something, being able to build it back up with that safety cushion that you both worked on.
But now that we're talking about holy marriage... It's not that I don't trust my partner, he's a good man. But when I look at people or things I hear about all the divorces... it feels like people forgot what holy marriage is and they just "say the words" to have it, you know?

[TonyMetal___86]

I surely do sweet miss josy but what matters is what YOU and your partner believe in!

Do you think that all these people really do know what a marriage is? Hehe

They don't!

They think that it's a game that they can reset and start again anytime they want or they think that they can leave anytime they want!

Sadly marriage is so underestimated these days because of the people who are getting married and not because of the marriage thing!

Some think that they can fall in and out of love just like that, a on/off switch button 😄

The importance of a real holy marriage is the blessing of god and making the couples as one spiritually and physically, also to turn them into a family...
Some think that marriage is just a contract, signing papers, who cares about the contracts and the signed papers just cause they are required from the government!

The core of the marriage is the presence of god in it to bless the love of the couple and make them one!

[JosyJosy]

People don't take it seriously anymore I feel like

[JosyJosy]

I feel like they treat it like a second new relationship where anything can go wrong etc

[TonyMetal___86]

True and that's why there is a huge increase in divorce rates!

[JosyJosy]

Mhm! I hope I'm not going to be just another one on the pile, but we're going strong.

[TonyMetal___86]

No one dumps the sweet miss josy because she's one those rare good loving ladies, i hope that he has the same mindset as you...
If he truly loves you, knows what a real marriage is and have faith in god than for sure you won't end up on the bad path!
I'd like to see miss josy happy and having the good things coming towards her because she's someone good 😊

[JosyJosy]

I hope so! It's going great so far, but we're only like 2 years in, it's pretty fresh. Time will tell!

[TonyMetal___86]

Sure! Time, actions and his care towards you, also the way he treats you will show who he really is...

[JosyJosy]

Agreed

[SClassWizzard]

Working wife

[TonyMetal___86]

How do you know?