In my marriage of 1month we lost intimacy and feel like neglected I'm not sure what to do about this. What would you do?

[Anonymous]

I married a month ago civilly, but since the marriage everything changed. He became more mean. He stopped working. Even for searching a job he applied only 2places and spend his day only sleeping, watching movies or playing games. He can't go 20days without weed... and all this wasn't like that before. Another thing is that since this marriage we don't really have had intimacy only once or twice. What should I do? Especially when finding this situation annoying? We were supposed to get married religiously by the end of the year but right not I'm just regretting thing about this marriage and I don't know if I want to stay like this.

[Guy13]

😱, sorry to hear that the mean showed up. After just married the legal and emotional realities hit but not like that. Usually people want to work harder and get in their own place for that first two years.
Church counselor?

[Asker]

No we haven't seen one yet

[Guy13]

Oh, I see. Pre-marital counseling.

[Anonymous]

i hate to say it but you married really young and this is usually what happens when you marry young... i doubt both of you were 100% ready. i can tell because look how he is acting... he is acting like he's depressed because he made a mistake marrying so young. he's not even having sex with you. what kind of newly weds don't have sex regularly? ? especially young newly weds. something is weird and i feel like you will get divorced. maybe you should, you shouldn't have to feel like this after getting married.

[20yearsolder]

If you have the opportunity to get out of this relationship, then run like the wind. He doesn't respect you at all. He should be providing for you. He should be making love to you nightly

[gorydetails]

It sounds like you picked a winner. You should talk to him and if he won't change, cancel the wedding and get a divorce.