What do you do when intimacy with your partner gets unsatisfying?

[Sun_Kim-Ai]

Either in quality and/or quantity?

I think it's inevitable, in a long term relationship or marriage, to hit dry spells or periods where due to stress, children or other issues the passion dies down.

My wife and I went through a couple of those streaks - three children and our careers do take their space - and are sort of having one at the moment.

She's right in complaining that it's been a month of "tomorrow night", so I was thinking of taking Friday as a vacation day and organize something neat - like a night out and an evening just for us.

What about you?

[madhatters4]

first try to understand on your own why there may be a lack or reduction in sex quantity ro quality. for example you have 3 kids so you can probably draw your own conclusions as to the why. you've done that.

then you try to communicate with your partner... again you did this.

so how to solve the matter. try to determine times when sexual intimacy is possible within the frame of your life. make an effort to have intimacy during those times. perhaps to rekindle a connection you can try to get away for an evening, overnight or longer

[CallmeTheKnight]

I think the best thing to do is to start with in-depth communication with each other to understand what’s going on for both people. Then the both of you should take time doing the things that you love all the while exploring new options that can reignite what you currently have. Go on dates to places the both of you have never been here. Also get a new and healthy routine that involves improving your looks and your health, Also, trying on new clothes to improve your wardrobe with new fragrances.
Also, get your blood levels checked, because sometimes hormones can play role in the decrease drive.

[katiesmuff]

We have been very careful to always include private time for us at very liberal intervals and it has worked very well. Fortunately I have parents close enough who love to have the boys visit them for overnight visits.

[HaleyCatgirl]

Pull out the claw yell Taser Taser Taser and then see what happens

[OlderAndWiser]

Yes, it is important to understand that marriages are not like perpetual motion machines and they are not self-maintaining. Marriages need attention and effort. I think your plan is good. You need to remind each other how special you are.

[RavVid]

I think it inevitable. A friend took the approach that would chase his wife for a week or two the just stop. Her reaction was to start chasing him. He swears by it now.

Your Friday vacation sounds a good idea..

[Altheavas]

Talk with each other and ask what’s missing, and how can you spice thing a little more to make it more enjoyable.

[virtue2332]

I've been married over 20 years and yes it can happen. The only thing that fixes this is communication and more intimacy. Good sex always leads to more sex

[Gent207-2]

5 months into a dry spell - 2 months post-second kid

I'm just trying to resist the urge to ropeless bungee jumping 😩

[Ad_Quid_Orator]

Ben Shapiro's wife just told him that an indication of arousal is actually a medical problem:

https://www.youtube.com/embed/2GE7wxG8uJ4

[Anonymous]

Communicate and try to do different things to spice up the intimacy between us.

[Anonymous]

That only happens when the spark is gone or people give up putting in the effort.

[exitseven]

I jut wait a while. It will get better.

[Iron_Man]

Those are two women in your pic