Would you marry a non virgin 💍?

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I would only marry a virgin. I’ve had sex with a fair few girls. But experience is great for men, whereas it hurts women.

If she’s slept around, the more she’s had boyfriends, the more she can’t form a bond with her spouse. Sex is more emotional for women.
Men want exclusivity, not think another man’s been inside the women I love.

When I see a guy marry a girl that’s slept around I feel embarrassed for him. Like imagine a guy saying ’I have slept with his wife 🫢’

Call me sexiest whatever, I’m just being honest. Men and women aren’t the same.

PositiveFlight · Accepted Answer

Not everyone fits into the same box. I would marry a woman whose heart is in the right place and in whom I love regardless of her past. Everyone makes mistakes and has some sort of past. Why should a woman be treated differently? Maybe she was wild in her past and isn’t a virgin, but maybe one day she realized she made horrible mistakes and wants to have a better life with a loving husband. Why would I deny her that? Why would I not love her? Should everyone have their past held against them when they are truly a changed and repentant person? Should everyone just be miserable and never find true happiness in their life because the world holds their past against them? I think not!

Now of course I have no reason to want to be with a woman who is still wild and crazy with an only fans account or doesn’t want marriage and family. But that’s because of who she is in the moment. That’s very different from a woman who does want honorable marriage and to be faithful moving forward who has rejected and learned from her past. Of course I would be with and marry a non-virgin who is in the correct mindset. Because I love her. Christ forgave and loved the woman at the well. Who am I to do different?

Anonymous · Accepted Answer

I think if most men could be truly honest and if presented with a real choice between a woman that had slept around Vs one that had never done so. Not one of the guys would knowingly and willingly choose the non virgin.

But what happens is men lower their expectations and standards and consistently adjust themselves to match the declining quality of most of the modern women in society. This often occurs due to desperation or an inability to go without and stand on their beliefs. In short they are controlled by their obsession with short term pleasure. In a similar sense, women have done the same by having sex earlier and earlier within dating because they have lowered their expectations to match the inability of men to control their urges and need for short term pleasure. What happens when two declining patterns meet each other and adjust to the same levels...

Anonymous · Accepted Answer

I personally wouldn’t want to marry a virgin and my boyfriend also agrees, we both value sex within the relationship and my boyfriend has stated that he needs to be able to vibe w/ the girl he’s in a relationship with in bed to know that he wants to marry her.

Based on my friends’ experience (who waited until marriage), their sex life ended up feeling lackluster. They were virgins while their husbands weren’t when they first got married. They felt like they were “missing out”, having been with only their own husbands so a lot of them ended up cheating…

Anonymous · Accepted Answer

That would make a world full old lonely men because there’s a lot of older guys who aren’t married yet and it’s not very common to find a woman around their same age who hasn’t had at least a boyfriend or two whom they’ve had intimacy with. So by your logic a greater percentage of men would stay single without any sex at all zero, just because at a certain age most women have had at least a partner already. I’m sure smarty men would rather not stay alone sexless lonely life as opposed to finding a good woman that loves them whose had sex before.

Jessica405 · Answer

Now that is the height of hypocracy! You are quite willing to shaft women, and maybe some are virgins. Then you want to marry a virgin yourself. If all men thought the same way, some girls could never marry. The answer ifs for ALL girls to refuse to have sex until marriage.

AviatorTom · Answer

I married a non-virgin. I wasn't virgin either when we got married. We each had partners before we knew each other. Our marriage lasted for 20 years before an amicable divorce.

LaFemmeFatale_1 · Answer

When I was a virgin, I only wanted to date a virgin.  I hated when people fetishized my virginity.

tremendousfern · Answer

I would marry a non-virgin because I'm a non-virgin and it seems hypocritical to demand something from her that I didn't save myself.

I think casual sex still affects men's abilities to bond as well. I know from personal experience that catching feelings after casual sex is what made me realize what a dumb mistake I was making and stop having sex outside of marriage. If I could do it all over again, I would have saved my virginity for my wife and expected the same from her but I can't put that genie back in the bottle.

Blessedme · Answer

Someone proposed to me but I was told that he had couple sexual relationships before. I refused his advances. I am virgin & need a virgin spouse. There's no guarantee that he will loyal to me if he couldn't control his penis before marrying me.

Lliam · Answer

I don't know where you get such ideas. From reading nonsense on-line, I guess.

It's fine to have preferences, but to try to convince people that they are based on universal, "scientific" truth is laughable. It's imaginary childishness that is not born out by reality or experience.

But the fanatical cult of virginity keeps proselytizing. Their virgin fetish reminds me of Sunni Islam. It has to be based on either religious beliefs or insecurity. Fear, fear, fear.

In a way, it's good that these socially maladjusted, sexually inhibited dweebs take themselves out of the running for wives. They would make terrible husbands anyway. Women should mock and laugh at them.

bobby_bush_eater · Answer

I am not a virgin but recently come to a conclusion that I don't want to have sex in my next relationship until marriage.

Your opinion of only finding a virgin is hypocritical and also going to be increasingly difficult at your age.

I disagree entirely with the notion experience is great for men. Why is it great? We don't learn or grow in any way we just get a short term pleasure and our society backwards society pats you on the back but in reality it's the same degenerate behavior women are shamed for.

It also seems unlikely with the way you present your views that you spend time in places where anyone would be a virgin. You're not going to find a 25 year old virgin at the bar or club...

Lara_Croft · Answer

Haha-false but nice try tho. You have slept around, a Godly virgin woman is not going to think you're a worthy spouse esp if you're not repentant. Sorry. You can't attract what you're not, a man that sleeps around shows a lack of self-control-virtuous women don't find that attractive unless you're repentent

itsclearlynicholas · Answer

I disagree with your views respectfully that: if I'm 29 and a virgin, and there is a 20s aged virgin woman with similar vibes and a virgin herself in her 20s, whether mid 20s or late 20s, then I feel the virgins are for virgins and should stick together. And they'll both be clean 🫧🪥😅👀🛏️🛏️🤭

SphynxUK · Answer

You will definitely succeed in relationships with this view. Women love double standards and hypocrisy. Go you!
The only reason you want a virgin is because you’ll hope she thinks you’re the best she’s had!

Quogha · Answer

My question to you is; if you have sex with women before marriage, why would you only marry a virgin? It is reasonable to want to marry a virgin. But is it unfair to say should be able to expect the same?

BoopBoopBeep · Answer

I've never seen the appeal to virgins, the ones I've been with didn't have magical powers or some such.

TheSpaceGnome · Answer

I'm a virgin, and I would only marry a virgin woman.
I don't think non virgins deserve virgins. If you aren't willing to save yourself, then she doesn't have to either, otherwise its just a double standard.

KittygosMeoWW · Answer

Lmao I am a non virgin but will marry whoever is best suited for my life. Your perception on a woman’s value because her experience or lack of experience is coming from a weak and ignorant mentality.

JacobJordan · Answer

I married a non-virgin. Though to be fair it was because we lost our virginity to each other.

LiamS95 · Answer

Thst is full on hypocrisy and a double standard definitely not a fair or balanced outlook.

RebelinSteel · Answer

Of course it is dead easy to tell if she’s a virgin…🙄

Anonymous · Answer

Its because you're jealous and stupid, and and and disgusting to have virginity as fetish, you sound really uneducated

Anonymous · Answer

If I was still a virgin I wouldn't. But I am more open to it now that I have lost mine.

laly520 · Answer

indeed I am going to marry a virgin

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