Between you or your partner, who does the following more in your relationship?

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Fill in the survey if you're willing and please include the gender of your partner in the beginning.

¹ Drives the car more often when together
² Cooks meals
³ Cleans
⁴ Initiates intimacy
⁵ Initiates fights
⁶ Handles the finances
⁷ Childcare (if applicable)
⁸ Plans couples dates
⁹ Randomly does romantic gestures (like flowers or presents)
¹⁰ Keeps the schedule/Ensures you arrive to places on time
¹¹ Makes more money
¹² Swears more often
¹³ Gets sick more often
¹⁴ Lies more
¹⁵ Steals the blankets or puts off more body heat

NathanDavis · Accepted Answer

when I was in a relationship with... my ex[bisexual]girlfriend...

-she would drive in the city more often because I hate it in here, it's a stop every block and turning a million corners all the time, longer drives and off-road I would steal the wheel and we would also take her care because it was absolutely awesome of a drive

- I'd cook more often because I was the first to get home, had more flexibility with ours and all that, weekends she did love to bake, and cook and grill too

- cleaning... I always do most of the cleaning because I'm kind of a maniac about it, but now that I think about it... we would both do it and we liked to do it while the other was not home and in our own particular ways... lmao

- I'd say it was 50/50... because she really liked it a lot when I would start something, but she liked it as much as starting a blaze herself

- fights... this is strange but in the three or four years together, we didn't fight much or at all, a couple of discussions here and there but no big arguments, perhaps this was because of the fact that she did study and work both half time, so... once together she would vent off about stuff about her day and people, to me... but that was it, ended that quick then we would just enjoy each other and our time

- finances, well... we lived together at my place so I took care of those expenses as well as the bills, and I had my business stuff going so she would take care of the groceries and a couple other things, her car, and her school

- we didn't have children nor pets

- since she was the one with scheduled time because of school and working, she was also the one to plan the dating and stuff most of the time, for me to plan something I would do it on the weekends... by the way, we did not go out much either, she liked to stay home most of the times (she moved to the city shortly before the time I met her, so she didn't know much people or places anyway)

- when it comes to presents, definitely her... she would get me something almost weekly, little things here and there, lol... she wasn't that much the "romantic" type so I was the one to come up with more gestures of details, which she liked

- I have always been punctual so that was never an issue for me, while her, I never had to be waiting or rushing her anything like that... she was quite organized

- well, depends on how you want to see it... her family had a few businesses, and a couple were to her name so she would oversee them, and then she did invest here and there, on this and that so she had that stuff going for her, but her regular job she had a "regular salary"

- she really liked to swear when it was fit to do so... lmao, usually while driving among the many morons on the streets, she would swear at all of them, but not to them though, would keep it inside the car and then laugh, she also liked to swear at screen... that was hilarious to watch, however in public or if we were in company of others... I never heard her curse at all

- I would get sick more often... but when she did, it would be for longer time and had it a bit more rough, especially with coughs, I'd always tease her about secretly being a smoker

- lies... hmmm, apart from the "little white lies" that sometimes you need to get by in this life we didn't lie to each other

- she was a big time cuddler so there was no way to steal blankets, take more space in the bed or stuff like that, and I was bigger than her, so technically I'd radiate more heat... lol

exitseven · Accepted Answer

Really great question
I have a wife and I am a guy.
1) me
2) she does
3) Me
4) her
5) me
6) she does
7) we never have them
8) We both do this
9) she does
10) she does (I am unemployed)
11) I Do
12) I do
13) I do
14) he does

SecretsofKB · Answer

My partner is a woman.

1. I drive more. I like driving.
2. She cooks more. She's good at it and I hate it.
3. I clean 99% of the time.
4. She initiates intimacy more.
5. We're about even on the fighting lol
6. Finances are separate at this point.
7. N/A
8. She plans the dates!
9. I do the little romantic things.
10. I'm not sure how she made it anywhere on time without me... she will be late to her own funeral.
11. I make more... for now.
12. She'll say she swears more than me... just she will be fucking wrong.
13. She gets sick more.
14. I lie more, only because she has the pokerface of a toddler.
15. She is a walking furnace that will RIP the covers from me with her constant flailing throughout the night...

