My husband makes me hate myself?

Anonymous

So this might be a long one... I've been with my husband 10 years and im nearly 30 years old, 3 kids together but over the last few years things have really deteriorated. He is so focused on himself ALL the time, he simply doesn't care and has said it himself he doesn't about the issues in our relationship. There is no communication, no affection.. Nothing. I have tried talking calmly, i have tried showing anger and frustration over this but nothing works. Its very difficult to bring up anything as he will start getting angry and when he gets angry thats when stuff gets broken. That is how he stops me from talking, he threatens to break my items. All which has cost me a lot of money, he runs a business from home which he threatens to not work if I bring up any problems. I cannot leave because i don't have enough money and i have no family or friends. I have already been through the homeless route and stayed in government housing i dont want to have to do it again especially with 3 children. He makes me hate myself so much, i feel so ugly, worthless and stupid all the time with the way he looks at me its so obvious he absolutely hates me yet he won't leave and let me move on and heal! I feel so lonely and have done for years, i have been to the doctors and have been prescribed Anti depressents and i got diagnosed with severe anxiety, he tells me medication is stupid and i should just go out and do stuff. Its him that makes me feel like this not my home and not the outside world. He projects a lot of the time, for instances i came back from a shift at work i got into my Pjs and jump into my bed to rest my legs as i suffer leg cramps and restless legs, i went under my covers on my phone before the kids got home, he comes into the bedroom obviously thought i was asleep and called me a "slob" i cried to myself for 3 hours after that and hid in the bathroom for majority of it. He is the one who doesn't leave the house, doesn't dress nice, won't make an effort etc!

My husband makes me hate myself?
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