Since many men are opting out of marriage why date?

[cth2188]

What's the point of dating? Is marriage a rare thing?

I have a lot to offer, but refuse to deal with this generation pretaining to dating and marriage how God is not incorporated in anything including the vows. Extremely iffy about marriage and dating nowadays

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Wanted marriage , but after looking at today's dating world no.

[caring__1]

If you read what people post here, all guys want is sex. That may be true for some, especially the young ones, but that's not true for all. There are many people who want a long-term commitment with one person, yet, for whatever reason, don't see the value of marriage as an institution. I understand there are many people who want to marry, because their religion says to do so, so they can be fruitful and multiply, so there are more people to feed the religion. Not everyone believes that, and not everyone is interested in having children or having more children. Some people just want a committed long-term connection without the complications... based on equality, not a provider/dependent situation. There are many options to satisfy whatever people are looking for. There is no one size fits all option that fits everyone. Just as others appreciate consideration of their choices, we appreciate when others are considerate of our choices.

You ask why men date when they're not interested in marriage. That's like asking why invest your money if you have no desire to become a billionaire. Never assume each path only has one outcome. People date because they want to date or to meet someone special. They also date because they prefer doing things with someone else rather than alone. Sharing an experience adds special dimensions to that experience. For instance, have you ever attempted to tickle yourself? It will never feel the same as someone else tickling you.

[cth2188]

That's great people can do as they choose I don't waste my time in this generation or deal with modern men. I don't have time to weed through men to find a man whose not like the others if he's out there he'll find me. I don't seek love.. yes my religion and belief system I will not date a guy who has no intention of marriage. I don't shack with men nor have sex unless married.

[cth2188]

This is why the Bible talks about dealing with uneven yoked unions meaning I wouldn't date a guy whose not religious or follows the Bible or God's laws.

[cth2188]

Those people should find inviduals who share the same sentiments- furthermore I domt date modern men

[cth2188]

Why do you care so much

[caring__1]

You have every right to your beliefs, but that doesn't necessarily minimize the choices of others when they are seeking a different outcome.

[cth2188]

I will not date anyone who doesn't share my religious beliefs meaning a God fearing man who is a pure blood not contaminated with spiked proteins from the covid-19 vaccines whose temples are defiled

[cth2188]

I have many beliefs and standards and in church 3-4 times a week my mate will have to be committed to God

[cth2188]

Don't ^

[cth2188]

I deal with God fearing men who follow God

[cth2188]

I'm a trade woman

[cth2188]

Traditional

[caring__1]

It's perfectly fine to follow your beliefs, but you asked for the reasons men date if they aren't interested in marriage. I merely answered your question with examples of reasons men date if they aren't interested in marriage. I'm not interested in debating your choices.

It's like asking why people go fishing, only to release the fish back into the water. You may believe fishing is just to provide food for your table, yet others fish for many different reasons. To ask why they fish and then insist they have to eat the fish only gets people to question the reason you asked the question in the first place.

[cth2188]

I appreciate your thoughts I'm firm and strong 💪 🙏🏽

[cth2188]

I fear God's wrath

[caring__1]

I never understood people choosing a religion based on fear. Is God so terrible he needs to be feared? Will your husband need to be feared, also? This reminds me of people staying in abusive relationships and convincing themselves they deserve the abuse they get.

For those who want a philosophy that doesn't say anything contrary to any religion, read the Tao Te Ching. It is older than the bible and is based on consideration for others and what makes sense rather than fear.
www.wright-house.com/.../tao-te-ching.html

[cth2188]

I'm not religious just a believer in God and firm in religious beliefs as I'm traditional and a child of God and Jesus Christ

[cth2188]

I don't live in fear, but fear God and his wrath

[cth2188]

I don't follow a religion as I attend an apostolic church 🙏🏽

[Summeroflove]

Do you mean men who intentionally don’t want to marry? Or just don’t find someone to marry?

Some people date to sleep around. Some might date for fun but that’s about it.

