I hate my husband with all my soul for all the years I wasted next to him?

[Anonymous]

He’s a weak man. I met him when he was nothing and didn’t even have a bike. We had a daughter a she passed away, my father and his mother passed away, he got cancer twice, I’m recovering from difficulties swallowing. I’m just done with this man. I supported him and helped grow. He’s car is paid off. He has no debt and I’m pushing him to buy and invest. In. It in love with him. He’s not ugly he’s actually handsome but he’s nerdy attitude makes me want to show him how to
Stop breathing. I want to divorce so bad but we still got a year more because my dumbas invested and to finish we need one more year. He’s weak and I act tough because of him.

What to do until we finish life contract because I’m gonna keep hating on him for wasting my youth I’m 29 😩 I used to look younger a year ago but having him as a husband made me look like I’m just leaving because I need to. I hate him to the point I need him out

[OlderAndWiser]

1. "but he’s nerdy attitude makes me want to show him how to Stop breathing." Most people would solve this problem by getting a divorce but you want someone dead. That makes YOU look like an awful human!

2. "I want to divorce so bad but we still got a year more because my dumbas invested and to finish we need one more year." You won't divorce him now because it will cost you more money? That's your decision and it says something about your priorities.

3. "I’m gonna keep hating on him for wasting my youth I’m 29" No, YOU wasted your youth. You chose him, you married him, you stay married to him, and no one is pointing a gun at you to make you do these things. Do you ever take responsibility for your own decisions and actions?

4. "I used to look younger a year ago" We are all getting older every year.

5. "having him as a husband made me look like I’m just leaving because I need to." I'm not even sure what you are saying, but once again, you are claiming it's your husband's fault. I'm not surprised.

6. "I hate him to the point I need him out" I doubt that you will be happier when he is gone. The hate inside you did not come into being when you got married.

[lightbulb27]

stress is aging you. source of that stress not clear... you want to run but can't. this sounds like some kinda arranged marriage or required thing combined with lots of loss.

Find Christ, find a good therapist to help naviage you to a better place emotionally. not sure this is his fault, he's being him. trouble is your expectation of him. it can be frustration if two don't think or value similar, not going in same direction.

hope you find a path to growth, that will feel good. else, finding what is good, grateful for in the moment.

[Anonymous]

When you said I do to him did you not know he was nerdy?

regardless of your age losing a child, a parent and health issues is going to aged anyone.

part of being a couple is to help each other out whether that be with debt etc.

If you really can't afford to divorce that's one thing but if that's not the case, it's silly not to with how miserable you are with him.

[Anonymous]

He was weak before you met him, and he is still weak now. I don’t know what you expected.

[AI Opinion]

Oh, love, sounds like you're riding a rollercoaster of emotions without any brakes! First off, it's super important to recognize the toll resentment can take on you personally. It's like drinking poison and waiting for the other person to get sick. So, let's talk about flipping the script a bit. You've got a year on this 'life contract', as you put it. How about we use this time to focus on you, rediscover what makes you tick, what passions have been put on the back burner, and maybe even fall back in love with life? It's like a relationship glow-up!

While it's easier said than done, creating a positive environment for yourself, even amidst turmoil, can be liberating. Maybe it's time for some self-care, a new hobby, or rekindling friendships that have been on pause. And communication - it's key. Express your feelings, but maybe try to dial down the hate and focus on your needs and boundaries instead.

Remember, you've got the strength of a warrior, but even warriors need a little TLC. 🌟 Let's start crafting a love story with yourself for now. Who knows, by the end of the year, you might not just leave with your investments but also a rejuvenated you ready to conquer the world! 💃

[normalice]

Youth ends at 20. It is already gone. But it sounds like you might be mad at him for a lot of things that aren't in his or anyone else's control. I suspect you might have had a father who always seemed to be in control no matter the situation. But it's more likely you were just shielded from knowledge of the deepest despairs.

[exitseven]

Whenever I read something like this it makes me appreciate the amazing wife that I have. She is truly a life partner. We support each other in all ways. We were two kids that were flat broke when we got married and somehow we raised 3 successful kids and built a life that we could not have imagined 30 years ago.

[HouseMoat]

Isn't it interesting how you once "pledged your devotion to him"

I wonder why people get married anyway

That's why I never will, pitiful

[Anonymous]

Sorry... you sound bitter and immature. He didn't do anything to you. You allowed this to happen... and you decided to stay all of these years. Be a grownup and take responsibility for your life choices.

[jahaims]

An idiot projecting blame to avoid accountability in order to cope with her poor decisions.

[Anonymous]

Sounds like you’re the problem, not him. You sound childish.

[Anonymous]

WTF, why do stupid women choose to breed with stupid men and then complian about when they get?

Sorry, I have zero sympathy for you.

[NewgodOmega]

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