Do you ever feel emotionally neglected in your relationship?

[Changiis07]

Recently I feel like my boyfriend and I rarely talk on the phone. I know he does not like talking much on the phone but it is how I feel connected. He works night shift is a dad and might become a manager soon. I feel like he pores so much into his work mentally that he is drained and doesn't want to talk much with me. On top of that I only see him on the weekend mostly saturdays and sometimes fridays. How do you all deal with being emotionally connected?

[ohsheeT]

This is a good question because in a lot of ways , it happens to a lot of people

And what's cool is you weighted both sides all out his side and your side

And where most people mess up is they say it's about me and what I need and you haven't done that. Your trying to find a solution which is the best way

So
You have to either accept it or change it

But you have to change it in a good way that works out for the most of you , so

The days that you get to go see him. You make it quality time.
You make it about him. So you get your fulfillment of what you need to so you make it about him.
And what you do for him will give you in return what you need.
So i'm going to use sex as a scenario
Because i'm not sure how to even say it

When I'm dating a girl and no matter what we're doing, I make it all about her, because I want to take her there, I want her to feel something that she's never felt before. I want to become one with her, and when I can do this, it fulfills me to feel her. And to watch Her eyes just light up and just get into\n It and just go crazy. And that's what turns me on is making her get this way, so I get my fulfillment by giving to her she gives it right back to me if I do it the right way. And that's kind of what I mean, something that you should try, you know whether it be through sex or going to McDonald's, I don't know that\nYou have to figure out how to do that

Because you, I'm sure are very important to his job. Becoming the best he can become and becoming that manager is very important to him. Because it's more money, more status. More responsibility more growth so you have to look at all this stuff and keep a balance to keep him in balance, so he doesn't burn out.

That old saint , if you build it , they will come

It's the same thing in life, if you give it. If you show it, he will respond, but you have to do it in a manner that you're just being you and you want him to enjoy you. At the same time it's kind of like training him in away because he will\nStart just incorporating it into everyday life with you. But it has to be his idea l o l , you know what I mean
but you at least you're trying to find a solution instead of making the problem worse by projecting to him or giving him ultimatums, because that just doesn't work, find the solution figure it out how you can get what you need without him. Even knowing that I know live because he will enjoy it if it's done right and he will always give it to you

Because you think he's tired and worn out right now. He's going to become more tired, more worn out. You know, especially the older that he gets, he sounds like he's still young. I don't know but it's all in the mind and what you want and what you need and you have to Show him I guess.
By giving it to him or to teaching him but without him knowing it

[Purpleronnie]

I think what your experiencing is common , disconnects do happen naturally through partners working opposites or having to prioritize other commitments and sometimes ‘feels’ like “you” are having to bring more than your getting in return


I feel like “communication” is the key here. You seem to be pushing for telephone conversations to keep that connection going which is a good idea but he doesn’t do well with that or doesn’t really have the time that he needs to give you that. Should you keep focusing on that it will massively affect your relationship.


I think you both should choose instead to focus on the time you do have together , making the most of it with actual quality time without distractions to help rebuild that connection. Talk openly , make plans and both make an effort to give the other more.


Working in opposites generally takes a lot more effort and it isn’t the fault of either of you. So give each other a break and focus on making the most of the time you do have.

[Amy_Mi]

Sometimes, yes not because love is absent, but because awareness is.

Emotional neglect isn’t always loud, sometimes it’s the silence between “I love you” and “I see you.”

It’s when presence exists, but connection doesn’t.

When that happens, I don’t beg for attention.

I withdraw into my worth.

Because a woman who knows her value doesn’t compete with distractions, she waits to be met in depth, not convenience.

Neglect teaches you one truth.

Love without emotional presence is just company, not connection.

[Nikki1989]

Nope. We are probably closer now than we have ever been, if that is even possible.

[AI Opinion]

Ah, the sweet dance of connection and communication! Feeling emotionally neglected can be a real bummer, especially when phone chats bring you closer. 🤗 It's crucial to chat openly about your needs and feelings with your boyfriend. Try to find a middle ground where both your connection needs and his work schedule are respected. Maybe surprise him with little love notes or texts during the week to keep the spark alive. Those small gestures can brighten up even the busiest days! 🌟 Remember, love is all about teamwork. Good luck, lovely! 💖

[Finchie40]

Well if Your boyfriend is investing more time into work over you , then that isn’t a good thing ,, have a talk with him and express your feelings of concern to him wnd tell him how you are feeling , if he loves and cares about you , he will make some changes to be closer to you, if not then , you are probably best to reconsider that relationship

[HawkPerception]

It always happens after the honeymoon phase for me.

[Changiis07]

yes samee

[RxR0954]

I would say yes especially when the other person is overworked and constantly burntout. I had an emotional talk with my partner the other day about that as i was feeling like my partner isn't paying much attention to me or as enthusiastic about spending time together. And our deal is focusing on each other’s love language. For example my love language is words of affirmation and physical touch, the only thing that i want is for her to just hug me and look at me more often when we are spending time together as it makes me feel like she is being attentive to me. And for her it’s acts of service, i would make her dinner before she gets home and make her tea before bed. It’s also about me appreciating and acknowledging her when she does things like that for me. And for the rest of the time when she needs time alone i would feel just fine. And for when she just needs to get away from the world for a couple of days, i just need a heads up and i would feel fine after. However it would be kind of hard if you’re not already living together

[AgentG111]

That's a lot and at the same time. Relationships take work, time and understanding. My most recent relationship was the same of working 5 days a week single dad. She was also working days and single mom and phone calls didn't last too long with the happenings and we usually only had a day or two with work schedules.

If it's something you both want fight for each other.

[Kabluie]

I love talking on the phone, of course we always have that partner that may like the opposite and want text, which is cool with me. There just has to be compromises to connect. You should open up with this so he understands how you feel. Even just the happy text convos midday could be good enough

[RHK36]

No I don't date people too busy for said relationship. That's just self sabotaging acting like there's not more compatible partners that I must stick it out with someone too busy for me. Especially when you're older, you probably should stop playing house and go meet someone more compatible or don't complain.

[Sal_Monella]

No, just disrespect and rejection as a control strategy. She wants to keep you clutching for approval, while she plays you like a fish but does not break the line. Men have to set our limits and let that line break. Otherwise she will seen you as weak and co-dependent and will eventually eviscerate you. Forewarned is forearmed.

[nolabels]

I absolutely have felt emotionally neglected in my marriage.
I've felt that way for the past 30+ years.

[Shiprex]

Yes. Now and realise that it's not new. I only just thought about it and it's been crumbs for years.

[Godihateyou]

Lol. Every single day I've been married for 20 years. I got ten mor years to suffer with this bitch then I leave her with dementia at an old folks home.

[Anonymous]

No. Sometimes im just happy to pur myself into his lap like im a cat

[Anonymous]

No, I don't have a relationship, never had one.

[mysteriousNicholas]

Not when one is single 👌🏻😘😀

[genericname85]

nope. perks of being single xD

[Kelly6]

@Changiis07 work stress for sure

[Changiis07]

You're right. It just starts to bother me because he is very social and a lot of people at work like him. He is a good leader and sometimes I don't know how to handle that. I feel like he pours more into work than me and it bugs me. I started dating at a late age so I am still struggling in this area

[jahaims]

Nope, I know how to communicate

[Drumlin2001]

Yep.

[RedInnocent69]

Abso-fucking-lutely!

[nitu_indian]

Yes a lot and lot

[yotaman99]

Depends