I hate my husband?

[Anonymous]

I literally can't stand being in the same room as him, like everytime I see him in a room I walk into, my stomach drops and a bad taste enters my mouth and like hate just spreads through me like a wildfire. I don't know why it does, like it just started happening a couple weeks ago, one day we were fine and then it's like a switch flipped in my brain and now I'm just done with his bs and his empty promises/words. I don't know if there is any going back? Like any of the coping mechanisms I do to make the anger go away works until I see him again! What do I do?

[Anonymous]

BE HONEST and tell your husband how you feel. Even if the truth hurts don’t make yourself or him miserable. You are his wife and he deserves to know.

I would say this needs to have some SERIOUS marriage counseling or divorce before something happens.

I do need to ask. Have you cheated on him? Because a lot of times when someone cheats on their partner it can and does cause feelings of intense hate for their husband (or wife)

[Opinion Owner]

And you say his empty promises. Look. Maybe this is doomed and you need to get a divorce. Before you do something you regret.

Maybe you’re both not right for one another and are trying to change each other

[OlderAndWiser]

First, you need to be honest with yourself about why this is happening. I'll bet you actually know why you feel this way.

[avery58]

Be honest with him. Communicate your feelings but communicate maturely without arguing, and decide what's best for both of you and what you wanth. Whether it's couple's therapy, a break or divorce.

[DishLady]

So leave him. What would you like us to tell you?

[Finchie40]

Separate for awhile and focus on yourself , get some counseling and try to get down to the root cause of you feeling this way

[Summeroflove]

It may be past that point

[Finchie40]

Well she os married to him and she made a vow to God , so she is better to get some help to try to save her marriage and try to find out why all of a sudden she feels this way about him ,

[Staximus]

Did you live with him before getting married to figure out what you were getting yourself into? You need to get some kind of marriage counseling or just get divorced. Try actually communicating your feelings openly and let him know what he's doing that bothers you, that way he's not wondering what he did wrong.

[OddBeMe]

Woah. Thats not normal. Even in abusive relationships. The abused wife works up to realizing she’s being abused.

Sure this was “all of a sudden”?

[Asker]

The feelings come and go. I push them off because I figured if I communicate how I feel about things and offer solutions he'd do something about it. He does fix the issues for like a week to I guess appease me and then goes back to the same old. This has been going on for a few years and I guess I'm just done

[OddBeMe]

Ahh so there are actual issues and he knows about them, but refuses long term fix. Just dump him.

[Asker]

I can't afford a divorce right now, I also don't know how to go about it

[OddBeMe]

If you like the rest of us, there’s no real assets to divvy up besides what’s actually yours.

There are cottage industries for annulments or mutual divorces. The tough ones are where there’s children or houses and shit.

If you could just gather up your shit and leave, talk to a lawyer about it.

[Asker]

Thank you so much! The only thing we like share that's expensive is I cosigned on a car with him but I think I'll let him keep it since I have my own car

[OddBeMe]

Yeah…courts will base a lot on usage. And on registration. If it’s in his name, and not the house, it’s his.

But yeah just try out a few divorce attorneys. Your hubby may get hellah upset. Or he may try to change more drastically to keep you. Think about your redlines.

[Asker]

Thank you so much

[OddBeMe]

Good luck. Serisously watch out for his mood after. I’m sure everything will be fine, but don’t be afraid to get a restraining order. Quite easy as well.

[DrPepper12]

Therapy. Atrial separation. Good support group of girls n family

[Danny_dan92]

Ok then file for divorce.




Simple solution

[Anonymous]

Sounds like a you problem not a him problem. I recommend counseling. Or divorce as you clearly should never have married.

[Asker]

I wouldn't have a problem if he did what he said he would

[Opinion Owner]

Okay? What promises has he failed to keep?

[Anonymous]

So what empty promises are you talking about? What things did he say he’d do that he isn’t?

[Anonymous]

Consult Dr. ROCK.😆😆😆

https://www.youtube.com/embed/RIJavth0a9c

[noohair]

Sounds like you have a problem. I would suggest therapy to discover what is inside you.

[OhLongJohnsoning]

This is why i don't want marriage, or kids. I'm white

[slatyb]

You get a divorce. Do you have children?

[Asker]

No we don't

[slatyb]

Then it should be fairly simple. Probably not a lot of assets to divide

[Asker]

Not really we just have a car that we cosigned together and then I have my own car that's just in my name

[Telekinetic-Potato]

Damm, what changed? Empty words?

[exitseven]

divorce is probably your best bet.

[MasterKS]

Just go away from his life! Simple!

[Asker]

Divorce is not simple

[OhLongJohnsoning]

@MasterKS but i thought it was "bad" for divorce to happen

[MasterKS]

live away, change home, you can sign divorce later on if you hate him so much!

[OhLongJohnsoning]

Again, i thought divorce was "bad", according to republicucks

[Jmmmfi4]

WHAT A LUCK GUY

[In_Trance]

So separate

[Anonymous]

It's divorce time

[yes_goddess]

Get some therapy