What should I do for my husband bcause he says he hates his life?

Question

I'm really worried about him, I don't know why he thinks this way but he acts like he's bored with life. What can I do to make him feel better?

ohsheeT · Accepted Answer

First of all do not baby him be truthful with him on the things that you feel I don't know why he feels the way he feels I don't know if it's true or if it's false or if he's manipulating you to get something from you or to make himself not the part of society there's too many things that could be happening without actually knowing what's happening and you need to know that too you know is it real is it a manipulation because a lot of people that say that they don't want to be here it's a manipulation because they don't want to do anything they want to play they want to have their fun while you're away working your ass off to make money for you both to live and then when you get home he plays the poor poor pitiful me I'm not saying that's what's happening I don't know I just got a vibe of that that's that was it

But if it is real and if it is true you need to love him and you need to get him help because without doing that he's going to end up bringing you down to the point to where you hate him so think about that

Finchie40 · Accepted Answer

Rock his world , give him more attention and let him know you love him and care about him and that you want no one else but him , jump onto his arms when he least expects it and look him in the eyes and tell him how much you love him and want him and tell him you don’t feel bored being with him , Be submissive to him and let him have his way with you , Most guys’ love having a submissive girl that wants to please him. He will get out of that funk he is in once he realizes how lucky he is to have a girlfriend like you.

Flower7 · Accepted Answer

Sounds like he needs antidepressants. Outside of that, my best suggestion is to move to a new location. Often, having a fresh start can change a person’s outlook on life.

itsannalee · Accepted Answer

Talk to him, listen to him.  As a wife, u think you understand what makes him feel like that. So try to find solution about his problem together.

MrOracle · Answer

Talk to him, like an adult. Do your absolute best to set any of your negative emotions aside and just let him talk. You likely have no idea what the problem is because he's trying to protect you from it and to be stoic and not complain, but clearly he's struggling. If you can be there for him and let him be safe sharing his issues, that will strengthen your relationship. But this means you have to keep from getting upset, angry, sarcastic, or dismissive, because if you don't, he'll never open up to you again.

Most problems can be solved, even if there is some pain along the way.

Purpleronnie · Answer

Sounds like a bit of a midlife crisis being honest. From my perspective I think it’s great you want to support him and “make him better” but your not the person that can counsel him , and thats not a you thing it’s just the way these things are. Take it from a person that’s been through counseling. Perhaps you have help him see what he thinks is at the root of the issue from his perspective but that could quite easily become emotionally charged and may make matters worse. He needs to talk with someone if not counseling then someone that can be objective and listen !

OfDeath · Answer

I think you should stage an intervention where he gets diagnosed with incurable cancer and suffers for a couple of months thinking he is going to die. Pay for a room in a hospital and send in fake doctors to go in and do “blood tests” and “scans” and stuff while telling him he seems to be getting much worse.

By the end of the prank, have them tell him they’re going to have to amputate his arms and legs the following day. Then the next morning pull the curtain while they’re wheeling his bed to the operating table.

After a scare like that, he will probably appreciate his life more.

Madjaja · Answer

Ask him what does he hate about his life. If he says everything it’s either he’s trying to tell you without being the bad guy “it’s not you, it’s me”. Or he’s looking for you to pity him and bang him senseless. Either way he’s a worm. But if he says specific things and they are fixable and you can accept that, then he is someone to work for. It’s a guy that in touch with his emotions aka an adult. Hopefully that equates an upfront and honest person that is worth keeping if you love him. Nothing worse than a significant other that gives you false/unreasonable expectations and expects you to read his or her mind.

HighValue · Answer

Ask him directly what you can do to make his life better. If he doesn't tell you, tell him to think about it and write it down to share with you later.

(If he doesn't tell you, it likely has something to do with your relationship at least partially.)

Anonymous · Answer

Honestly this is something he has to figure out in his own. Women usually don’t go through the same things as men. All you can do is be there, be supportive. But he needs to figure this out himself. I don’t k ow if he’s in a financial situation or something serious, but yes he needs to figure it out.

diamond · Answer

Talk to him calmly, try to listen to his feelings. Provide support and find solutions together. Doing things you enjoy together can also help. Offer to get professional help if needed.

thegreenyogi · Answer

I don't really think there is much you can do other than give him space. It might just be a moment but if it doesn't pass he might need more support then you can give.

Nikki1989 · Answer

Offer Support. If his feelings of unhappiness persist, encourage him to seek professional help from a therapist.

ArrowheadSW · Answer

That is great that you are concerned about him and wanting to work with him. Perhaps he should consider therapy?

David5668 · Answer

Support, listen and don’t dismiss. When people get that low, it gets hard to climb out on your own. And none of us our superheroes, you might be in that position yourself one day. Hope it sorts itself out for both of you.

EmmaMary · Answer

Get him to seek out having counselling/therapy.

civic · Answer

You should talk to him, he should get psychological treatment.

Lynx122 · Answer

You can't make someone happy when they're depressed. Just try and get him to go to therapy. That's the best you can do.

Aakash_Hangargi · Answer

It's common at this age, just give him space and he will be back. re-state//background_color_rgba (0, 0, 0, 0), font_color_rgb (77, 77, 77), justifyLeft

Unit1 · Answer

You'll need to find out what makes your husband hate his life first.

kaucky1 · Answer

Hey assuming you only had sex when you were wasted not sure if whole vessal stayed together or not or may have been caught frigging self well maybe give some flowers do girly stuff depiction is in circles in either direction will grow boobs

candycane · Answer

First of all, talk to him openly, try to understand his feelings. Make small surprises, try the things he likes together. If necessary, suggest getting support from a specialist. It is very important to make him feel that you are with him.

236color · Answer

Have sex with him, right now. After that you can have that long deep concerned conversation.

slatyb · Answer

Probably nothing. He's going to have to decide that he wants change.

Danny_dan92 · Answer

Figure out what is bothering him and see if there is anything you can do to help him. Or put his mind at ease

exitseven · Answer

He has to figure it out for himself. Or else he likes to complain

SolitarySolace · Answer

Maybe leave him alone? Let him do the things that make him happy that you don't let him do?

Jjmetalchick · Answer

Do something exciting with him, probably plan a trip to go somewhere fun

es20490446e · Answer

What you share, make it good. What you don't share, leave it to him to solve.

StevenMcGarrett · Answer

Offer a threesome. If that doesn't work, seek professional help.

lorenzomichael · Answer

Give him a blowjob Then after ask him how he feels? He'll change his mind I guarantee you.

Jackblue · Answer

talk with him about his interests and the like and encourage him to find a stimulating hobby

Anonymous · Answer

All you can do is play your part, be supportive. This is something he has to work out for himself.

Hispanic-Cool-Guy · Answer

Nothing. Your husband has to have the determination to change his attitude about life.

Anonymous · Answer

Therapy and pills is what helped me at rock bottom. But before this try going on holiday and make it fun and spicy. Have sex everyday. Minimum 2 dates per week. Complement him.

seeyounexttuesday · Answer

He has to be able to express what his issues are. Encourage him to find hobbies.

Anonymous · Answer

Give him a blowjob? Nobody hates living if they are getting a blowjob on the regular.

Staximus · Answer

He needs a change in routine

KittygosMeoWW · Answer

Vacation sex and therapy

Crazzyyworld · Answer

All men are scumgbags

Jmmmfi4 · Answer

SOUNDS LIKE DEPRESSION

scott04sa22 · Answer

therapy

jahaims · Answer

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