backstory: I have two kids from a previous relationship that was fueled by drugs and alcohol. I was using drugs and alcohol to cope with severe depression and suicidal thoughts. It wasn’t until after my second son was born that I got sober, went back to school, got a job and got away from him. I have primary custody but unfortunately I was unable to deny him visitation even though there is documentation of abuse, drug use and threats against my life. They see him every other weekend and holidays.
My husband (high school sweetheart that came back a year ago) is upset that he wasn’t the first marriage or the first to give me a child/children and he resents the boys. He wants me to give them to my abuser and move to another state with him and only have his children. He says that ANY guy would agree with him that I need to forget my other children in order to have a happy marriage with him.
i don’t want to give up my children and I even asked him to compromise and flip the custody arrangement so that I’d at least have them on weekends and holidays but they’d live with their bio dad full time and he said no.
He is so upset that I had a life before him that he even threw out all of my clothing and bought me a new wardrobe. He wants me to throw out their baby pictures and pictures of me from before we got back together.
He doesn’t want me to have friends or family and now he wants to move to Utah and have me stay at home raising and homeschooling his children but won’t allow the other two to come. (I’d have to fight in court to relocate and relocation cases are almost never won)
I’m already completely alone because I don’t dare tell anyone we know about what he’s saying so I’m just hoping someone could tell me I’m not crazy and that this isn’t normal when a single mom remarries.
