Secure: If you feel confident in your relationships, your attachment style is probably secure. You are comfortable being independent and giving your partner space. But you also ask for support when you need it and provide support when they ask for it.
Preoccupied (anxious/ambivalent): If you spend a lot of time worrying about your relationship, your attachment style may be preoccupied. You may fear being alone or being abandoned by your partner. You crave reassurance about your relationship.
Dismissive (avoidant): If you avoid emotional intimacy, you may have a dismissive attachment style. You may find yourself in and out of romantic relationships because you won’t let those relationships get too serious.
Fearful (disorganized): If your caregivers displayed scary behavior — like abuse, neglect, or high anxiety — you may develop a fearful attachment style. With a fearful style, you may want to be close to people and avoid relationships, all at the same time.
Secure
Dismissive/avoidant
Fearful/disorganized
Preoccupied/anxious/insecure
Other (I'll explain in the comments below)
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What is your attachment style in romantic relationships?
I love this question and I thought about asking it before❤️
I definitely have a mix of anxious or secure attachment. The anxious (preoccupied) attachment rooted mostly from my childhood attachment style. In most of my relationships, I have experienced anxious attachment because the guys were often not very stable, or we were young and had no real future plans. In my current relationship, I am pretty sure I have a secure attachment.
For me its a mixture of anxious (cause I always kinda fear I'm not enough for my girlfriend), I'm also avoidant of conflicts so thats gonna be interesting as my girlfriend is also that way LOL. The thing though that we find security though is that we both are so effing clingy mutually that I'm sure we are gonna end up being inseparable through life XD.
Here's the thing what you expect and what you get are two different things.
I want a secure relationship, but that may be not the case when I get into a relationship. It easily can fall into preoccupied because of the nature of the other person.
I'm really into psychology. I was thinking of writing a MyTake on attachment styles when I have some free time, but pretty busy with entrance exams and stuff. This is more like a survey, I guess. lol
Mostly secure. I do have this fear that she'll leave me, or something will happen to her and I'll be left to raise our daughter on my own and worry about not being able to handle it.
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I suppose it's more a fear of not being a good enough father though
The fact that you worry that you will not be a good father is in itself living proof that you are. Good fathers worry about their children. You are human too. It's okay to make mistakes and we're all not always perfect. Don't worry. :)
I am usually pretty secure. I dated somebody who was crazy and I never knew what was going on with her. Sometimes I would wonder if she was seeing other guys. She just was not very dependable and finally she dumped me.
I feel I go through all the phases in my relationships. It starts off secure, I'm into them, they're into me etc etc. And then it's a mix of the rest depending on the day and what happens until we have to breakup.
Whenever I get too invested in someone, they're almost always either "not ready to date" or "interested in someone else" and when I am interested in someone though, I crave for the emotional intimacy and freak out at the same time. I think "this is too good to be true" and subconsciously distance myself away from them... sounds weird, i know, lmao
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