What do you think about becoming pregnant without being married?

Question

I believe in marriage so I am against it.

Purpleronnie · Accepted Answer

Couples who decide not to marry can still have kids. Un-planned pregnancies should not be terminated just because the couole aren’t married at the point of conception or shouldn’t feel obliged to marry because of pregnancy.

Generally speaking , while this wouldn’t apply to every situation , the couple should decide to have a baby , biology and nature allowing , and if the couple decide it should be with or without a marriage then that’s they’re choice.
Unplanned pregnancies are a whole different ball-game , and sorry if I offend but the womb-owner gets to decide this ! . So the sperm-giver should always be aware of this and take contraception seriously and not put pressure on the mother or relationship after.

Clearly there are other scenarios where the above can’t or shouldn’t apply.

Curmudgeon · Accepted Answer

bad idea. The WHOLE POINT of marriage was so there would be a defined father for the children, who also were supposed to be his. Sure step-parenting situations occurred even without divorce (widows and orphans), but the whole point was to have a defined male and female parent.

mono_gram · Accepted Answer

I feel like recently I've seen a lot more celebrities or people on the internet get pregnant out of wedlock now than in the past. Personally, I'm against it. Pregnancy is not something that should be thought of lightly—it's a big/serious process and part of a woman's life. I wouldn't want to be pregnant with just any man's child, but rather with someone that I truly like, trust, and would want to call family/start a family with because the worst case is that the baby daddy could just disappear or ghost me and leave me fully responsible for the baby (and no one wants that).

Ideally, I would want to be married for a few years and settle in together/get comfortable in the marriage before having kids.

DishLady · Accepted Answer

I think… it happens. If you don't want it to happen, take your precautions and stay safe. Some folks can be fanatics about this sort of thing, but as long as the child is coming from a place of love — from two people who love each other — that's the important thing. Not everyone has that…

LaFemmeFatale_1 · Answer

I don’t care. Why would I care what someone else wants to do with her life?  As for me, If I wanted a child, I’d pick a sexy daddy for him. And I’d not necessarily care about marriage.

Tonita91996 · Answer

Regardless what people say what is already done can not be changed like if you already have kids out of wedlock there is no need worrying about other people's opinions. I think if people are going to be judgmental they need to get a life if it is not effecting them then don't worry about what they have to say. I don't have any kids at all so the people who are critical need to watch out because it could be them. I don't say stuff about anything that I was not involved in and I don't know what happened and the circumstances on how it happened besides they have sex to make a baby and that's none of my business.

Little_Bumblebee · Answer

My mom was pregnant and had my brother, before she married my dad.

My brother's now wife was pregnant with their first kid before they got married.

My childhood friend has a 3-4 year old kid with her boyfriend without being married.

All of these couples are still together.

noemiii · Answer

Honestly who cares. Marriage doesn’t keep the relationship and neither does not being married. But to be fair, if I’m with someone long enough to have a kid, it’s about time to get married soon or already be married because kids for me within a relationship comes YEARS after. Too many people getting pregnant within 6 months to a year.

Miristheiss · Answer

Bad for the child, bad for society. I am married with 2 kids. We are a family unit.

Look at all the stats of the issues kids from single parent homes have. If you care about the well being of children and of the society you live in then you should support kids being raised in families and not single parent homes.

genericname85 · Answer

i think it's stupid for the woman who does that. because marriage is THE social security system that protects women from being fucked over by a run away man who made them pregnant. so why would you get pregnant "intentionally" without being married?`if it's an accident, that's irresponsible. i understand humans make mistakes and mistakes happen. but i think it would not be mean or offensive to anyone to acknowledge that this isn't the right thing to do.

KostasKouvalis · Answer

I mean, accidents happened but you should definitely get married before you have the kid.

I was watching this TV show once and the parents said, "We have a 4 year old son and he keeps asking us when we're gonna get married"

I was thinking, "What the fuck? That is so wrong, and why would you admit that on national television?"

IronLady6354 · Answer

I got pregnant without being married. However, I also was engaged, and knew we were going to get married.  The kids were also born after we'd gotten married

Goahead76 · Answer

Sad, horrible, heartbreaking.