There are people who are like you. Who have not found someone worth settling down with or don’t share their beliefs and standards. So. They dare trying. To find someone. But don’t.

[cth2188]

I'm not seeing anyone , but open to friendship and that's about it in this season , but beyond that if everything in the world wasn't going on I'd be iffy about dating still.

[Summeroflove]

Yeah. It’s definitely getting darker in these days. That’s for sure.

[Summeroflove]

What I don’t understand is how some people date. I won’t do online and I don’t like just approaching random strangers or random strangers approaching me. I like to know someone.

Even if someone dates online because there is not many other options. The fact that someone is so willing to go to a strangers house, bring a stranger to their house, ride with a stranger, or give a ride to a stranger is astonishing.

[cth2188]

I don't online date and don't want to date its better to be single in these days with all these viruses and illnesses around - lot of wickedness

[cth2188]

I don't want or need the headache pretaining to dating- I don't mislead men on or waste their time even giving them an ounce of hope because I don't want it nor compete against any woman for dating. If I'm going to date it'll be someone over seas

[Summeroflove]

Yeah. True. A lot of evil these days

[Summeroflove]

Yeah. That makes sense. Maybe God has called you to singleness

[cth2188]

That's fine single is great

[Summeroflove]

Yeah. Me personally. I want to date. But I won’t date bad women. Women who sleep around. Women who are entitled and one sided.

I would rather be single though then with someone who makes me absolutely miserable

[cth2188]

I have married men in my DM if there not married their dating and or in open marriages / unward generation of course I turn down these men

[Summeroflove]

Why would someone cheat on their wife with a random stranger? Disgusting

[cth2188]

Welcome to modern dating and now you understand why I move the way I do

[Summeroflove]

Yeah. I’m the same way. I avoid a lot of types of women.

[cth2188]

Why would he cheat I don't know

[Summeroflove]

If you’re happy single. That’s all that matters.

[Summeroflove]

Makes no sense. If they’re in your DM’s with the intentions of a romantic or sexual relationship. It’s creepy

[Summeroflove]

I find it disgusting that some people just sleep around.

[cth2188]

I feel for these wives married to these men

[cth2188]

I just sit back and observe/ watch

[cth2188]

No judgment

[Summeroflove]

Yeah I do too. Imagine being loyal to someone and they cheat

[cth2188]

Yep emotional and mental trauma to the psyche this is why we have to guard our hearts

[Summeroflove]

Amen to that

[cth2188]

Yes..

[sassy_receptor]

i don’t date for fun. i date for marriage and marriage only. i will not have kids or play house with someone who does not make me a wife first. i’m lucky that the men i have encountered want marriage and to be fathers. i make sure we have the same goals for the relationship by the third date.

[cth2188]

Nice same here I took a break from it all lack of suitable mates

[Amarah0]

Marriages aren't necessary anymore unless for religious reasons. I'm sure you can still find someone who holds the same beliefs as you.

[cth2188]

I am not looking or expecting anything anymore

[Amarah0]

That's entirely up to you. But because you've made that choice complaining is kinda pointless

[cth2188]

This isn't a complaining post it's a hypothetical question

[tzdc21]

The marriage thing is because of the ways the laws are set up. Women can easily destroy a man in the courts if the divorces occurs. And over 50 percent of marriages end in divorce, and 80 percent of them are initiated by the woman. So that's why guys don't want to marry anymore. Dating however gives them the benefits of a marriage without necessarily dealing with the threats of the government.

[DaySpring]

All due respect, we are are our only problem and our only solution.

People complain about men and women but those same people have no clue what they are doing when it comes too dating.

Generalizing also doesn't help us.

[cth2188]

No generalizations but definitely done with men of today

[cth2188]

I agree why I'm out

[cth2188]

I wish both sides the best

[Cubus]

Dating is to get to know the lady you want to marry and check if she's right for you.

[cth2188]

Boom intentions of marriage 💑

[HighValue]

Most men that don't want marriage just don't want to be stolen from. Agreeing to a prenuptial would often change their minds over time.