WhatTheHeckkkk · Answer

1. Drives the car more often when together
My boyfriend.

2. Cooks meals
Me.
3. Cleans
Me.
4. Initiates intimacy
Me.
5. Initiates fights
Neither of us.
6. Handles the finances
N/A
7. Childcare (if applicable)
N/A
8. Plans couples dates
Both of us equally.
9. Randomly does romantic gestures (like flowers or presents)
He does.
10. Keeps the schedule/Ensures you arrive to places on time
Both of us equally.
11. Makes more money
He does.
12. Swears more often
Me.
13. Gets sick more often
He does lol.
14. Lies more
Neither of us (I hope).
15. Steals the blankets or puts off more body heat
I steal the blankets lololol

MTC29 · Answer

¹ Drives the car more often when together
She prefers to drive, but she's not a good driver, which keeps me constantly on edge.

² Cooks meals
Cook? you must mean Uber meal delivery.

³ Cleans
What is that? She can't even put a dirty dish into the dishwasher.

⁴ Initiates intimacy
After three glasses of white wine I know what's happening next!

⁵ Initiates fights
One comment about either of her two adult children and I'm in the doghouse

⁶ Handles the finances
Hell no! She has a lot in common with the US government- deficit spending.

⁷ Childcare (if applicable)
N/A

⁸ Plans couples dates
One of her specialties.

⁹ Randomly does romantic gestures (like flowers or presents)
Another of her specialties

¹⁰ Keeps the schedule/Ensures you arrive to places on time
She always runs late.

¹¹ Makes more money
LOL! Her ex-husband sends spousal support checks every month. The support checks will end in three years and she's wondering if she will need to get a job. YES!

¹² Swears more often
She's got a mouth on her

¹³ Gets sick more often
Yes

¹⁴ Lies more
Not that I've been able to catch her at.

¹⁵ Steals the blankets or puts off more body heat
You bet she does.

Anonymous · Answer

I’m the husband and she is my wife.

¹ Drives the car more often when together - Was me, now her as I can scare her while driving and I drive so much going to and from work I am tired of it.
² Cooks meals - She does. I may make pizza or even bake bread or deserts when I want to but she is a top chef and makes amazing meals
³ Cleans - She does
⁴ Initiates intimacy - I do
⁵ Initiates fights - I do shit that pisses her off, so she does, lol
⁶ Handles the finances - She handles the day to day paying bills and I handle the major investments
⁷ Childcare (if applicable) - She does the most by far, I plan vacations for memories and other family outings
⁸ Plans couples dates - I do
⁹ Randomly does romantic gestures (like flowers or presents) - I do
¹⁰ Keeps the schedule/Ensures you arrive to places on time - She does for day to day and I do for vacations and big trips
¹¹ Makes more money - I do
¹² Swears more often - I do
¹³ Gets sick more often - I do
¹⁴ Lies more - I do
¹⁵ Steals the blankets or puts off more body heat - I do although she has as well

TrueConfection · Answer

My husband is a man.

¹ Drives the car more often when together - ME
² Cooks meals - ME
³ Cleans - ME
⁴ Initiates intimacy - HIM
⁵ Initiates fights - (we don't)
⁶ Handles the finances - BOTH
⁷ Childcare (if applicable) - BOTH
⁸ Plans couples dates - HIM
⁹ Randomly does romantic gestures (like flowers or presents) - HIM
¹⁰ Keeps the schedule/Ensures you arrive to places on time - ME
¹¹ Makes more money - HIM
¹² Swears more often - HIM
¹³ Gets sick more often - equal
¹⁴ Lies more - neither of us, but he exaggerates
¹⁵ Steals the blankets - HIM
or puts off more body heat - ME

Bluemax · Answer

1. Me, but I *love* driving
2. Me. I'm better at it
3. Her. Only because she does the dishes when I cook. I cook more than she does
4. Overtly me. Covertly her
5. Even
6. Even
7. It would have been even I'm sure. Alas we didn't have children
8. Even
9. She did a little more than me
10. Even.
11. She made a little more
12. Me. Neither of us swear very much
13. She did. Both of us were teachers. After the first two years of teaching, we rarely got sick
14. Dunno
15. SHE DID!!! And took up more bed space in spite of her being tiny.

