If men’s peak is in their 30s and women’s peak is in their 20s, why aren’t most women in their 20s with men in their 30s?

[Anonymous]

If we men peak in our 30s and women peak in their 20s due to fertility reasons, why are most women in their 20s not dating/marrying men in their 30s? I just joined Redpill and this is a really popular opinion. But no one is asking this question and it’s bothering me.

[jennifer_bloom]

When I was in my 20s I did not like guys in their 30s cause I thought they were too serious and could not relate to my sense of humour. I wonder if younger people feel that way about me cause 90% of the time that somebody initiates a conversation with me it's somebody my age or older even though I know more young people then older ones due to graduating from school late.

[noamazia]

because peaking doesn't mean a stage in life.
almost everyone in their 20's aren't ready to settle down while people in their 30's mostly do. it's the same with maturity, interests, plans and so on. so in the end, most people in their 20's aren't compatible with people in their 30's.

what you heard is what society think is the time of peak "value" for each of them. and it is very arguable.

[Asker]

But if we peak and are most wanted in our 30s by women, and women peak in their 20s and are most wanted by men. It doesn’t make any sense why those age groups aren’t together the most. If that’s literally when what each other the most?

[Asker]

It’s not “society”. In Redpill this is stated as FACTS. Big difference

[noamazia]

well, think about it as "minimal requirements".
lets say there is a woman named amanda and she is 25. if we say that all men are viable for dating, then yeah, she would probably go for men in their 30s.
but if Amanda doesn't want someone who is so old that her health would start deteriorating way before her does, restricting what they can do together, then she can no longer date people in their late 30s.
other "minimal requirements" can be as i mentioned before which can be hard lines for a cut off. needing the man to fit her wants and needs. and vise versa. she might not want to have kids in the next 6 years. but for a man in his mid 30's it might be too late since he wants to be able to run and play with his kids and not have a heart attack by the time they graduate highschool.
as someone who just celebrated 30, i know i like women my age more. for me they are of higher value. but I know I don't want to have kids in the next few years and those women usually do want them so I don't date them.

[Asker]

No, Redpill says it’s biological and can’t be helped. So again if that is true, it makes NO sense that most women in their 20s aren’t with men in their 30s. Women care about resources the most CORRECT? Ok and men care about looks and fertility the most correct or no? So why are most 30+ year old men not dating and marrying 20 year old women?

[noamazia]

none of those had and outright "correct" as the answer.
maybe it is true in more brutal time or place, where women need safety and men look for heredity. but right now, in the western world, it's not like that. and os it is not applicable.

[Asker]

Redpill is modern and applies to right now. You know, I think most guys in the group would straight up call you a simp. I’m just starting to feel like I’m being lied to. I don’t really want to be with a woman who’s with me for my resources anyway

[Anonymous]

Because most people are averse to dating someone whose age is too different that their own. So women compromise a litte on men's maturity and men compromise a little on women's youth and attractiveness.

[Asker]

You’re not making sense. Redpill says it’s BIOLOGICAL. There is no compromise. Men are the pursuers correct or no? So if most men in their 30s are going after women in their 20s why don’t most couples have that age gap?

[Opinion Owner]

What I wrote made perfect sense. Stop pretending to be a man on GAG. We know who you are, sweetie.

[TenderFantasy]

Some maybe are? I can't account for people in general but well I dated someone who's Chinese ex-wife was 22 and he was 29 (about to be 30) when they married back in 2004. I don't know if that's true that men peak biologically in their 30's honestly. I read somewhere that it's like 18 (or maybe around the same time as women), not real sure.

[LazerBean]

Because most people don't see it that way.