Since women peak in their early 20's and men peak in their late 30's would marriages have higher success rate bewtween 30yro men and 20yro women?

[Vegasrunner]

[Oliverlogan263]

Whoa dude, I wouldn't look at it like that. Age is just a number - the most important things in a relationship are communication, respect and caring about each other.

Yeah sometimes there can be an imbalance of life experience between younger women and older men. And power dynamics could get weird if the guy tries to control her or something.

Honestly every person is different in what they want. A 30yo man shouldn't only look at 20yo women just because of some supposed "peak." That treats women like objects instead of full humans.

Relationships are about friendship and partnership, not statistics. As long as two people genuinely make each other happy, who cares about age? But a big age gap does raise risks if one partner isn't treating the other as an equal.

I'd say focus less on silly theories, and more on finding someone you click with as a whole person - inside and out. Don't limit your dating pool based on ages alone. Connection is way more complex than that.

[Vegasrunner]

@Oliverlogan263 TY for sharing whatever that was but I'm not sure what this has to do with the question at hand. The question simply ask would success rates for marriage be better if men in their primes married women in their primes. What you are saying is hypothetical hallmark card rhetoric that has no bases in reality. How many women have you been with?

[Oliverlogan263]

Dude, I'm just saying age alone shouldn't be the deciding factor. Who cares about "peaks" and all that, relationships are way more complicated. As for me, I haven't been with many girls tbh, still trying to figure this all out to be honest. I had a few there and there. All I'm saying is there's more to it than just numbers and biology or whatever. Feelings and connecting with someone is important too. Maybe those big age gaps could work out fine sometimes, but there's also risks like power dynamics and being in different life stages. I don't know man, it just seems tricky.

[Vegasrunner]

@Oliverlogan263 I'm not sure why you believe any one factor alone would determine success, but perhaps your youth anf inexprience explains your ignorance. Obviously everyone cares about "peaks" or we would have terms like appreciating and depreciating, The question simply ask would the institution of marriage have a higher rate of people staying married if men and women got married more when both where at there individual peak vs when that are at similar ages. Take u as an example, at 22 you are far from your peak as a man, as you are just likely beginning your financial journey, or are u trying to say you want to be earning the same amount 15 years from now as you do today? Compare that to a woman that is 22 who will have much more value than a woman 15 years her elder. If you don't believe me go out one night w/ a group of 37 yro women vs w/ a group of 22 yro women. Who do you believe will get more attention?

[OlderAndWiser]

What you are citing is numbers which describe a population at large, and not individuals, and the numbers are simply wrong. I don't know how you are measuring "peak" but if you are referring to desire for frequent sex, my experience is that women in their mid 30's to early 50's are at their peak. My desire for sex peaked around age 22 and has never receded.

[Vegasrunner]

@OlderAndWiser What you mean to say is citing facts. "Peak" is measured by desirability and value. A 25 yro woman is more desired than a 35 yro woman because woman are valued for their beauty. A 35 yro man is more desired because men are valued for their resources. The fact that your desire peaked isn't realivant the question is did you are more money at 22 or 35×?

[Anonymous]

Ehh… The brainwashing about men peaking in their 30s…

Have you slept with a hot 23-25 yo man?

There’s nothing better in the world…

The same women who marry men because they are in their peak FINANCIALLY, also get quite good financial benefits after divorcing them.

You don’t want someone to marry you because of your success, you want a woman to want you as a man, regardless of what you have or don’t have…

You can always trade your money for someone’s youth,

And if you impressed them with your money or success, be sure she will trade you for someone younger someday ;)

What I am saying is, it’s a stupid thought that men peak in their 30s. Men peak in their 20s in attractiveness the same way women do…

You can still go for anyone you want regardless of their age, just stop acting entitled.

[Vegasrunner]

@anonymous unfortunately that is a false belief. Technically men peak around 45 as that is their top earning year statistically. Also stats show very few people are sleeping w/ 25yro men as 33% of men under 30 are virgins or haven't had sex in a year. Marriage is not something that any man should do, and your answer shows why it's important to the female. Women don't trade men for youth they trade them for resources, men trade women for youth hence the reason 20yro are at their peak. A 20 yro man is actually the lowest on the totem pole as he typically has little resources, skills or experience which are things that society values men for. A 20yro woman has beauty and youth which is what society values women for. You should learn this ASAP as you will find out the hard way once your peak is over.

[Anonymous]

Sexually? Women grow even more sexually after 30 lol.

[Vegasrunner]

@bros26 I agree, but a lot of that has to do w/ their attractiveness declining

[Anonymous]

Maybe, it really depends on the person

[Vegasrunner]

@anonymous Na that's just something stupid people say. The world works in generalities