GabiBB · Answer

¹ Drives the car more often when together: ME
² Cooks meals: HIM
³ Cleans: BOTH
⁴ Initiates intimacy: ME
⁵ Initiates fights: ME
⁶ Handles the finances: ME
⁷ Childcare (if applicable): BOTH
⁸ Plans couples dates: BOTH
⁹ Randomly does romantic gestures (like flowers or presents): HIM
¹⁰ Keeps the schedule/Ensures you arrive to places on time: ME
¹¹ Makes more money: BOTH
¹² Swears more often: ME
¹³ Gets sick more often: HIM
¹⁴ Lies more: I don't know lol
¹⁵ Steals the blankets or puts off more body heat: ME

Mia-Wallace · Answer

1. Husband/his driver.
2. I do.
3. I do.
4. Equal. Maybe I do a little more.
5. Neither. I am more nervous and complain more.
6. The house is mine and I pay its bills and taxes and what it needs to function. He handles his business and manages the bigger moves.
7. No kids yet.
8. He does. Knows more places.
9. Even.
10. Secretary. I do, when travelling together.
11. He does.
12. He does.
13. I do.
14. We are childhoos friends and pretty honest with each other. Sometimes he says he does this or that on a particular day and he doesn't, but it's fine. I do that too.
15. I do, if we're not cuddling.

Jaximus-Lion · Answer

I am married, i am a male, the Mrs is a female.
¹ Drives the car more often when together! The Mrs does² Cooks meals! I do, i am a chef³ Cleans! Both⁴ Initiates intimacy! Me⁵ Initiates fights. None⁶ Handles the finances. Both⁷ Childcare (if applicable). No children⁸ Plans couples dates. I do⁹ Randomly does romantic gestures (like flowers or presents). Both¹⁰ Keeps the schedule/Ensures you arrive to places on time. The Mrs¹¹ Makes more money. Both¹² Swears more often. I do¹³ Gets sick more often. The Mrs¹⁴ Lies more. We don't ¹⁵ Steals the blankets or puts off more body heat. The Mrs

CrazyGirl2 · Answer

I’m partner-les right now. But when I did, he drove we both cooked, although he cooked slightly more. There were no finances or childcare, and I will likely always bring more money into the relationship, but that’s b/c of my trust fund we both planned dates, but he did more, he was def the schedule keeper, again for the second money question, I will likely always have more money, he swore more , I got sick more, I think he lied more, and I apparently sweat the covers!

humanearth · Answer

Drives the car more often when together; Me

² Cooks meals; Her

³ Cleans; Share

⁴ Initiates intimacy; Me

⁵ Initiates fights; So rare in fact, I don't have a answer

⁶ Handles the finances; Shared

⁷ Childcare (if applicable) Kids Grown

⁸ Plans couples dates; Me

⁹ Randomly does romantic gestures (like flowers or presents); Me (If I can afford it)

¹⁰ Keeps the schedule/Ensures you arrive to places on time; Her

¹¹ Makes more money; Shared we work together

¹² Swears more often; Her

¹³ Gets sick more often; Even

¹⁴ Lies more; Me

¹⁵ Steals the blankets or puts off more body heat; She the heater and I'm the blanket stealer

Anonymous · Answer

I’m filling this in on behalf of me and my boyfriend:
¹ Drives the car more often when together - Him
² Cooks meals - Him
³ Cleans - Me
⁴ Initiates intimacy - Both
⁵ Initiates fights - Me lol
⁶ Handles the finances - Him
⁷ Childcare (if applicable) - N/A
⁸ Plans couples dates - Me
⁹ Randomly does romantic gestures (like flowers or presents) - Me
¹⁰ Keeps the schedule/Ensures you arrive to places on time - Me
¹¹ Makes more money - Him
¹² Swears more often - Him
¹³ Gets sick more often - Him
¹⁴ Lies more - Neither
¹⁵ Steals the blankets or puts off more body heat - Me

