Is it bad to be financially dependent on your husband?

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burlen · Accepted Answer

Financial dependence on a husband or any other individual can have both positive and negative aspects.

On one hand, having a partner who is financially stable and able to support you can provide a sense of security and stability, and can help reduce financial stress and uncertainty. This can be especially important in situations where one partner is unable to work due to health reasons or other circumstances.

On the other hand, financial dependence on a partner can limit a person's independence and autonomy, and can create imbalances in the relationship. It can also leave a person vulnerable in the event of a separation or divorce, or if the partner is no longer able to provide financial support for any reason.

Ultimately, the question of whether it's "bad" to be financially dependent on a husband (or anyone else) is a personal one and depends on individual circumstances, values, and goals. It's important for individuals to consider their own needs and priorities, and to have open and honest discussions with their partners about financial matters. Building a strong financial foundation and striving for financial independence, regardless of one's marital status, can provide peace of mind and security in the long term.

abc3643 · Accepted Answer

No, but what is important is that the family is financially viable.
In business and accounting terms, we'd say that the family needs to be a "going concern".
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So, as long as the family is OK, anything else is between you and your husband. Whether or not being financially independent or dependent depends on your personalities.

Personally, I want my wife and I to both be financially independent so, if one of us is not working, the loss of income won't hurt us to the point of no longer being a "going concern".

... and, indeed, this may happen in 2.5 weeks. I am slated to possibly lose my job at the end of the month so I will become financially dependent on my wife. But, again, what's important is "Can the family make it?"

ShellyB · Accepted Answer

In general no I don't think it is, in specific cases it could be if that is not what one or both partners want or if there is some problem like control issues or abusive behavior. If it is a loving relationship and both are good with that lifestyle I think it's good overall, there are advantages as far as being able to stay home w kids and having flexibility to do work that fits your schedule or that you find fulfilling wo pressure to earn as much. That is how me and my fiance are looking at our future by the way. JMO!

LaFemmeFatale_1 · Accepted Answer

Yep.. It’s bad.

It ruins your self-esteem and confidence.

Also, makes you less in control of your own life.

I believe both partners should be working and making money.

I would never want to be at the mercy of my husband.

Even if you trust him a lot, people change, people betray, people die, people stop loving, you never know what will happen, it’s always better to be in control of your own life.

Makeushiver · Answer

Bad is a tough question. Its especially bad to ask people. who may rip you for the fun of it;. My opinion would be, "do you have the wherewithal to support yourself if necessary"? Or a big reason and a big red flag might be. Are you not working because he doesn't want you to? I don't know how often that exists in the real world but Hollywood has had that as part of as plot in plenty of films and then it's usually a prelude to the husband being an outright controlling maniac who eventually murders her and others.

TheVigilantFox · Answer

Yes, why don’t you make your own money?

What would you do if he left you or died?

Would you get a job or marry another man to leach off?

I believe we all should have our own money and not rely on others.

Financial independence is more freeing than depending on someone else.

BeMuse · Answer

Yep. Nobody likes being used. If you can carry your own weight plus some extra, that's the best thing. Guys should be able to do the same as well. That way if either of you have financial difficulties in recessions you can prop one another up until the other gets back on their feet and you can potentially afford to raise children in a good environment.

Chazmatazz269 · Answer

Not if that’s what y’all agreed to. What’s “bad” for others isn’t necessarily bad for you. If you want a man who accepts 100% of the financial responsibilities and you find a man who wants that, a simple open and honest discussion on the matter just may result in you both getting exactly what you want.
If either one of you doesn’t want that, but that’s what you’ve got then you’re building resentments. Resentments destroy relationships.

OfMiceandMen · Answer

I think it's a bad idea whether your the husband or the wife to entirely rely on one person's income, what if something ever happens to him or her?

What skills would someone have if they did nothing or just sent some invoices out once in awhile to help with their SO's business?

I think it is important for each person to pursue their own career paths, so that if anything ever happens to one person, the other can keep the family afloat.

lightbulb27 · Answer

yes, depends what that means. I'm house husband, I'm dependent upon her earnings to some extent. One likes to feel in control, but my marketable skills declined.

I think what creates dependence and insecurity is your skills, maybe work on that?

