Yes. This is my second marriage and you would think I like other women would be resentful and bitter about life/men/marriage etc especially when I don’t get child support or alimony…i don’t see it that way… I was sad and angry for 3-4 years because it means breaking up a family, and hurting our children… when he ended our marriage.
I don’t get child support or alimony… I learned the hard way why marriages are not taking serious in the US… because no one cares. That was when I heard the lawyers said it’s a no fault marriage…well… whatever…I learned to protect our children… by “staying together” but live separately to raise kids. So I put all my effort to raise kids with him no matter how he was angry with me or took out his anger on me or call me names… all good 😂
I healed and move on and find myself a lovely man (here on gag - not intentionally) to spend time with and live life with and make our new marriage work for us. I bring him a family, a community, joy and love. We travel together, we support one another and care and respect for each other…it’s about what we can do for each other and how we want our lives to be in the future and the now. Since I have 2 kids and I make sure the kids are loved and well care for as well as discipline with the same way I was raise to love themselves and others. And to raise above the system - this is key… raise above the system… and I have done so both in a “failed” marriage and raising kids and financially independent.
my ex just had a baby 2 weeks ago … he and his wife had no support…has no one…i told him I would come help especially in the bringing … as a woman…I know the harshship… I don’t get bother by the way the society view separation… to me it’s a family still and a community to care for one another… obviously he said no…so I suggested that they get a live in nanny. So they are hiring one because it has been very hard.
that’s how I view love and marriage… but I heard I am an exception. wish you the best finding that woman to love and share life with. I don’t like to see people alone…it’s fun for a little then it gets old very soon that so call single life.
I live in Europe (Poland and Germany), and getting married here is common and not a big deal. It's rather a confirmation of the existing state than anything new for a couple. Many people don't decide to get married and create happy, long-term relationships. Even in ultra-Catholic Poland, it calmed down, and young couples are no longer forced to get married by their families before they move in together.
I don't think people think about getting married as something worth or not. It's kind of tradition some people follow or find important...
I had girlfriends from the time I was 16. But I didn't start thinking about settling down until my early 30s. I also wasn't interested in being saddled with kids.
I met my (future) wife when I was 40 and married her two years later. We had both lived full lives before we met, but had never been married or had kids.
We have been happily married now for almost 27 years, had a LOT of fun, and built a wonderful life together. At this point, I would be lonely and miserable without my best friend/trusted companion/life-partner/lover. We are dedicated to each other. We're a team and work toward a happy future together.
For me, absolutely: one of the best things I ever did in my life, although specifically with my wife! Definitely not just any random woman.
I'm in Japan so we don't have things like no-fault divorce or the concept of alimony/spousal support (prenups are unnecessary). Although I'd still consider myself a fool even if we had such things to not marry my wife after having gotten to know her all these years.
I still see it as the best way to raise children and unite families together.
Also in Japan here, we don't marry out of love. I don't that's not a good enough reason to get married. Why bother if it's only about loving each other? Why not just date indefinitely?
We marry primarily with the purpose of building a home, raising a family, and uniting two families together. Love and devotion are a prerequisite but not a sufficient reason to get married here.
That's the way we think about here. It's ultimate a family thing, not a couple thing. It's for people who want to build and unite families. I think that's when marriage has the deepest meaning both as a ritual and binding oath is when it's about much more than just two people.
Yes. I was alone til late 40's. Eating alone, not going places or going out. looking for people to be with. I made it work, but there was always a void. I recall going to work events and saw all the families with kids and I had noone... it was sad, I wondered why. The answer was me!
I'm married now and she's rubbing my foot. If you have a good marriage, it's really good... we travel, enjoy dinners together, go out, spend quiet time together talking and planning out life. It's also less stressful as we share the load. She brought kids to the marriage which has been good. Wish I had one of my own, but too late.
marriage for a man is the ultimate action of despair, both in not being able to reach woman and despair of having someone to be by yourside, to the point of ''settling'' with a woman, basically playing with your meal and risk it getting rot or get stolen.
