Why men don’t want to get married?

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I noticed you have to be lucky to be married or it be in your destiny to be married. I’m 25 think I’ll never get married to the guy I love. At this age my sister in law was married and she has perfect life home kids. I’m alone in an apartment have boyfriend visit me, and it’s hard as I’m a women and desire do mature women things like have baby, go to the market with my man, take care of baby together in our house, visit family with our baby, plan future together. At my job I hear all men talk of babies and no marriage. They are 18-40. I never see or hear of a man talk of marriage or excited meet family. I never understood why god made my step siblings marry fast at age 22 and u deserve not be happy & 25/26 never married?

Lionman95 · Accepted Answer

I think many men don´t want to marry because they only hear the bad stories like marry a woman she cheats on you every chance she gets...
Or marry a woman you fight and she´ll divorce you and ruin your life...
When I look my life I don´t see none of this my parents have been married for nearly 50 years, many of friends parents either haven´t hard a divorce or had one in good terms for both.
Yes it has become a harder to find a guy who says he want to marry but at the same time talk is cheap.
I think the chance that you find a good partner is still there but it may take time because men and women have had their own share of trauma concerning relationships. Have patience with yourself because it´s pretty common that nowadays finding the right partner takes time.

Guy13 · Accepted Answer

Getting married for men is very risky. Sometimes, it is easier if everyone’s bank account matches. And in my case, there will be a prenuptial. This is often a stumbling block to many.

There’s lots to get through when it comes to marriage

Daniii101 · Accepted Answer

I know a few guys who don't want to get married because they are worried their freedom will be lost. They see marriage like prison. It apparently limits 'the number of womens' eyes on them'. They're probably players and they probably enjoy not being limited to one woman but rather sharing their body with several. Disgusting, but that's exactly how some guys think.

prensesmishka · Accepted Answer

I don’t think love is enough. Maybe you should date a man with whom you can have more values in common.

DaveJord · Answer

Honestly the institution of marriage had lost its attraction to many men. See it casualty of modern society. Women want to be equal to men in every way... but they still want to marry men and have kids. That means different things to men and women, because we are still just men and women... sure we can be equal, but we ain't the same.

Divorce can be extremely destructive. Most men have no issue paying what right for his children. But he not trying to be a wage laborer for a women.

monorprise · Answer

People don't get married in the west because the institution as it is currently defined in law and popular culture to most young people is no longer advantageous.

Marriage was originally about the security of Family and children having nothing to do with the feelings of the adult parties. Hence why it was historically forced and arranged because it served a vital propose to society and those children. Who's interest superseded that of the often immature adult parties.

This is also why we have the historic pressure to get married and historic laws that make divorced nearly impossible. This is what Marriage was for 10s of thousands of years around the world.

Over the 20th center in the west that institution has since been completely re-defined effectively abandoning the key security with no-fault divorce while re-orientated in the popular imagination the propose of said institution to be entirely about the feelings IE:'love' of the adult parties.

Well as it happens nobody wants or needs anyone's permission to 'feel' anything for anyone. So if Marriage is about said 'feelings' its not really worth the paper its written on.

As such why bother getting married?

Anonymous · Answer

It constantly surprises me how some women still don't understand why today's men don't want to get married. Marriage has lost it's appeal to men because today's version of it is nothing like the version of the past that our grandparents and even parents enjoyed. You can talk all you want about the alleged benefits of marriage but we men watch the world around us and see the reality of it. Marriage is a very risky thing for men now with the high divorce rate and the fact that it is almost always the wife who files for divorce, and divorce is very biased in favor of women's interests and needs. Essentially women have made marriage too expensive and sex too cheap, and the institution of marriage is in decline as a result. Just not a wise choice for men anymore.

Bklynbadboy12 · Answer

Some men do want to get married I was raised in a house hold with my mom and dad and yes they were married. The people that normally dont want to get married are people that came from a broken home or seen pr had bad experiences with married and don't realize how beautiful it is when you married to your soul mate. Yes I said soulmate and yes it does exist you just have to take your time and find that person. If your boyfriend know you want to get married and he clearly doesn't then move on he's not the one for you go find a man that wants to give you the world

Anonymous · Answer

Marriage today for men is very different than it was only a few decades ago. There are fewer benefits to marriage for men now, and it is much riskier for them as well. Half of marriages end in divorce, women file 80% of divorces and men get screwed in divorce court and child custody settlements. Add to that the fact that casual sex has become the norm and you have a recipe for failure of the institution of marriage. That's why the number of men who are refusing to get married is at an all time high.

Paul09 · Answer

Women are brainwashed into think they need that. You don't, you can have a happy life without it. You have to do this, you have to do that, by this age? Come on. What do you get our if marriage anyways, what benefits? Why does love have to be proven by a piece of religious paper? You worry about it for nothing. Get out more, meet men that have same values, don't force yourself to be with someone you'll regret being with , just because you want to he with someone.

exitseven · Answer

I wanted to get married. I was 25 and all of a sudden I was just sick of being single and dating and all the BS that goes along with it. It just was time for me to do it. That was 27 years ago.

BJP21 · Answer

The values are being lost with marriage. WIth the rise of hookup culture and no commitment seems to be on the rise. I would love to be married and have a family, I would argue its not just men, but both sexes.

Juxtapose · Answer

50% of marriages end in divorce and women initiate 80% of those divorces. This ain't rocket science.

_Just_A_girl_ · Answer

scared for their pockets

Jennz6 · Answer

You are better off staying single

italianduce · Answer

I got married 3 times, Haji Ana

TJ1892 · Answer

I definitely do

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