Do you ever want to get married?

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zeitgeist057 · Accepted Answer

Pretty much no, like 90% sure, but also a little bit yes, but it would have to be a very specific set of circumstances and not very likely at all. Even if I met the perfect partner (s), I probably wouldn't get married anyway, we would just live together in love without that legal procedure/documentation.

For reference, I started off in my life fantasizing about marriage, when I was a teenager-20s. Like I would have a girlfriend and it would be so sweet to just lay there with her and imagine "what if she was my wife?" and it would just be so lovely to have that thought and play around with it. But also, I came from divorced parents who divorced when I was still a baby. Then they both got remarried and both of them got divorces a second time. So I see marriage as a flawed relationship model, and something with a high incidence of failure and not a good idea. My personal anecdotal experience is also backed up statistically. About 1/2 of marriages end in divorce. And that leaves about half left, many of which are not happy marriages but for whatever reasons the people choose to stay married (for negative reasons, not good ones like they are so in love and happy about the situation, crappy things like they don't want to lose their place to live or emotionally harm their children).

I did meet someone I was really in love with for a long time and I decided that I would ask her to marry me. I didn't really care about getting married, but I thought she would be happier, and her happiness made me happy. So it was a win-win. We had an amazing dream wedding and were so happy. But I also take marriage very seriously. I think that you should stay married if you get married, the idea is that it is for the rest of your life.

My new wife didn't feel as dedicated to the idea, and she asked for a divorce about 3 years later. So we divorced and are still friends, just not lovers. For me, this was just another proof that marriage is not for me.

Anonymous · Accepted Answer

Yes and no.

I love the concept of marriage. I envy and want what my parents and grandparents had, what marriage used to be like. I do want that. But today more than half of marriages end in divorce and women initiate 80% of them (Google it), and it's no secret that men get screwed in divorce and family court.

I have watched many good men my age or a little older in my family and circle of friends have their lives destroyed by divorce. These guys married women they thought were good human beings but turned out to be self-centered, self-serving garbage. I want no part of that.

And yeah, I get it, men are not perfect, but if you want to understand what is happening to marriage today, just look at the divorce rates of lesbian, gay and heterosexual couples. The highest rate of divorce, by far, is among lesbian couples, the lowest rate is among gay (male) couples, and the rate among heterosexual couples is in the middle. In other words, women are the common denominator in divorce.

Women have all but destroyed the institution of marriage. Unless things change drastically, marriage will be a thing of the past in the next generation. And as marriage goes, so goes society.

Sour-rose · Accepted Answer

You'd think so but no. Getting married is just a lot of... money and time to tell the world that I'm getting married. How about no and just live together. Hell, don't even need to buy a ring, just be with me and live with me. Don't need all that marriage shi just do that :)

TenderFantasy · Accepted Answer

I don't know, maybe. If I met the right person but as you get older and sicker, your chances of meeting that person slims not only because of that but also because people get hitched and have children and other commitments that make dating hard.

OlderAndWiser · Answer

Yes. I got engaged last month.

Steelcore5280 · Answer

50% of first time marriages end in divorce. 75% of third time marriages end in divorce. The average marriage lasts five years or less. 85% of those who file for divorce are women. Over 97% of those who win alimony and child support cases are women. About 85% of those who win custody cases are women. My dad got fucked by Family Court when he was put through it, and I know his story.

So, no. Absolutely not. Why would I form a contract with an individual who benefits way more from breaking it than upholding ut?

Lliam · Answer

I had girlfriends from the time I was 16, but I had no interest in having kids or getting married. It wasn't until I was about 34 or 35 that I started to think about finding a life partner and settling down.

After a couple more girlfriends, I finally found the right woman when I was 40 and married her two years later. We've been happily married now for going on 27 years. She is 2.5 years younger.

Jdjfjcjj · Answer

Yu'll get more out of dating. a woman with her working for the ring and this providing what she knows she must, vs when you give her the ring, and she decides to provide when she wants only. I can't say, find I'll provide when I want and take a break from paying the bills.

WonderBell99 · Answer

I feel like most married couples are unhappy. I don’t want to get married and be miserable.

Anonymous · Answer

Yes I want to get married and have a family together. I believe family is the most important thing in the world. The happiest people I know have strong, close-knit families. I was raised in one and I want to continue that traditions. I want to marry a good guy and start our own family together.

Anonymous · Answer

I am saying no. My mom is saying yes. Her argument is that she did not build the kingdom we live in for the relatives to take afterwards.

I need to get married then. I don't have a choice it seems.

And I am not dumb enough to lose the inheritance.

Anonymous · Answer

Real marriage as historically defined as the service to love and care for the mother/father of your children is a necessary and good thing for humanity.

