How can I truly accept and deal with never getting married?

[Anonymous]

I truly genuinely absolutely believe there's no hope for me finding someone and ever getting married. As it is I've been single over 20 years. I'm certain I'm not want any girl wants or looks for in a guy & nothing will change my mind on that. My question isn't how to fix that but how can accept it & learn to be ok with and not have it bother me so much? And how can fulfill myself as a single person the rest of my life?

[Guy13]

One never knows what is going to happen in the future. One thing for certain, if you project as super needy like you do here then you may be right.

I hope you are more chilled and fun 🤩 in life as you are demonstrating here. Try www.meetup.com

[prensesmishka]

I think you are still young if you’re in your early 30s but if you’re in your 40s it’s still not late. As a 23 year old young woman I would date a man who is in his 30s because I believe a man needs to be mature enough to rely on. So let’s say I am ready to start a family after few years, my partner would be close to 40. I have so many reasons to want to date and start a family with an older man. Why do you think that you will not get married? If it’s because you simply don’t want, then I misunderstood you.

[BarryLiverstone]

Could you rely on a guy in his 20s? Or a better question what makes a guy unreliable?

[prensesmishka]

I can have a very pleasant relationship with a man in his 20s, but I would have a hard time making a serious decision because I don't trust his life experience. In my personal opinion, the man should bring the table and the woman should bring to the table. In a healthy male-female relationship, the man must be aware of many things such as family values. This is something that takes time and takes experience. Men are more visual than women. I would like him to see many things, such as whether there are men around him who are married happily or not, if he can do a successful business which takes time, if he witnesses the lives of his friends who have children and etc. I can trust a young man with many things, and I can even be sure that he will be a very good family man, but since I cannot take risks, I am looking for certain conditions to trust. So it's all personal.

[BarryLiverstone]

That makes sense to an extent but I’m wondering what you mean by you can’t take risks?

[prensesmishka]

For me, starting a family is one of the most important things in life, and being a family is the next step, the most important thing itself. Spouses need to build their relationships on very solid foundations, think of it like an apartment, you know that no matter how many floors you build up, it will not collapse, because you trust the foundation of the building. For this, I think what is needed is for both partners to know exactly what they want and what they are capable of, to be realistic. I am a woman who is very sure of what she wants and what she can give. That's why I want to find the right person and love the right person. What do you think?

[BarryLiverstone]

I agree that starting a family is very important and having shared family values is key in finding a partner. However I also have learned that trust takes time and also have learned that the only constant in the universe is change. So I can see the value in dating someone who is flawed and may not know 100% what they want because we are all flawed and because we all want different things as we age. So for me I’m willing to take some risks to find love because I don’t want to wait and let it slip through my fingers

[prensesmishka]

I understand your point. Not about our subject but do you follow people and then unfollow them to make them not realize and follow you? You’re clever yet I think it’s a little silly to do such a thing though.

[BarryLiverstone]

I follow people to begin a conversation instead of just answering a question. But also sad that you followed me

[BarryLiverstone]

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[BarryLiverstone]

When I joined gag I attempted to have conversations on the questions that people asked and several told me they didn’t wanna share in public or felt like they would be judged

[prensesmishka]

Doesn’t seem like that, this could be an example though. That’s why I don’t want to date guys in their 20s. So many senseless behaviors.

[BarryLiverstone]

You have called me silly and senseless, but thought you could have a pleasant relationship with a guy my age? But you don’t want to date a guy my age because of our behaviors. I do want to thank you for showing that trust takes time to build. In this reply chain I am a stranger and you have no reason to trust me, even tho I have been honest and outgoing. Could I ask if you feel good and safe replying? Because my sense is by using the words silly and senseless you are not comfortable

[prensesmishka]

I didn't call you silly, I'm just saying that this kind of behavior in general is silly. But what you can take personally is that your behavior is senseless, it's true, if you have that kind of strategy to make people follow you. I pay attention to all the characteristics of the people I communicate with. You literally have just followed and unfollowed me, you have about 300 followers, but 1 person who you follow, not paying attention because I care, but because opinions are not market products that you can stock. The conversation that started as pleasant as if we were chatting in one of the back rows in a philosophy class, became so unpleasant for me, that I don’t want to discuss with this person anything now.

[BarryLiverstone]

As I said I am flawed. Want to apologize as I have made part of your day unpleasant. Yes I have lots of followers as I have been on gag for two years. You may not know but a few weeks ago I was following a lot more people. But anyway I am sorry you believe I have some negative strategy and I will not bother you again. Peace

[Fromdusktilldawn]

stay away from marriage, especially if you're American, also online dating is a waste of time. Enjoy your time alone

[In_Trance]

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