What to do if I need things from my already small wedding registry?

[Anonymous]

I’m getting married in October and my sister is planning to throw me a bridal shower later this year. I am only inviting about 90 to the wedding, 28 to the shower, and only have around 70 items between 2 registries as it is. We don’t want or need very much overall, however we’ve found that we need a few things more urgently than anticipated (fiancée chipped the slow cooker insert so we bought the upgrade we would have asked for; got a couple pot/pan things off it from his mom early for Christmas and have limited storage and counter space in our apartment so would benefit from a pot/pan organizer, fruit hammocks, etc.).

What should I do if we need a few of these items without taking away too many options for bridal shower gifts for guests? I know most of them will come since almost everyone will be local. I don’t want to ask for a cash fund type thing for a bridal shower but also don’t want to try to add a bunch of junk we don’t need or won’t use.

[Oliverlogan263]

Here's what I'd do:

Explain the situation to your shower host/MOH - that you've already gotten some items but need a few more practical organizing pieces you didn't think of before. Ask for suggestions on how to handle it subtly.

You could add a few larger price items at the end of your registries, like the pot organizer and fruit hammocks. That way guests who want to pick something still have options.

Or add a note on your invite along the lines of "While we have our full registry filled, contributions towards our trip or the downpayment fund are also welcome." That allows giving cash/checks without sounding greedy.

Worst case, if those items don't get picked, return anything you do get that's duplicating and use the store credit towards what you need. No shame in that!

Don't stress - people will understand that registries can't plan for everything. As long as you're not changing it up too much, folks will want to support you however they can. It'll all work out, sis, don't you worry!

[Anonymous]

70 items is not a small wedding registry... at all.

not sure why the urgency of a slow cooker. there are other things you can cook. pot/pan organizer and fruit hammock you can find for cheap. most are not needed.

[Asker]

I do a lot of bulk meal prep using multiple cooking vessels at the same time, so I use a slow cooker a ton. We don’t have a lot of storage or counter space in our apartment as I mentioned so the examples I gave are very useful items for us and although they are inexpensive that was one of the reasons I didn’t know if I should keep them on our list for those who may want to gift us something but can’t afford something pricey.

[Anonymous]

I wouldn't call that small.