Modern "marriage" as define simply as an expression of personal feelings is as pointless as it is logically undesirable to let anyone tell you what feelings your allowed to have.

HighValue · Answer

A prenuptial agreement is a requirement before I would consider marriage. If there is any hesitation on her part or she gets upset when it is suggested I would end the relationship.

LiamJHayden · Answer

Under current laws, only if I am diagnosed as terminally ill, and then only so I can pass on my assets to my best friend without her having to pay inheritance taxes and having my house reassessed.

liujingjing · Answer

When we were together, every day was happy and happy, until we got married, things changed more, some things were more serious than I imagined, people who like you at the beginning will not hit you, and they will coax you every day Happy to take you shopping, until you get married, some things will not tell you, but the family is doing it secretly, when you find out by yourself, you will know everything from it.

lightbulb27 · Answer

I did last year. I was very avoidant over my life and afraid of getting married and having kids. Took a long time to get past those hangups and poor conditioning in childhood.

jamesgoldman · Answer

I don't know, maybe I guess I've pulled engagement rings apart and scrapped wedding bands long enough to becone cynical so I guess it'll take the right woman to make up my mind

TheUniqueOne96 · Answer

Nah, the act of it is pointless. I'd rather have a long term relationship without being married.

FifiJones · Answer

Married, certainly. Plus a pregnancy. Just not certain whether first mutual coitus/marriage should also be pregnancy.

RavVid · Answer

It is a dud deal. Median length of 8 years married. 80% chance of not my choice to divorce by 8 years. Do I look that stupid?

Anonymous · Answer

A very strong yes. For me, a sacred relationship like marriage is very important. I have been single for a long time and want to find a good Decent guy to settle down with.

menina · Answer

I'm not sure yet, but I guess I do. I just think I'm getting too old to get married Lol

electromagnetic · Answer

We’ve put it off for years. Hopefully this year we can agree to a date and let families know.

Nikki1989 · Answer

I have been very happily married for almost 4 years.

AsaKyo · Answer

I'm too ugly and useless to get married, plus I don't know, marriage sucks and there's a lot of bs that comes with it, so no thanks

Anonymous · Answer

Guess...

GoodGuyBreakingBad · Answer

Yes, I would love to get married.

Anonymous · Answer

I want to, but I can't. I promised the love of my life that she's the only girl I'll ever marry and now she's dead. Marriage is off the table

TacosRAwesome · Answer

Yes to an extent but I also know that so far most people annoy me after a while.

NostalgiaSenpi · Answer

I did. It's a dead dream. I can't even get a date.

Anonymous · Answer

Yes but he is taking me for granted  Some days when he realizes I’ll be old with no teefies

imawfulatusernames · Answer

Absolutely. I’m not going to get with someone who I have no standing with

Anonymous · Answer

The only thing a man gains when getting married is a woman to have sec with consistently. Even then it’s bound to stop eventually. Men end up loosing everything

Paul09 · Answer

It's mostly a religious thing or a woman thing. Not for me. I do like the food and dance part Tho..

msc545 · Answer

I've been there and done that and still have the scars. Never again.

Anonymous · Answer

There's no point to anything and hopefully I won't live long enough to be able to do that

Anonymous · Answer

Why buy the cow when I'm getting the milk for free?

Jmmmfi4 · Answer

More than anything... but it'll never happen sadly

midnightmoon05 · Answer

Just got married second time. So yeah.

Summeroflove · Answer

Hopefully someday

Anonymous · Answer

I am too old for marriage. I waited price save me but he never showed up

serious · Answer

The answer is NO

Simslover92 · Answer

Some days I do and other days I don't.

leahzrc · Answer

gotta meet the right person

MementoMori777 · Answer

Yea but I'm avoiding documents

LuukeStarkilller91 · Answer

I would love to one day!

Rudon00 · Answer

Yes I would love too

TheFlak38 · Answer

No. There is nothing in it for me.

supercutebutt · Answer

No way.

Anonymous · Answer

It's not really a goal anymore.

Greenbean27 · Answer

Maybe one day.

Britney04 · Answer

Maybe if I met the right girl when I get older.

OG956 · Answer

I'm not sure if I even want 2 have anyone.

JonesT10Apr · Answer

yes wanna get married sure

TryMeBee · Answer

Lol no

Agape93 · Answer

Fuck no

Static_In_The_Attic · Answer

Oh HELL no!

Cheerfull009 · Answer

Looking for suitable girl

alearningboy · Answer

Yes I really love to marry

sheenagwapa · Answer

absolutely...

Jamie05rhs · Answer

Of course!

XiJinping · Answer

Maybe.

Jazzy54 · Answer

Yes. 😃

Becky316 · Answer

I am married

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