Think of how many times that child will have to try to process the question of "where's my dad... why is he never here?". Reaching the conclusion at some point, "because he doesn't care about me..".
Not realizing this was all set up by their mother.

IslaTheWitch · Answer

my two older kids are from a relationship without a marriage... not a problem. At least not for kids, their father, or me :D

Berethor · Answer

It was less common before the sexual revolution, children are more important marriage.

PeachyPie93 · Answer

I never wanted that, but considering how people are now days, that is probably the only way I will have kids so I will just make sure the dad is good looking and his family has no ailments lol.

desidoll · Answer

I am against it. While it doesn’t make difference to some women, the exception to this case is very low. I have seen too many women fucked up, struggling as a single mum without child support.

Apple1996 · Answer

It makes no difference. I've done both. Only thing is the dad has to admit paternity to be on the birth certificate if the couple isn't married.

BarryLiverstone · Answer

Think while many don’t plan on this to happen, that many babies are made by accident or when not planned.

Pillubi · Answer

Depends on the factors. Not totally in favour and neither extremely against. I need to know the exact situation before making a judgement.

AmyHew1tt · Answer

Nothing wrong with it. My parents aren't married, and they're more solid together than any legally bound people I know.

JacobJordan · Answer

I would say if you know you are going to be with that person forever the marriage becomes less important as it is really just a party and you don't need it.

exitseven · Answer

if you can financially support a child I guess it is a personal choice. If it is just a way to get more welfare benefits it is a horrible trick to play on a little kid.

KittygosMeoWW · Answer

Although it’s not ideal for my beliefs, I am a single mother who’s never been married. Of course, if you have a great partner, it doesn’t matter whether you’re married or not it makes all the difference.

HelpfulWoman · Answer

fine. it's not like marriage is a binding contract that makes it worth it XD

JustinTheGreat · Answer

I think nowadays it doesn’t really matter. People have kids without getting married all the time

HappyWoman34 · Answer

It’s a tough road, being a single mum. A road I wouldn’t take.

dustybiker2 · Answer

You have sex it can happen. Don't want to get pregnant don't risk birth control or condoms failing.

Chazmatazz269 · Answer

I’m generally against it, with so little information.

CrabCakes11 · Answer

It’s fine. A piece of paper doesn’t determine whether you should have a baby or not

Sirius1 · Answer

I always think it’s one of those choices you’ll end up regretting and it usually ends up hurting the kids most of all.

XHopelessRomanticX · Answer

No ring, no baby.

Bklynbadboy12 · Answer

I'm against it to but that seems to be the norm now a days. It seems like marriage is a dying institution

Jennz6 · Answer

Good idea for me because guys are not interested in a slut like me

OtterMan68 · Answer

Depends on whether or not the women can afford to raise the child on her own

art84 · Answer

My brother and his ex girlfriend were pregnant and they eventually married.

jack1924 · Answer

You mean a single mom or two people having a baby within marriage?

MasterKS · Answer

Pregnancy is choice no link with marriage, if you are capable to raise the baby and deal with society why need to get married?

electromagnetic · Answer

Do whatever you want in life.

supercutebutt · Answer

Do you think a single lady should abort?

BCRanger10 · Answer

I am against it.

avery58 · Answer

Not a good idea in my opinion

LaurenM1997 · Answer

I think it’s fine

Kelly6 · Answer

@babygirl_s i am totally ok with it

Lenabfine · Answer

It does not matter

DonFredoCorleone · Answer

I think it's not a good thing, it's immoral.

TallAnon · Answer

Marriage is not important to me

LEGENDARY4200 · Answer

It happens gotta make the best of it

IWILLPLEASEYOU · Answer

SHE HAD SOME HELP GETTING PREGNANT.

jjj101010 · Answer

I think it’s not the 1700s anymore

SeriouslyNotSerious · Answer

Not for me.

eagle1951 · Answer

hey its up to you

laly520 · Answer

I am against it too

Agape93 · Answer

Gross

sheikalana · Answer

Risky.

dudeinohio · Answer

Me too

mayurr · Answer

Against it.

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