[cth2188]

I will never marry American men and if I can't find a mate to marry remain single I will not be shacking or dealing with a man with no intentions of marriage

[cth2188]

To each their own

[Sixgunsound]

Men that are worth a woman’s time are opting out of marriage because there are so few women worth a man’s time.

[cth2188]

Yep I'm just hanging on the fence

[cth2188]

Just watching

[Sixgunsound]

That is probably for the best.

[cth2188]

Watching the shyt show of a century...

[Sixgunsound]

So I’ve always wanted to ask someone who would actually answer this: why is it that women get to expect men to trust them enough to gamble their life savings house car civil rights and freedom on whether or not the woman will get bored or get a Chad, well man don’t get to say to women ‘if you trust me enough then you don’t need a marriage contract’?

[cth2188]

Religious stances on my end I couldn't shack up with a man with no intentions of marriage for the long haul. Why I couldn't invest with a man whose not the one. I have the money , car, and etc with or without a man.. most men think some women marry for these things. I already have these things before I met a man.. I rather be single then shack up and fornicate which most are doing. I just had a guy ask me for sex don't know him and less then a hour he's asking me for sex. [ he could be vaccinated he never acknowledged he wasn't or was ] I kindly declined and told him him I don't shack nor date vaccinated guys

[cth2188]

God laws protect women why women and man are under God's protection through marriage

[cth2188]

A lot of men don't follow God or God's laws why marriages are doomed and etc...

[cth2188]

I will stay celibate and single staying under God's laws and protection

[Sixgunsound]

Ever since government got into the marriage business, things have gone downhill. Wouldn’t you agree?

[cth2188]

Yes, but God laws still stand

[cth2188]

There are marriage contracts without the government involved

[cth2188]

I will probably remain single and celibate until death and I'm ok with that there's too many illnesses and death now for me to catch anything or mingle with anyone fornicating

[cth2188]

My apostolic pastor went live to address this as he's reading my mind and must knew this was a challenge. I will never date a man whose not going to marry..

[Sixgunsound]

There doesn’t seem to be much of a point in dating someone who refuses to marry.

[cth2188]

Agreed

[whiskeyontherocks]

Even without marriage you can still have a healthy relationship just saying

[cth2188]

I don't do relationships without the intention of marriage since many are opting out marriage- I don't date

[cth2188]

I will not date a guy whose not plan on marrying sorry

[Guardian45]

Marriage is NOT ALL THAT! Been there, done that, bought the T-shirt!

[cth2188]

Thank you for your opinion lol

[VikingWarLord]

Marriage ain't worth it anymore

Too much easy access to new people for both men and women.

It was already a dumpster fire before the internet, now there's no putting the genie back in the bottle

[cth2188]

Ikr I'm glad I got out whew

[misogynistic_pig]

To have casual sex.

[cth2188]

I pass

[cth2188]

Plenty of toys exist for that unless women don't want to do the work

[FilmGuy93]

They still crave intimacy

[cth2188]

Unless they can't find a toy to get the job done. 🤷 most toys do the work by the way... I guess to each their own.

[FilmGuy93]

Nah. Intimacy is so much more than sex.

[cth2188]

Intimacy is making love women's expectations are too low for me

[FilmGuy93]

A lot of men are bringing some weak sauce. On my first date with my girlfriend, she interrupted the date to go on a 10-minute tangent about how shocked she was that I was exactly who I claimed to be. You gotta be careful about surrounding yourself with wholesome people, because those people will bring wholesome men into your life.

[cth2188]

I know I don't expect much nowadays not saying men are use less- I'm hidden honey I'm not out there with men

[cth2188]

I don't want to be found at all me being friends with men sure dating no

[FilmGuy93]

Understandable. The only thing I would say is that you should probably be careful about preemptively shutting down connections. You might come across a really great guy without realizing it.

[cth2188]

Oh it'll be ok lol I'm so comfortable single I wouldn't know if he showed up