She thinks I don't trust her.. what do I do now?

[Anonymous]

okay so the past few weeks, me and my girlfriend haven't been getting along the greatest. she thinks I don't trust her. and she thinks all I want is sex and that deep down inside I really don't care about her. but I do care about her a lot.

we had made plans to get together new years eve. she was on vacation with her family for a week in Wisconsin. she got back new years eve day,and told me she was too tired to do anything that night because her flight didn't get in until 4 am. she's been blowing me off lately , just a couple of times.. and I was kind of p*ssed about it because it was new years eve and all..and I hadn't seen her in like 10 days. I told her she would end up going out anyway, and that she could sneak out and see me if she really wanted to . I was just saying dumb remarks at the time because I was kind of upset and I had a bad day at work. so now she thinks I question her about everything and that I don't trust her. which in a in a way makes sense because I do sometimes question her about stupid things . cause we don't see each other very often .. just a couple times a week. but look .

ii love this girl . she's everything to me. and I need to make this better between us. how can I show her that I trust her and that I really care about her before its too late? I call her and she doesn't answer her phone.. I talk to her on Facebook , but she won't say much ... just kinda ignores me. what should I do? it may be too late. I don't know . she I asked her to hangout last night and she said "idk just give me some time" so what do I do in this situation? I've never dealt with this before..

[SebSensei]

If her thinking that you don't trust her truly is the only issue in your relationship, you tell her (in a very cool, non-desperate tone) everything you said here regarding your mistake. Let her know that you understand why she's upset
but not in an excited, needy way.. as if you've achieved some huge landmark accomplishment by simply understanding her feelings at one point in time. This will not change a thing, and certainly not gain you any respect points.
Tone is important.
Once she knows that you know where the real problem lies, maintain a steady balance in how you communicate with each other... Constantly worrying and spamming messages will only express insecurity in your relationship, as well as your own self-worth.
If you want her to think that you trust her, you do that by knowing she'll come back to the man that loves her the most.
Be cool, examine your fears, and replace it with positivity.
Everybody makes mistakes.

[macaljr]

well if she won't answer her phone, why don't you write her a note in Facebook or something and explain to her why you questioned her for stupid things and the reason why you questioned her like that because you miss her and you don't see each other often so you started thinking that way..and maybe then you should apologize one more time for her and assure her that you deeply care about her and not using her physically or mentally and you're doing everything you can to make it work..and then give her some time...and when she's ready, she'll talk to you...Good luck =)

[wishesONstars]

shes pulling away... give her her space. if she's being a flake like this then chances are its been coming for a long time. if she felt the same way about you she wouldn't have cared how tired she was, ten days is a long time when you really love someone. she would have been excited to see you. something might have happened in wisconsin that you didn't know about. either way sounds to me like she's already moving on... and you should too.

[SebSensei]

The best thing you offered here was to "give her space". It allows her to reflect on how she truly feels while gaining some much-needed respect toward her partner. And using words like "chances are" and "might have" are also very accurate because nobody knows all the details of this situation.
But then you come to the conclusion that they both should just move on... as if the paranoia you injected into the conversation is a proven fact.
The asker appears to seriously love this girl, and has expressed much humility and eagerness in his words. So what purpose does this website serve if he's offered such a lazy response?