Mark987 · Answer

¹ Drives the car more often when together: ME
² Cooks meals: HIM
³ Cleans: BOTH
⁴ Initiates intimacy: ME
⁵ Initiates fights: ME
⁶ Handles the finances: ME
⁷ Childcare (if applicable): BOTH
⁸ Plans couples dates: BOTH
⁹ Randomly does romantic gestures (like flowers or presents): HIM
¹⁰ Keeps the schedule/Ensures you arrive to places on time: ME
¹¹ Makes more money: BOTH
¹² Swears more often: ME
¹³ Gets sick more often: HIM
¹⁴ Lies more: I don't know lol
¹⁵ Steals the blankets or puts off more body heat: ME

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Honestguyopen · Answer

Drives the car more often when together-me
² Cooks meals-equal
³ Cleans-equal
⁴ Initiates intimacy-her
⁵ Initiates fights-her
⁶ Handles the finances-her
⁷ Childcare (if applicable)-N/A
⁸ Plans couples dates-her
⁹ Randomly does romantic gestures (like flowers or presents)-her
¹⁰ Keeps the schedule/Ensures you arrive to places on time-her
¹¹ Makes more money-her
¹² Swears more often-me
¹³ Gets sick more often-her
¹⁴ Lies more-me
¹⁵ Steals the blankets or puts off more body heat-she steals blankets, I put off more body heat.

Anonymous · Answer

I'm engaged to a woman

¹ Drives the car more often when together: me

² Cooks meals: her

³ Cleans: 50/50

⁴ Initiates intimacy: me

⁵ Initiates fights: 50/50

⁶ Handles the finances: both

⁷ Childcare (if applicable) 50/50

⁸ Plans couples dates: me

⁹ Randomly does romantic gestures (like flowers or presents) we don't really do presents. We'd rather spoil our daughter. (It's our fault she's a brat)

¹⁰ Keeps the schedule/Ensures you arrive to places on time: me

¹¹ Makes more money: me

¹² Swears more often: her

¹³ Gets sick more often:her

¹⁴ Lies more: we don't lie, that's why we fight so much lol

¹⁵ Steals the blankets: her she also kicks in her sleep 😫

Anonymous · Answer

¹ Drives the car more often when together - Me
² Cooks meals - Me
³ Cleans - Her
⁴ Initiates intimacy - Me
⁵ Initiates fights - Her
⁶ Handles the finances - Me
⁷ Childcare (if applicable) -N/A
⁸ Plans couples dates - Me
⁹ Randomly does romantic gestures (like flowers or presents) - Me
¹⁰ Keeps the schedule/Ensures you arrive to places on time - Me
¹¹ Makes more money - Me
¹² Swears more often - Me
¹³ Gets sick more often - Her
¹⁴ Lies more - Neither
¹⁵ Steals the blankets or puts off more body heat - Her

Prettygurl12 · Answer

1. Him 2. Him 3. Me 4. Him 5. Me 6. Me 7. N/A 8. Both 9. Him 10. Me 11. Him - although this is a recent development 12. Me 13. Him 14. N/A 15. Depends on who you ask lol

VanillaSalt · Answer

Lol I’m about as single as they come but I’m following to see the results. Ide love to see a more in-depth poll or graph showing this information concerning the gender based expectations and reality. That would be dope af ngl.

Bricealan · Answer

looking through the entire list, the only thing I did do with my wife, was that I made more money and swore more often

UsernameXLTX · Answer

I have a girlfriend
1) me
2) 50/50
3) 60/40 to her
4) 50/50
5) Her
6) Me
7) no kid
8) Her
9) Me
10) Her
11) Me for now. She'll earn more in 2-3 years
12) Me
13) Her
14) don't know
15) Her

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