Sixgunsound · Answer

It's been like that since we became a dimorphic species at least in the child bearing years. Only now do some women in privileged free countries have it so easy compared to their less fortunate sisters that child free independence is a reasonable expectation or life goal.

HighValue · Answer

As long as you are both good moral people your relationship should last and you should be fine. BUT, it would be good to have some sort of training/minor degree/certificate in case you needed to work temporarily in case he lost his job at some point of got injured or sick for a while and needed time to recover.

Anpu23 · Answer

I am the breadwinner in our home. My wife is an artist and enjoys the luxury of not working. I don't think its bad, as she still has marketable skills. She just chooses not to use them. I think the difference is being stuck relying on them and having the freedom of not working.

notwoke · Answer

I think the purpose of women is to incinerate money. I've had 2 spouses that both made near six figures and I still had to supplement both of their spending. I would tell the younger me not to get married, ever. there's an unlimited number of desperate women at all ages that you can have as an unmarried partner. At this age I have yet to meet a man who said to me: "My wife really strengthens my finances."

LazerBean · Answer

If a couple has chosen a traditional lifestyle where the husband is the breadwinner and the wife takes care of things at home, that is fine. That said, a woman should be capable of supporting herself if it ever becomes necessary.

ChillaxingLove · Answer

He’s your husband. It’s a man’s joy to take care of his wife. If you were a girlfriend then yes that would be wrong, because if you break up you’ll be out in the street.

genericname85 · Answer

i mean that entirely depends on the situation. like did you take time off from work to rise the children, sure. that's totally fine. are you just sitting at home with your unemployed lazy ass doing nothing all day, then that's bad xD

Ms_Facesitter · Answer

Kinda. What if hmyour husband for some reason loses his job or can't work? I think it's best to both be working just in case something goes wrong financially

Fuentes · Answer

No I personally think women should not have to make their own money unless they want to run their own business on the side. Cause the children will need a mom. But assuming the women is a good wife without ulterior motives.

HaveNoName · Answer

Nothing bad about it. However, for her own security, it is good to get involved and keep herself in the shape that if she needs to earn money in an unfortunate event, she can do that.

Of course, at time of kids, care of kids comes first.

RavVid · Answer

If you and him are happy with it where is the problem? Don't let other people tell you how to live your life.

TacosRAwesome · Answer

For me it is because I'm not willing to ask him for money. And I like getting my hair done regularly. Etc. Also I like having control on myself.

OddBeMe · Answer

No, in marriage we become financially dependent on each other, as in buying a house, two cars and kids’ sports gear. Just the common nature of sharing your life, which is the most fun in my opinion.

inhua · Answer

not when both sides are fully committed to one another

jshm2 · Answer

No. Provided it is a good relationship.  If it's a toxic/controlling one, then yes.

Anonymous · Answer

YES please for the love of god get a job... this is the first step of being in a controlling relationship.

KrakenAttackin · Answer

Not if you are a good wife and he is a good husband, and you are raising a family together.

FilmGuy93 · Answer

Doesn't have to be. It's probably not a great position to be in, though.

Jamie05rhs · Answer

Yes. It's very unwise. It puts the woman in a very vulnerable position. It makes it much easier for her to become a victim of abuse.

Flight0 · Answer

Never be reliant on anyone. Ever. Always leave a safety exit. You’ll never know when its needed. I’ve lived long enough to learn pretty much anyone can screw a person over.

Slay256 · Answer

No, if he has a LOT of money then it’s not bad to be financially dependent on him. Cause he should share the money he gets with you.

bamesjond0069 · Answer

No of course not. Makes the most sense financially.

Quigly · Answer

You don't have many choices in your life when you totally depend on someone else.

VirginousBeta · Answer

No cuz during the inevitable divorce you get handsome alimony and child support

serious · Answer

No that is not a bad thing at all

sheenagwapa · Answer

no in my culture it's actually even expected

slatyb · Answer

It's risky. Marriages aren't always forever.

Djaay · Answer

Today's world YES. 🚩

WhiteBoyChill · Answer

Only if he’s abusive

Agape93 · Answer

Yeap

sadgirl0210 · Answer

Uh ya

MadAndBankrupt · Answer

No, it’s not

ashish804 · Answer

nopes

Anonymous · Answer

Yeah

nooneforget2000 · Answer

Yes he should dump you.

Anonymous · Answer

yes.

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