My fiancé said she doesn't trust me and I'm hurt. What should I do?

[Anonymous]

Hello. So today my fiance and I went to pre-marital counseling. We plan on getting married in 3 months. Today was our first session where we talked about our views on marriages and the roles we play. After that, the counselor separated us and had a one-on-one talk. My fiance went first and I followed. They then called us in together and give us a consensus. He told me what she said, and he told her what I said. One of the questions was "Do you trust your partner?'' my fiance answered no. The counselor asked her why in front of me and she answered "Because men will be men. They build a life with you and destroy it" I was hurt when I heard this. My character is something that I take very seriously. for her to question my character and the love I have for her is very hurtful. What should I do?

[Anonymous]

"Because men will be men. They build a life with you and destroy it"

There is a lot of irony in this ^ statement coming from a woman considering it is women who file 80% of divorces.

Bro, you need to end your relationship with this woman. You're not even married yet and you're already in counseling. That should tell you something. But more importantly, she clearly has very unhealthy views of men and relationships. She has been poisoned by feminist influences and she will ruin your life. Don't put yourself in that position. Walk away and don't look back. There are still good women to be found, go find one.

[Iron_Man]

She’s very insecure, maybe from the past from somebody else

[provokeesmokee]

Keep going to therapy with her, but be open with how you're hurt.

It isn't too late to back out.

The weird shit with your fiance is that she's making a self-fulfilling prophecy - she is projecting her insecurities onto you and hurting you. She's ruining this on her own.

This needs more talking about and she needs constant therapy until she can differentiate between her biases, her previous partners, and you.

And if she can't, you deserve better.

[LazerBean]

Only a person who is damaged beyond being spouse material would say that. under no circumstances would I marry or even date someone with that mindset.

[Asker]

Im here first real relationship. I don't know if she's damaged?

[LazerBean]

People who grew up in a healthy environment don't think that way. Her other relationships may not have been "real" but that amount of damage definitely came from somewhere.

[Avicenna]

It doesn't sound like it's really about you

[Anonymous]

You are not even married yet. This doesn't look good for the future.

[Asker]

explain, please?

[iheartwomen]

i understand violence against women is real and you can never be too sure, at-least she was honest

[Anonymous]

mm yeah it sounds like she doesn't actually want to get married to you.

[Anonymous]

Do she have kids?

[Asker]

no, she doesn't and we do not have kids.