If you constantly withhold affection and intimacy from your partner can you honestly be upset that they cheated on you?

[Finchie40]

If you are in a relationship with someone and they are constantly showing you love and respect and you are constantly pushing them away and not showing the same in return even after they express their feelings of concern to you , Can you honestly be upset if they ended up cheated on you? Me personally would never do this in a relationship , meaning I would never withhold intimacy and affection from my partner for a long period of time , but if I did and then I found out they cheated on me , I wouldn’t blame them cuz I would realize I was the asshole in the relationship , the only way I would be upset is if they tried coming back to me like nothing happened. When I hear stories of people cheating on their partners after nothing was being fixed in after they expressed their feelings Of concern I don’t feel it’s that wrong if they leave that partner the second they cheat , people act like a partner should be there walking punching bag and act like it’s ok to withdraw from their partners physical needs , I’m sorry but if you can’t prioritize your partner like they prioritize you , you deserve every ounce of being cheated on , We don’t get into relationships to be single , if you can’t give the same affection and intimacy that your partner is trying to give to you then wake the fuck up and realize you are the piece of shit in the relationship and that you pushed your partner away , You weren’t put on this Earth to be catered to , we as people Can only give what we want to receive , so even though I would be hurt that my partner cheated on me I would realize I deserved it for being a piece of shit

[Киттйлинк]

if someone is withholding affection or anything else that you are not happy with, talk it out and if they don't care to fix it, then end it so you can go have your sex with someone else. There is no excuse for cheating. if you don't like something in your relationship fix it! and if it's not fixable because you don't want to, or the other person doesn't want to then break it off so you can go get what you are so desperately missing. SMH ridiculous when people want to justify anything for cheating. if it's not being fixed for whatever reason why stay? just to cheat? WTF is wrong with you and those who think like you? Leave the person. The End. 🤦🏼‍♀️

[Finchie40]

Yes that’s the proper way of leaving an unhappy relationship, end it , but most people are cowards and selfish and look for a replacement before they make their final move , it’s pathetic but that’s how most people are , I have slept with married women that I didn’t know were married until after the fact , when I kind out they were married they would cry to me and tell me that their husbands were assholes and treated her like shit , I would just tell her you need to go divorce your husband cuz you truly don’t love him if you can cheat on him , but sadly some of these girls went back to their husbands and acted like nothing happened cuz they were scared of losing what was already invested in that marriage , which to me is the stupidest thing ever, How can you go back to someone you truly don’t love and value? The cheater is just wasting their time being with someone they truly don’t love. Bottom line most people are selfish pieces of shit

[Agape93]

Yeap. Because instead of being normal and just leaving or coming to a compromise, you lie to them, betray their trust in you and risk their health, all so you can get laid.

[DaveJord]

Yes you/they can be upset... because you stayed in the relationship. You should of bailed on that person early... and been honest about your feelings. If they are not meeting your needs then you should of ended the relationship.

Now if did all the right things and told them you not happy in the relationship, and then cheated anyway and they got upset about it... why would you care?

[notwoke]

welcome to be a married man of this age. it only gets worse. Don't expect any flexibility from an female commenters but most men your age struggle with this. If she didn't have the option to leave and get half you would be getting laid. I support your position on this completely as do most men I expect

[Juxtapose]

There are three female respondents and only one of them does not have me blocked. Thanks @Киттйлинк !

But yeah, people who get so comfortable in a relationship that they think they can withhold affection and not face repercussions actually do deserve to be cheated on in my opinion. Fuck 'em.

[SamA_nold]

I wonder why…. 🙄

[Juxtapose]

@SamA_nold no hugs or anything for months, she ain't gonna miss him anyway.

[DizzyDesii]

Both parties are wrong and should have broken up. If you're not ready to love them, leave them. And if you feel like you're going to cheat, talk it over or breakup

[Dchrls78104]

Affection, intimacy, and sex are part of marriage; and so are loyalty, honest and open communication, and fidelity. Anyone incapable of any of the above mentioned things should stay single and does not belong in a relationship!

[Mbizzay]

If your partner doesn't show you the love or respect you want, and you've talked to them, then you should leave. Yes, if you a cheat on a partner then that partner has the right to be upset.

[douride2]

If there is nothing in the relationship anymore just leave. Go your separate ways then find a new partner. Why cheat. That is just so low.

[Finchie40]

Because most people cheat when they don’t get their way in a relationship , most people are cowards and look for a rebounds before they end a unhappy relationship , yes it’s pathetic, but that’s how most people are sadly to say , they feel if they have a replacement it’s easier for them to walk away , cuz they are scared of what’s going to happen to them and feel someone else can support them while they are moving out , I hate to say it but I have got with some married women that I didn’t know were married , they cheated on their husbands with me cuz they were looking for an out, they were scared of leaving what was already invested in their marriage and scared of leaving their husbands. . The second I found out these girls were married I told them they need to leave their husband and file divorce , most of them ran back to their husbands and acted like nothing happened , Cheating is one of the worst things you can do to someone , it a selfish act , My thing is if you are going to cheat on your partner cuz you are a coward at least end it with them and don’t go back to them like nothing happened, but people are selfish and do what’s best for them and wonder why they are miserable in life , a cheater is only hurting themselves by wasting their time going back to someone they truly don’t love and value , if they truly loved and valued their partner , they wouldn’t be cheating

[nice-girl]

No, I wouldn’t justify cheating. If he is not that affectionate, that’s how he is and I can’t complain of that, if he is loyal.

[Anonymous]

No. You still always have the option of leaving them don't you. To do anything else just comes off as revenge.

[LegendaryIcon]

Thou shalt not commit adultery, right?

[jahaims]

Cheating is never justified