Why it’s not my destiny to get married help?

[Sugar100]

I feel confused because im

not a party girl, or girl that wants be free forever. My dream is he a mom & wife & have 3 kids & have life with a partner. I cook clean loyal , I thought u need all that to get married & have man keep u? My mom would always say you can’t marry without knowing how to cook & clean.

im settled down in life & empty live alone. My whole family are all married except for me. I never had 100 bfs as all men reject me & don’t want a girlfriend. No man has ever met my mom & dad. I’ve never met a guys family. I don't know why I see men happily eat dinner at his gfs moms house & laughing etc. my family all magically got their first boyfriend they love to marry them & the guy I love don’t want kids or marry or live together or meet family.

I’ve never met 100 men that want babies & wifes & want a fiancé & propose or want meet a gfs family. everyone on dating apps are ugly & want sex only & cat fish.

I work & lay in bed that’s all I do everyday. I’m ready plan trips with my partner & plan having babies plan where we will live together plan be with his family every weekend but instead I’m not doing any of that & empty. Saving for a future that don’t exist.

[RespectfulGuy]

Guys are shallow. If you're not a party girl, then you're likely a wall flower.

Ironically, those who party are those who get noticed and quickly got dated.

Then they may opt to "settle down" or say "no marriage no sex".

Perhaps this is a rogue move to get your guy.

Buy hey, I'm a guy. I know. We can be really shallow and easily manipulated when a girl hangs sex as "carrot" to get our attention.

[Sugar100]

So girls say no sex til marriage to get a boyfriend?

[Sugar100]

My family aren’t party people and still got married

[Sugar100]

I asked a question one time on gag & they all said they have sex on first date they never meet parents first then have sex

[Sugar100]

If I say marriage first then sex all men will run far away from me

[RespectfulGuy]

For sure you can say no to sex on a first date.

And when you date him for a period of time, you get to know him better.

Then you can decide if you want to save sex until marriage.

Many girls do. And the guys agreed.

Likewise many girls said no and guys left.

And not forgetting guys have their rights too. You decide the boundaries and agree with him regarding his.

Primary principle to a good relationship: open, honest communication. Failure which the relationship will eventually fail.

Hence learn to communicate and respect differences. This is also an important factor to successful relationship.

[Sugar100]

Wen I met my boyfriend I didn’t have sex after first date in fact I didn’t have sex with him for one year after the first date.

[RingOfFire]

This is so sad. I feel for you. But don't give up. You are not so old. These days, people settle down at a later age often in their 30s. And sometimes a surprise comes along and you meet someone very special when you least expect it.

[Sugar100]

I don’t want settle in my 30s

[Sugar100]

I’m not a party girl

[Sugar100]

I just don’t understand y my siblings deserve perfect life and I don’t deserve a partner

[RingOfFire]

Fate is always hard to understand.

[Anonymous]

Get out of your negative mind. Nothing will happen for you if you keep this negativity.

[Anonymous]

It's important to remember that your destiny is not predetermined, and that you have the power to create the life that you want. While it may feel discouraging to have not yet found a partner who shares your goals and values, it's important to keep an open mind and continue to actively seek out opportunities to meet new people and build relationships.

It's also important to question some of the beliefs and expectations that you may have internalized about what it takes to get married or be in a successful partnership. While cooking and cleaning skills can be valuable in a relationship, they are not the only factors that determine whether someone is a good partner. Similarly, there is no one right way to find a partner or build a family, and it's important to stay true to your own values and priorities rather than trying to conform to societal expectations.

If you're feeling stuck or unsure about how to move forward in your personal life, it may be helpful to seek out the support of a therapist or counselor. They can help you explore your beliefs and values, identify any barriers to finding a partner, and develop strategies for building fulfilling relationships and creating the life that you want.

[Sugar100]

All my family married the guy THEY LOVE. I found the guy I love and he don’t meet family he don’t go on vacation with me he don’t live with me and is man child.

[Sugar100]

Just cuz there r 10 guys out there that love me doesn’t mean I will also love them back or that they r the one. So it’s not true we can control life no we can’t. My dream was marry at 18 have 3 kids fast did that happen and a guy appear to marry me and get me pregnant NO

[hahahmm]

Guys are very visual. If you live in a society where marriages are not arraigned by parents then you need to dress in a style that can attract the male eye. I do NOT mean that you should dress like a hooker or dress like you're desperate for attention. But you should dress in a way that shows the size of your waist, wrist/ lower legs & chest. Now you may say, "but I don't want a guy who just wants the physical!" This isn't all about what you want. Guys have preferences too. The higher quality guys aren't out there dating women who look horrible. To even get your foot in the door, you need to look good enough for him to think you look 'right'. Then he will think about other stuff like your personality & character. Sometimes it's the other way around. If a woman has a 1 in a million personality she can get guys even if she is dressed in baggy jeans and t-shirt BUT that's not you or you'd already have a guy.

[clampfan101]

It’s never too late to find love. Follow your heart and make your destiny.

[exitseven]

We make our own destiny.